alexlakeman Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Fk it, I'm giving in.. I like to go to happy hour / a bar, etc on a first date, that way we have a drink, relax.. but I am going to do the coffee shop / startbuck's routing on my forthcoming first dates; too many of them and I just can't afford $30-$40 multiple first dates through the end of this year Ladies, would that be ok with you? Specifically ladies in the 30-40 bracket.. Thanks
sb129 Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 I would prefer an independent cafe for coffee rather than a starbucks..... starbucks is kind of like mcdonalds. A cafe for coffee for a first date would be totally fine though.... as long as you didn't mind if I ate cake
Titania22 Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 I prefer starbucks to the other coffee chains. So yeah it would be cool. However if a guy inviting to a Gloria Jeans, I just couldn't do it.
nsearch4u Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 take a mint. coffee breath isnt as forgiving as vodka breath. if you're in a bar, your breath is expected to smell like what you're drinking. coffee breath can wreak though......
DollWelch Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 I just can't afford $30-$40 multiple first dates through the end of this year . Who said you have to spend $30-$40 on a first date? Coffee and a stroll through the park or around the city shouldn't cost you that much. Relax. Genuine, non-gold-digger women will appreciate an inexpensive date -and you!
JaneDoe35 Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 I am 35. Coffee date sounds fine. Don't feel you have to spend too much on a first meeting. If it were me I would probably pay for my own coffee and yours too!
zengirl Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Fk it, I'm giving in.. I like to go to happy hour / a bar, etc on a first date, that way we have a drink, relax.. but I am going to do the coffee shop / startbuck's routing on my forthcoming first dates; too many of them and I just can't afford $30-$40 multiple first dates through the end of this year Ladies, would that be ok with you? Specifically ladies in the 30-40 bracket.. Thanks While the attitude -- "I'm going out with too many women, and I don't want to spend much money" -- is a turnoff, I've no issue with "coffee meets" and prefer them for first meets. It's different if dating someone you've known socially previously, maybe. My boyfriend and I still go to a local independent coffee house to sit and read together. Starbucks might bother me, if there were independent options in the city. But one of my big things is trying to eat at/shop at local businesses, rather than chains. I understand that every place has a different scene, though.
Author alexlakeman Posted December 7, 2010 Author Posted December 7, 2010 While the attitude -- "I'm going out with too many women, and I don't want to spend much money" -- is a turnoff, I've no issue with "coffee meets" and prefer them for first meets. It's different if dating someone you've known socially previously, maybe. My boyfriend and I still go to a local independent coffee house to sit and read together. Starbucks might bother me, if there were independent options in the city. But one of my big things is trying to eat at/shop at local businesses, rather than chains. I understand that every place has a different scene, though. No, don't take it that way, it's not like I have them lineing up ... But.. Let's call them candidates... candidate 1 - we've gone out three times, so the starbucks route is a no go..candidate 2 - we talked on the phone this wknd, so I can do the starbucks..candidate 3 and 4 - we've texted back and fourth yesterday and I have to call them today... So, that's 4 x $12 for starbucks?? = $50ish, much better than 4 x $40 at happy hour = $160.. I am not a coffee person, so Starbuck's is all you hear about down here..
BobSacamento Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 Starbucks is fine for a first date. Really you're trying to find out if they are a total psycho freak or not. If not, then you can try to impress her with the yuppie cafe route.
Crazy Magnet Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 How are you getting a $40 happy hour tab? One drink and split! Coffee sounds fine. I, like others, prefer local coffee chains. I actually hate coffee so I go for hot chocolate or tea. I'm on the young end of your age bracket.
Seamless74 Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 I respect the whole i only do independent place thing and the whole support you local band stuff whatever.... But Starbucks has the best coffee period. only thing ive always wondered about the coffee date thing is what time is best to go?? to early seems weird but im not trying to drink my morning coffee at noon u know? and im not trying to stay up all night either..
zengirl Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 I respect the whole i only do independent place thing and the whole support you local band stuff whatever.... But Starbucks has the best coffee period. only thing ive always wondered about the coffee date thing is what time is best to go?? to early seems weird but im not trying to drink my morning coffee at noon u know? and im not trying to stay up all night either.. You apparently have had a very limited amount of coffee. Some of the fair trade places are amazing. They blow Starbucks out of the water (though much of Starbucks is fair trade too and it's by far the best chain coffee and consistent worldwide, as I've had it on 3 continents). Of course, that's not true in every city.
SmileFace Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 I respect the whole i only do independent place thing and the whole support you local band stuff whatever.... But Starbucks has the best coffee period. only thing ive always wondered about the coffee date thing is what time is best to go?? to early seems weird but im not trying to drink my morning coffee at noon u know? and im not trying to stay up all night either.. Eww, dude Starbucks coffee is gross. Might as well take her to Mcdonalds - they have any coffee 99 cents . lol I am just kidding. Anyway this is what you do. You find three favorite places that sell coffee. Anything like the 3 listed below- Barnes and Noble Independent Coffee Shop Starbucks Small Bakery A Dive Ok so you have three in mind. Now think of each girl . Now think of the place that fits her best. Business women - Starbucks Artsy chick - Independent Cafe Foodie - Small Bakery Then keep rotating. You don't to run into nobody. Don't let her choose that is all you . Good luck :-)
Seamless74 Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 You apparently have had a very limited amount of coffee yeah totally (jittering as a write this) Only had lie 3 or 4 cups today!!! hey i dont live in Seattle alright or some overly hip metropolitan area but every independent ive went to who had the better overpriced coffee.. wasnt even close.. But your right maybe somewhere somplace......
zengirl Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 yeah totally (jittering as a write this) Only had lie 3 or 4 cups today!!! hey i dont live in Seattle alright or some overly hip metropolitan area but every independent ive went to who had the better overpriced coffee.. wasnt even close.. But your right maybe somewhere somplace...... Sorry if I was unclear, I meant a limited amount of varieties. Not coffee in general. I don't live in Seattle either. . . not sure what's overly hip, but I wouldn't live anywhere that wasn't metro and I stick close to "downtown" so maybe.
Art_Critic Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 Starbucks/Coffee date is okay... Isn't it supposed to be all about getting to know someone.. and Starbucks or a Good Coffee shop you can do just that...sit down and talk By the way.. They have a Peppermint Brownie this time of year that is to die for... I had one last night in fact
Seamless74 Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 They have a Peppermint Brownie this time of year that is to die for... I had one last night in fact Totally wooohooo!! and tell me im not the only one lovin those pumpkin spice lattes Starbucks rocks!!!! take that ZENGIRL...... jk
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