christt Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 This started 5 1/2 years ago...a long time I know. My closest guy friend in High School told me to cared for me more than a friend...I cared for him too, but after much thought I told him I didn't. Why did I do that? Well because it was after our High school graduation and we were both moving away from our home town, to different parts of the country. I had never dated anyone and I didn't want my first relationship to be with someone who has miles away. Plus there's always the fear of a first relationship... Anyway we remained close friends that summer..then we said our good byes. We tried remaining close during our freshman year...but gradually grew apart. We still kept in contact however...and by the end of freshman year, the regrets started to creep into my mind. Sophomore year he started dating someone at his college, and I was extremely happy for him...but still thought about him. Then my world went helta scelta with some family problems...and I thought about him only occasionally for the following 2 1/2 years....We graduated college...talking maybe once every 2 months...never on the phone...we haven't spoken to eachother since our freshman year of college. Then the family problem I was having was resolved in a depressing way...which he was there texting me to console me... About a month after the family resolution (I was in grad school by then) he started appearing in my every waking and sleeping thought. That was a year ago...and he's still there...I think about him all the time...and even dream about him....and in a way its annoying me, because I don't know what to do about it... Since the dreams and thoughts started becoming more intense I started texting him more...but I don't want to be a stalker... I just want to know why he's haunting me... I have yet to mention to him about my thoughts....or that he's constant;y on my mind...and I don't think I ever will...I just need advice on how to get him out of my head. I am really happy with my life right now...and I do not want any upheavals to make things chaotic. We still live in different states...and have everything going against us...plus there is no way he's thinking about me too....so why am I thinking about him?
samantha_123 Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 This started 5 1/2 years ago...a long time I know. My closest guy friend in High School told me to cared for me more than a friend...I cared for him too, but after much thought I told him I didn't. Why did I do that? Well because it was after our High school graduation and we were both moving away from our home town, to different parts of the country. I had never dated anyone and I didn't want my first relationship to be with someone who has miles away. Plus there's always the fear of a first relationship... Anyway we remained close friends that summer..then we said our good byes. We tried remaining close during our freshman year...but gradually grew apart. We still kept in contact however...and by the end of freshman year, the regrets started to creep into my mind. Sophomore year he started dating someone at his college, and I was extremely happy for him...but still thought about him. Then my world went helta scelta with some family problems...and I thought about him only occasionally for the following 2 1/2 years....We graduated college...talking maybe once every 2 months...never on the phone...we haven't spoken to eachother since our freshman year of college. Then the family problem I was having was resolved in a depressing way...which he was there texting me to console me... About a month after the family resolution (I was in grad school by then) he started appearing in my every waking and sleeping thought. That was a year ago...and he's still there...I think about him all the time...and even dream about him....and in a way its annoying me, because I don't know what to do about it... Since the dreams and thoughts started becoming more intense I started texting him more...but I don't want to be a stalker... I just want to know why he's haunting me... I have yet to mention to him about my thoughts....or that he's constant;y on my mind...and I don't think I ever will...I just need advice on how to get him out of my head. I am really happy with my life right now...and I do not want any upheavals to make things chaotic. We still live in different states...and have everything going against us...plus there is no way he's thinking about me too....so why am I thinking about him? I think you made the right choice for youself . That’s the smartest thing you could have done you put yourself and your properties first. A long distanced relationship would have not worked out. You would have to been worried about if hes cheating on you , if hes talking to other girls ect. And cause extra heartache for yourself why do that to you self? Of course hes going to see other people he wants the same thing in life like you do companionship etc… The reason why you cant stop thinking about him is because it’s the unknown what could have happened between you guys … Would he have been the one? The love of my life? Its all of the possibilities of what could have been… We all go threw that and wonder about the people who we liked and rejected would could have been?
DuskCrush Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 I don't know what the family situation was but I think your attachment to him stems from that family trauma...maybe you focus on him because you don't want to think about other stuff. if you've been thinking about him non-stop then something seems a bit wrong...sounds like you needs some therapy or some anxiety medication or something.
Author christt Posted December 9, 2010 Author Posted December 9, 2010 I don't know what the family situation was but I think your attachment to him stems from that family trauma...maybe you focus on him because you don't want to think about other stuff. if you've been thinking about him non-stop then something seems a bit wrong...sounds like you needs some therapy or some anxiety medication or something. I wish that were the case....but no nothing is wrong with me...and I don't need any medication or anything....its more of a haunting than anything else
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