fabio10 Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Hey all have been abit quiet on here of late mostly because I think Im about 80% there, NC is critical to get your mind thinking without so much emotion, I was a long time nc with the girl who was mad enough to dump me ! She tried contacting alot and I ignored her up untill 2weeks ago I felt I had reached a place and a frame of mind that I would be able to talk to her no matter how cold or fake she was to me. We texted I know not the most mature forms of communication but you know what it was worth it, I did not find myself hanging on her every word or counting down the time till I get the reply, I was witty, polite and sometimes cocky sure she tried to get info out of me I gave her tasters nothing big just like she did to me post break up. Im going to travel for a year starting in the new year and she asked could she visit me and my family before I go I said sure, you know the turning point for me in all of this is, look deeply at yourself and your life and get a grip on your self-worth. I blamed myself for the break up thinking maybe I'd changed from when we first fell in love but you know what I didnt, she did...the honeymoon phase was starting to end and her true immature self was starting to appear. I know 100% that she will find no one like me in her lifetime if she started seeing a new man tomorrow it would not bother me cause he aint me, that might sound cocky but its the truth she will find nothing like what we had , sure she will love again but it wont be the same we were best friends for 4years prior to getting together sure I deeply care for her and always will but you know what Im think I love myself more thanks for reading !
strength-abounds Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Fabio. Isn't there great pleasure in truly knowing that you were the best SO your ex has had or will ever have? I feel and understand your joy. Keep it going.
youngskywalker Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 I've felt the same way. You're a good man. Let the loss fall on her and move on. Cheers.
Fern Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Yay! Love posts like this. I feel like I'm getting there too. I think I'm about 60% over it. All of a sudden. Last week I'd have said 30%! Good luck and thanks for sharing!
Author fabio10 Posted December 7, 2010 Author Posted December 7, 2010 Thanks guys it does really get better , I know if I read my post there afew months ago when I was in the darkplace of ego burn I would have not blinked an eye at it. But just make sure you always have something to look forward to, exercise, spend time with friends and do something that you would never normally do, like for me I've done afew skydives and now Im going traveling all on impluse ! Dont blame yourself we are all human so what if you were too nice and too available or too needy when you broke up the bottom line is its their problem not ours, let them go and dance and frolic in those soooo greener fields because it is their loss not ours always be true to yourself and love yourself more than anyone else !
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