Do Women Find Men That Want To Learn To Dance Appealing?

[tlind]

Hello, so I've been recently contemplating taking dance lessons for two reasons.

 

1) Learn to dance

 

2) Meet women

 

I just want to learn the basics like, the waltz, tango, maybe some swing, that way I'd know what to do at weddings. Obviously I'd like to be able to dance like Usher, but I just don't think they teach that stuff.

 

Ladies, do you generally find single men that are willing to learn how to dance appealing when it comes to the world of dating?

[ColdFox]

I have never seen a class called "Learn to Dance Like Usher" but you can take classes in all kinds of dance, including hip hop and breakdancing and krunk, if that's what you really want.

 

I actually teach dance and my classes are mostly women, gay men, or couples, but the single women are always sighing about how they wish more straight guys were into dancing. The single straight guys who have taken my classes usually ended up with at least one girl there interested in them, if they were normal. There are somtimes obvious lechers and pervs who take dance classes just to rub on girls, don't be one of those guys.

[tlind]

I have never seen a class called "Learn to Dance Like Usher" but you can take classes in all kinds of dance, including hip hop and breakdancing and krunk, if that's what you really want.

 

I actually teach dance and my classes are mostly women, gay men, or couples, but the single women are always sighing about how they wish more straight guys were into dancing. The single straight guys who have taken my classes usually ended up with at least one girl there interested in them, if they were normal. There are somtimes obvious lechers and pervs who take dance classes just to rub on girls, don't be one of those guys.

 

Thank you for your response. What I meant was being able to dance as "good" as Usher. I am most definitely not one of the guys who are in the bolded out text. I just want to learn how to dance so I can be more confident dancing at weddings or parties. Plus, I think that it would be a great place to meet single women. I assume that it is just a good place for people to meet new people in general.

 

Do most dance studios have dance parties at the end of the week, where students of the studio are invited to mingle with other students or is that just select places?

[ColdFox]

My studio offers something like that at the end of each "semester" when the classes are coming to an end, but I don't know of anyplace that does that every week.

 

I think you should go for it. Guys who can dance are in short supply, and a lot of women really love to dance. Even if you don't meet anyone it's good exercise and a new skill, win-win. Start with ballroom basics or something similar and if you like it, you should also try to master the tango. The tango is one of the sexiest dances in the world.

[loverofloveandstuff]

Ladies, do you generally find single men that are willing to learn how to dance appealing when it comes to the world of dating?

 

Taking dance lessons would definitely not elevate my interest in a guy. Good place to meet women though.

[tlind]

I've always wanted to dance the tango in Buenos Ares....oh that would just be amazing! That is one dance I do want to master.

 

I know I'd enjoy it and ballroom is the dance style that I want to go for. I am gonna go for it! I just have to find a studio now!

[Futuregirl]

Yea it's hot.

I like it when a guy will dance and shows interest in learning.

Even bad dancing is better than no dancing imo.. at the worst it's brave, fun, and cute.

 

Good dancing is another story.. hot, hot, hot.

[tlind]

Yea it's hot.

I like it when a guy will dance and shows interest in learning.

Even bad dancing is better than no dancing imo.. at the worst it's brave, fun, and cute.

 

Good dancing is another story.. hot, hot, hot.

 

Yeah I know. I gotta start somewhere though. But I do want to get good at dancing.

 

This may be a myth, but isn't dancing somehow related to the bedroom as well?

[Titania22]

I love seeing guys dance. Whether its awesome or lame it's still entertaining. Being awesome is obviously more attractive then being lame. But one way or another it shows guts to dance like you don't care who's watching.

[U1987]

Taking dance lessons would definitely not elevate my interest in a guy. Good place to meet women though.

 

I dunno. I went to 2 dance classes once (one in a private studio, one at my university) They were full of guys who had heard that dance classes "are a good place to meet women" The result? There were more guys than girls.

 

Guys had to actually take turns sitting on the side and alternating girls; really slowed things down a lot.

[ColdFox]

This may be a myth, but isn't dancing somehow related to the bedroom as well?

 

Well, a good dancer is an athlete, with a lot of stamina and flexibility, and good rhythm. And dances like the tango teach you to handle a partner gently but commandingly, a lot of women like that. Dancing can be very sexy. But it's not like bad dancers can't be really good in bed, too. It's not a direct translation.

[KraftDinner]

In answer to the original question... not particularly. There are a few exceptions -- Usher and JT are hot when they dance. With most dance styles though, I don't find it sexy when men dance.

 

I love watching male ballet dancers but I do NOT find them sexy (particularly knowing that most of them are gay). Latin dancing is so cool to watch but I definitely don't find the male dancers sexy at all. Ballroom dancers are a turn-off to me. I don't know why.

[tlind]

Thank you everyone for your honest answers.

 

I've been looking into studios around my area and one that really sticks out at me is: Arthur Murray Dance Studio.

 

They have an introductory program that costs $351 (25% off from the original price of $468).

 

It includes 4 private lessons (1 on 1 with the instructor while being taught), 2 group lessons (dance with other members of the school while being taught) and 2 practice sessions (end of week party "like" atmosphere where you can dance with other members of the school using what you've already learnt).

 

That's just under $44/lesson Canadian. That seems reasonable to me.

 

Gain a skill set, while meeting new and interesting people seems like a win-win scenario.

[runner]

i'm one of those guys who likes to dance, to the point of even going to swing dance events on my own. and yea, no shortage of ladies approaching me all night

 

just something to consider- for those single guys on here always complaining about never meeting women.

[Citizen Erased]

I find men that expect me to dance to be anything but appealing. I hate it. So no.

[Stung]

Personally, I am a mediocre dancer but I do like going dancing. I might feel self-conscious about dancing with a guy who was a really great dancer, but it would be fun if he could teach me the steps and laugh with me instead of at me. I traveled through Cuba and met a musician who was amused by my clumsy attempts at salsa but taught me some awesome moves while I was there and took me dancing in Old Havana several nights running, it was fantastic.

 

My husband is a pretty bad dancer, but he dances, and enthusiastically. He just doesn't give a crap what he looks like as long as he's having a good time, and I really admire that about him. We went out for live music and dancing on our very first real date and it was endearing as hell, plus very uninhibiting to just toss back a couple drinks and shake it on the dance floor even if we occasionally stepped on each other's feet. And I love it that he agreed to take a ballroom dancing class with me later this year once we find a good babysitter--not just because I want to, but because he thinks it will be fun, too.

[irc333]

I know of some women that are professional dancers, but have

boyfriends that are just sitting on the sidelines drinking and people

watching.

I have often wondered though, this would lead to her dancing with other mean, and then lead her to dumping the guy who doesn't even dance, but I could be wrong. LOL

 

Believe it or not, I also knew of a highly professional/competitive dancer

that when she went dancing on her first date, the guy she was with was pretty good, but...apparently he was missing a step here and there and this aggitated her, and created a buzzkill for the date.

Needless to say, there was no 2nd date, she was too critical of her dates dancing abilities.

 

 

 

 

Hello, so I've been recently contemplating taking dance lessons for two reasons.

 

1) Learn to dance

 

2) Meet women

 

I just want to learn the basics like, the waltz, tango, maybe some swing, that way I'd know what to do at weddings. Obviously I'd like to be able to dance like Usher, but I just don't think they teach that stuff.

 

Ladies, do you generally find single men that are willing to learn how to dance appealing when it comes to the world of dating?

[denise_xo]

I love men who love to dance. They don't have to be great at it or anything. I love the positive energy it projects. Depending on the type of dance it can be really masculine, too. I vote go for it.

[fishtaco]

Not every every woman like dancing. But I would say more women like dancing than don't. But I think this applies to partner social dancing only (swing, tango, salsa, and popular stuff like hip hop or whatever). The hard-core performance based dances, like ballet, lyrical dancing, maybe even flamenco, probably not as much general appeal. Basically, before considering anything else, the women have to like the music you're dancing to.

 

I'm involved in the local Latin dancing scene, I've done amateur performances and competitions. It's a different beast. While you do drastically increase your contact and interaction with women, it brings in a lot of complications. For one thing, it's difficult to decipher the difference between dance chemistry vs. real chemistry, making an already easy to misinterpret situation even easier to misinterpret.

 

Pretty much 80% of the women I get numbers from are from the scene, because I'm in it all the time. I actually put in an effort to try to meet women outside the scene, just to be more balanced, but I'm not sure how it's going to work out. Women from the outside don't understand. Chances are, if I get a girlfriend that's not interested in the scene, I'll have to quit it, which I don't want to, because it's an actual hobby of mine as opposed to just doing to get chicks. It's difficult even for people in the scene to accept their partners dancing bachata (dry hump each others legs) with someone for example. Hence people in the scene are chronically single, although they have plenty of contact with the opposite gender. Easy come, easy go I guess.

 

So yes, most women like men that can dance. But if you get too involved in a dance scene, which sort of comes hand-in-hand with becoming good at it, don't be surprised that it'll come with caveats. At the very least, you get to work on your social skills.

[tlind]

Not every every woman like dancing. But I would say more women like dancing than don't. But I think this applies to partner social dancing only (swing, tango, salsa, and popular stuff like hip hop or whatever). The hard-core performance based dances, like ballet, lyrical dancing, maybe even flamenco, probably not as much general appeal. Basically, before considering anything else, the women have to like the music you're dancing to.

 

I'm involved in the local Latin dancing scene, I've done amateur performances and competitions. It's a different beast. While you do drastically increase your contact and interaction with women, it brings in a lot of complications. For one thing, it's difficult to decipher the difference between dance chemistry vs. real chemistry, making an already easy to misinterpret situation even easier to misinterpret.

 

Pretty much 80% of the women I get numbers from are from the scene, because I'm in it all the time. I actually put in an effort to try to meet women outside the scene, just to be more balanced, but I'm not sure how it's going to work out. Women from the outside don't understand. Chances are, if I get a girlfriend that's not interested in the scene, I'll have to quit it, which I don't want to, because it's an actual hobby of mine as opposed to just doing to get chicks. It's difficult even for people in the scene to accept their partners dancing bachata (dry hump each others legs) with someone for example. Hence people in the scene are chronically single, although they have plenty of contact with the opposite gender. Easy come, easy go I guess.

 

So yes, most women like men that can dance. But if you get too involved in a dance scene, which sort of comes hand-in-hand with becoming good at it, don't be surprised that it'll come with caveats. At the very least, you get to work on your social skills.

 

I know that this would be an excellent way to meet women and improve my social skills with women (which is something I need to improve about myself), while actually using my time constructively by gaining a new skill set.

 

I'm not doing this in the "hopes" that I'm going to land a g/f. Obviously if that happened it would be an added bonus, and heck who knows maybe some of the women that are currently in a relationship would want to set me up with a single friend of theirs...but at the very least I'll improve my social skills and know how to dance. Maybe if I really enjoy the scene, I'll pursue it even further as well....and I really want to learn to dance the tango, just always wanted to learn this dance!

 

I'm going in with an open mind and just want to have fun and let loose, while not being so serious all the time.

[Feelin Frisky]

I love dancing. But it's got to be with someone who is into it too and into it with me. I like the eye contact, the pysical contact, the playfulness of it. It's not ghey to learn how. One is either ghey at it or not. I just hope to have good teachers. I took a class once at the Learning Annex in NYC and the teacher had me tripping myself. I don't think it was me because I tried other classes and dance comes pretty natural.

[fishtaco]

I'm not doing this in the "hopes" that I'm going to land a g/f. Obviously if that happened it would be an added bonus, and heck who knows maybe some of the women that are currently in a relationship would want to set me up with a single friend of theirs...but at the very least I'll improve my social skills and know how to dance. Maybe if I really enjoy the scene, I'll pursue it even further as well....and I really want to learn to dance the tango, just always wanted to learn this dance!

 

I'm going in with an open mind and just want to have fun and let loose, while not being so serious all the time.

 

I think it's a great hobby. But like I mentioned before, if you get in too deep, you'll end up like me. On one hand it'll help you, on the other it'll hold you back. Because now I will not be willing to give this up for a woman. And running around the club and dancing sexy with a different woman every 5 minutes generally isn't conducive to a LTR.

 

FYI, out of all the popular partner social dances, tango is the most difficult. Then followed by swing and salsa, those are about the same I think. Then the rest tend to be easier. But it will be rewarding if you feel an affinity toward tango, you just have to negotiate a steeper learning curve. I tried it, wasn't my thing, so I'm sticking with salsa. Good luck and have fun!

[tlind]

FYI, out of all the popular partner social dances, tango is the most difficult. Then followed by swing and salsa, those are about the same I think. Then the rest tend to be easier. But it will be rewarding if you feel an affinity toward tango, you just have to negotiate a steeper learning curve. I tried it, wasn't my thing, so I'm sticking with salsa. Good luck and have fun!

 

How long does it generally (everyone is different) take to master a dance (let's use the waltz and tango as examples), class wise?

[fishtaco]

How long does it generally (everyone is different) take to master a dance (let's use the waltz and tango as examples), class wise?

 

To master it, it will take you an entire lifetime. By learning curve I mean what it takes to get you good enough that you can go out and dance with random strangers.

 

It's different for different people. For me, it took one year of salsa classes before I had the confidence to go out and dance. But I only took classes once a week, and I didn't take any private lessons. Because at the time, I was just doing it out of curiosity, I didn't "want to" learn it like you are with tango. So I think your desire will make you improve faster than I did. My "jump" in terms of skills happened first when I got really interested, and then later when I had competitions/performances, because I'd practice a lot.

 

Waltz is ballroom, I don't really know it, but I believe it's easier to get "good enough" than tango. Maybe the poster that's a dance teacher can respond. Tango, as far as I know, since I don't dance it either, requires a lot of precision. There are no set "steps", so in case of mis-communication, your partner can't fall back on a common steps like with salsa or most of the other dances. So is ALL in your lead and how you control the woman. Being someone that has briefly tried it before, if you can do it... respect. Oh, I tried Argentine tango, I don't know anything about ballroom tango, that might be different.

 

Sorry if I wasn't more help, I'm not a dance teacher.

[tlind]

Sorry if I wasn't more help, I'm not a dance teacher.

 

No, you've been really helpful by sharing your own experience with how you got started to growing a passion for it.