How much does it mean to a girl if you give her a Christmas present?

[Kain Highwind]

I love this girl and I asked her out, but I just waited too long. She's with someone else right now and I asked her out the day after she went on a date with him and we quit talking for about two months afterwards

 

She's done a lot for me. She gave me a birthday present last week (even though my birthday was three months ago), started to teach me to paint before we quit talking, and she's been painting me a painting since like July and she's still working on it. In return, I haven't done anything

 

I just bought her a book on landscape painting. She loves painting and that's her favorite type. She's always wanted to learn to paint them and it'll teach her how

 

I see them breaking up really soon and even though I didn't buy this to help my chances (I did it because I feel bad), is there a chance that it possibly may?

 

I spent like two hours at the book store looking for something for her >_>

[Surrealist]

It's certainly possible, but just don't pin all your hopes on it.

[loverofloveandstuff]

Why did she give you a birthday present if your birthday was 3 months ago?

 

As for the present, that sounds really nice and thoughtful. I'm sure she'll appreciate it. But if you didn't buy it to help your chances, why are you asking if it will help your chances? Anyways, no. Atleast for me, buying me a present would not make me more interested in a guy.

[Kain Highwind]

Why did she give you a birthday present if your birthday was 3 months ago?

 

As for the present, that sounds really nice and thoughtful. I'm sure she'll appreciate it. But if you didn't buy it to help your chances, why are you asking if it will help your chances? Anyways, no. Atleast for me, buying me a present would not make me more interested in a guy.

She's had it since my birthday but she never gave it to me. She wante dto give it to me with a painting she's doing for me but the painting's taken longer than she thought

 

Just an afterthought

[Grobyc]

I don't believe it would help chances with most girls. But for me, its a different story.

 

My girl told me I didn't have to get her anything for christmas. She's getting me something. So what do I do. I empty out my change bowl and scrap together enough cash to get her something. Its not about feeling obligated. I just want to.

 

I don't ever have money to get people gifts for birthdays or anything because im a jobless college student.

 

Don't give someone a present because it means something to them, give them a gift because you want to. If you don't want to, then don't. because it would be meaningless. I see you want to, buying a gift because you feel bad is weird to me.

 

Get it for her because you like her! I know you want to give her that gift as much as i want to give my girl her gift Do it just because you want to.

 

I like giving people gifts, so this is actually something I'm incredibly excited about. I havent been able to give someone a gift in a long time, so I will probably let her open it early because I won't be able to wait.

Edited December 6, 2010 by Grobyc

[Kain Highwind]

I don't believe it would help chances with most girls. But for me, its a different story.

 

My girl told me I didn't have to get her anything for christmas. She's getting me something. So what do I do. I empty out my change bowl and scrap together enough cash to get her something. Its not about feeling obligated. I just want to.

 

I don't ever have money to get people gifts for birthdays or anything because im a jobless college student.

 

Don't give someone a present because it means something to them, give them a gift because you want to. If you don't want to, then don't. because it would be meaningless. I see you want to, buying a gift because you feel bad is weird to me.

 

Get it for her because you like her! I know you want to give her that gift as much as i want to give my girl her gift Do it just because you want to.

 

I like giving people gifts, so this is actually something I'm incredibly excited about. I havent been able to give someone a gift in a long time, so I will probably let her open it early because I won't be able to wait.

Yeah, I'm really excited about giving it to her

[Kain Highwind]

And I got a card for her too (since she got one for me) and I just can't think of what to write in it...

[O'Malley]

She's with someone else right now and I asked her out the day after she went on a date with him and we quit talking for about two months afterwards

 

Why did you stop talking with each other? Who re-initiated contact?

 

I see them breaking up really soon and even though I didn't buy this to help my chances (I did it because I feel bad), is there a chance that it possibly may?

She already knows that you have feelings for her; the present will only reinforce that. However, it will not change her current feelings for you. Even if she went on a date with the other guy, that doesn't mean she couldn't have went on a date with you as well, if she was truly interested.

 

When and if she breaks up, then there's no problem with flirting with her and asking her out. Anything other than a 'yes' means she's not interested. As for right now, you shouldn't focus completely on her.

[Kain Highwind]

Why did you stop talking with each other? Who re-initiated contact?

 

She already knows that you have feelings for her; the present will only reinforce that. However, it will not change her current feelings for you. Even if she went on a date with the other guy, that doesn't mean she couldn't have went on a date with you as well, if she was truly interested.

 

When and if she breaks up, then there's no problem with flirting with her and asking her out. Anything other than a 'yes' means she's not interested. As for right now, you shouldn't focus completely on her.

We stopped talking because I asked her out on a date the day after she went on one with him. She got mad (even though she apologized the next day) but said that we should spend some alone time

 

And she did. We weren't talking for like two months and then we ran into each other on the way to our classes a few times. She's the one who asked to meet up after those (to give me a three month late birthday present (which came with a really pretty card with roses on it)). She said we're cool again

 

She's one of those really loyal types. She's been cheated on before and she hates going on even dates with more than one person.

 

And I know I can't tell for sure but I seriously think they'll split up soon. They've been friends for YEARS (something I've never seen work out and I know alot of people that got together like that), he asked her out the first time he saw her in like a year (may be wrong but the whole thing to me just sounds like its based off of friends that haven't seen each other in a long time), and he's big into sex and she's not (religious)

 

...And my friend said that he had a kid with another girl, got engaged, and then dumped her (Friend had a crush on the girl and said that he got to her first)

Edited December 6, 2010 by Kain Highwind

[O'Malley]

We stopped talking because I asked her out on a date the day after she went on one with him. She got mad (even though she apologized the next day) but said that we should spend some alone time

 

It's simple enough to say, "Sorry, I'm seeing someone else," and move on from the awkwardness, rather than becoming angry about it.

 

Regardless, don't put the cart before the horse here. She may not necessarily be interested in dating you, but might just enjoy the attention that you provide. Nothing wrong with chatting in public, but no flirting, no spending time alone until she's single.

 

If she's still involved, but makes it clear that she wants to spend time alone with you, let her know that you'd like to spend more time with her, when she is single. You want to be more than friends and she is more than aware of this. Otherwise, you're just being strung along.

[Kain Highwind]

It's simple enough to say, "Sorry, I'm seeing someone else," and move on from the awkwardness, rather than becoming angry about it.

 

Regardless, don't put the cart before the horse here. She may not necessarily be interested in dating you, but might just enjoy the attention that you provide. Nothing wrong with chatting in public, but no flirting, no spending time alone until she's single.

 

If she's still involved, but makes it clear that she wants to spend time alone with you, let her know that you'd like to spend more time with her, when she is single. You want to be more than friends and she is more than aware of this. Otherwise, you're just being strung along.

Well... It was sort of my fault. She mentioned that she went on a date and then I asked her anyway

 

And should I give her this present? I was gonna like call her/text her and ask if she can meet me after classs.

 

And I was gonna write in the card how we should catch up... Would that be a bad idea? I mean, she's happy to see me again. A few days ago when I went to my night class, I parked a few cars away from her (she had to go to the store in the school. She's normally not there), it took me a minute or so to get out, and when I did, I looked over and she was just staring at the car and when she saw me, she ran to me. She's put what happened behind her. I know that much

[Kain Highwind]

And what should I write in this card >_>