durkadurka Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Riddle me this. I'm a 24 (nearly 25) year old guy, I've got a well paying job, hard working, athletic, and not to toot my own horn, I'm a pretty attractive guy. Since I hit the market again I've been more aware of what's going on around me. Something that has struck me is that a lot of the girls I know, between the ages of 20-27 are all dating men significantly older. I'm not talking 2-3 years, I get that, I'm talking about 7-10 years older, fellows in their 30s. It seems to defy standards, it's not that they have more money, or that they are more attractive. Quite the contrary, I've observed them to be uglier, and not necessarily over achievers. So I really don't get it. If they aren't more attractive, and they don't have money. Why the hell would they prefer to date men almost old enough to be their dad's. I just don't get it.
musemaj11 Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Young women want fatherly men who treat them like daddy's little princesses. Older men tend to be more dotting. Usually after they get past 25, they will start to be more mature and independent and stop to taking interest in daddy figure.
Surrealist Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Because older guys are, generally, more mature. 1
Author durkadurka Posted December 6, 2010 Author Posted December 6, 2010 Because older guys are, generally, more mature. The idea of dating someone old enough to be my parents is repugnant, regardless of how mature they are.
Surrealist Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 I'm not talking 2-3 years, I get that, I'm talking about 7-10 years older, fellows in their 30s. The idea of dating someone old enough to be my parents is repugnant, regardless of how mature they are. Hi Durkadurka Just wish to point out that a 7 to 10 year difference is not an age gap sufficient to be someone's biological parents. It is very seldom, if ever, that there have been 7 to 10 year old boys managing to get women pregnant.
hoping2heal Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Riddle me this. I'm a 24 (nearly 25) year old guy, I've got a well paying job, hard working, athletic, and not to toot my own horn, I'm a pretty attractive guy. Since I hit the market again I've been more aware of what's going on around me. Something that has struck me is that a lot of the girls I know, between the ages of 20-27 are all dating men significantly older. I'm not talking 2-3 years, I get that, I'm talking about 7-10 years older, fellows in their 30s. It seems to defy standards, it's not that they have more money, or that they are more attractive. Quite the contrary, I've observed them to be uglier, and not necessarily over achievers. So I really don't get it. If they aren't more attractive, and they don't have money. Why the hell would they prefer to date men almost old enough to be their dad's. I just don't get it. Well, it is likely no one fathered a child at 7 or 10. So, I would not go quite that extreme. My hunka hunka burning love is 9/10 years older than I am(depends on the month). He's cultured, has life experience that most early 20's men don't have that I've ever noticed, much more mature. I guess it's my prior experience with all the man-children I've known in their early 20's (Just Lucky, I guess ). He's very motivated and ambitious which is a turn on, as well. He is straight forward, knows what he wants, and knows how to treat a lady, and no - I don't mean with his wallet. He doesn't look like my daddy-o. He could pass for about 7 years younger than he is, easily. Damn sexy hunk
Author durkadurka Posted December 6, 2010 Author Posted December 6, 2010 Hi Durkadurka Just wish to point out that a 7 to 10 year difference is not an age gap sufficient to be someone's biological parents. It is very seldom, if ever, that there have been 7 to 10 year old boys managing to get women pregnant. What I mean is that it's getting awfully close. I know a couple of people that are 20 and dating guys that are 35. In that case, it works out. Why bother bringing semantics?
Surrealist Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 What I mean is that it's getting awfully close. I know a couple of people that are 20 and dating guys that are 35. In that case, it works out. Why bother bringing semantics? Durkadurka It's not semantics. You specified a 7 to 10 year age difference and then stated that you find the idea of dating someone old enough to be your parants repugnant. Now you have changed the goal posts to a 15 year difference, a 20 year old dating a 35 year old. Yeah it's close but that wasn't what you said originally. So I was commenting on the information you provided, not the updated information that changed after I made my comments.
Author durkadurka Posted December 6, 2010 Author Posted December 6, 2010 Durkadurka It's not semantics. You specified a 7 to 10 year age difference and then stated that you find the idea of dating someone old enough to be your parants repugnant. Now you have changed the goal posts to a 15 year difference, a 20 year old dating a 35 year old. Yeah it's close but that wasn't what you said originally. So I was commenting on the information you provided, not the updated information that changed after I made my comments. Oh for ****s sakes, see the little X in the top right corner of your screen? Do the world a favour and click it or get back to the original topic. If you want to debate semantics, go join one of your local political parties you can go bicker and debate bull **** all you want there.
Author durkadurka Posted December 6, 2010 Author Posted December 6, 2010 Well, it is likely no one fathered a child at 7 or 10. So, I would not go quite that extreme. My hunka hunka burning love is 9/10 years older than I am(depends on the month). He's cultured, has life experience that most early 20's men don't have that I've ever noticed, much more mature. I guess it's my prior experience with all the man-children I've known in their early 20's (Just Lucky, I guess ). He's very motivated and ambitious which is a turn on, as well. He is straight forward, knows what he wants, and knows how to treat a lady, and no - I don't mean with his wallet. He doesn't look like my daddy-o. He could pass for about 7 years younger than he is, easily. Damn sexy hunk Hm, intriguing. I'm just surprised that if this is the case more women don't date older men then.
Hopeful30 Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Maturity and experience. I have always dated men at least 10 years older than I am. The guy I am dating now is only 3 years older, and I have never had so many problems. Older men know what they want, know when they are ready, when they aren't. They know how to treat a woman, and they know what they want in a woman. If they don't appreciate the woman or don't want anything serious, they won't waste their time. And if they do, they will at least say it straight up so the girl knows what's going on. They aren't confused little boys who wear their hearts on their sleeve. And if they do, at least they know it and they know how to deal with their own problems. We don't have to babysit. We feel like WOMEN because we can be taken care of, and don't have to help with the growing up and learning processes.
Surrealist Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Oh for ****s sakes, see the little X in the top right corner of your screen? Do the world a favour and click it or get back to the original topic. If you want to debate semantics, go join one of your local political parties you can go bicker and debate bull **** all you want there. Excuse me? Did you swear? Are you having a temper tantrem? There is really no need to get all angry and offensive. People here are providing you with some great advice and information. Perhaps your attitude is the reason why you find women are forgoing relationships with you and instead going for older guys. I think you have made that very clear with your posts above to me and other respectable members of this site.
musemaj11 Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Maturity and experience. I have always dated men at least 10 years older than I am. The guy I am dating now is only 3 years older, and I have never had so many problems. Older men know what they want, know when they are ready, when they aren't. They know how to treat a woman, and they know what they want in a woman. If they don't appreciate the woman or don't want anything serious, they won't waste their time. And if they do, they will at least say it straight up so the girl knows what's going on. They aren't confused little boys who wear their hearts on their sleeve. And if they do, at least they know it and they know how to deal with their own problems. We don't have to babysit. We feel like WOMEN because we can be taken care of, and don't have to help with the growing up and learning processes. Yea those are basically the most common reasons. Women want older men because they want the man to babysit them, not the other way around. Women and young women especially want mature and experienced men because they want to be the immature and inexperienced ones but god forbids they have to put up with someone else's immaturity and inexperience. Just as I say in other threads, except few exceptions, women generally always want someone else to do their dirty work for them. They are inherently parasitic.
Author durkadurka Posted December 6, 2010 Author Posted December 6, 2010 (edited) Excuse me? Did you swear? Are you having a temper tantrem? There is really no need to get all angry and offensive. People here are providing you with some great advice and information. Perhaps your attitude is the reason why you find women are forgoing relationships with you and instead going for older guys. I think you have made that very clear with your posts above to me and other respectable members of this site. Well, right now I'm single out of choice. I take 5 classes and work 25 hours a week, as well as play three sports which leaves zero time for a relationships with friends much less anything more. It's why my last relationship fell apart. I'm young, but not young enough to be able to delay finishing my education, and I couldn't commit enough time to everything that was demanded of me, unfortunately. The reason why I've reacted so poorly is because you are not contributing, and I don't feel like I need to add anything more than that. If you want to discuss the topic at hand, rather than debate semantics, please, by all means. Edited December 6, 2010 by durkadurka
Author durkadurka Posted December 6, 2010 Author Posted December 6, 2010 Yea those are basically the most common reasons. Women want older men because they want the man to babysit them, not the other way around. Women and young women especially want mature and experienced men because they want to be the immature and inexperienced ones but god forbids they have to put up with someone else's immaturity and inexperience. Just as I say in other threads, except few exceptions, women generally always want someone else to do their dirty work for them. They are inherently parasitic. Exactly! God forbid these girls have to put up with someone who is learning and growing up at the same time as they are. No, instead, they want this mature man who has persevered through the storm, who can help these girls skip that phase of their life. Gosh, I feel sorry for older men sometimes. Of course, this is a generalization, but it's a shocking sense of entitlement these women have.
Surrealist Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Gosh, I feel sorry for older men sometimes. Of course, this is a generalization, but it's a shocking sense of entitlement these women have. No need to feel sorry for us older guys. I don't mind young women being attracted to me!
Author durkadurka Posted December 6, 2010 Author Posted December 6, 2010 No need to feel sorry for us older guys. I don't mind young women being attracted to me! I'm sure you don't mind at all.
musemaj11 Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 No need to feel sorry for us older guys. I don't mind young women being attracted to me! Haha, then go ahead take all these immature girls man! Just tell them you have a lot of candies at your place if you know what I mean. :laugh:
loverofloveandstuff Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 It works both ways. Older guys are often attracted to significantly younger women.
musemaj11 Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Exactly! God forbid these girls have to put up with someone who is learning and growing up at the same time as they are. No, instead, they want this mature man who has persevered through the storm, who can help these girls skip that phase of their life. Gosh, I feel sorry for older men sometimes. Of course, this is a generalization, but it's a shocking sense of entitlement these women have. Whats even more amazing is that these women are PROUD to be parasitic because they really dont feel like they are being parasitic.
Author durkadurka Posted December 6, 2010 Author Posted December 6, 2010 It works both ways. Older guys are often attracted to significantly younger women. Well I would too, I mean everything above the age of 30 has been smashed and beaten a few times. That being said, I have a mental aversion towards dating people that aren't within +/- 2 or 3 years of my age. Can't do it.
loverofloveandstuff Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Well I would too, I mean everything above the age of 30 has been smashed and beaten a few times. That being said, I have a mental aversion towards dating people that aren't within +/- 2 or 3 years of my age. Can't do it. I like significantly older guys so no judgement for the guys who like younger girls. Some of my girlfriends tell me I have "daddy issues" because of it but whatever. Might also be because there's a pretty large (11 years) age gap between my mum and dad. I have dated guys my own age and a year younger too so no issues really.
loverofloveandstuff Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Exactly! God forbid these girls have to put up with someone who is learning and growing up at the same time as they are. No, instead, they want this mature man who has persevered through the storm, who can help these girls skip that phase of their life. Gosh, I feel sorry for older men sometimes. Of course, this is a generalization, but it's a shocking sense of entitlement these women have. whaaa??? Relationships are mutual. Or atleast they should be. If a woman decides to date an older more mature man and he wants to date her I don't see what the problem is. I don't see how it has anything to do with entitlement.
sumdude Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Because they can. Then if they're single in their late 30's into their 40's then they'll go after the 25 year old men.. again because they can. Chill dude, hey there's a lot to be said for an older woman at your age. Some are still in great shape. Not so much BS when it comes to sex and often their sex drives are really high at that age. Plus if you're busy they might not need so much relationship-wise because they are too. Learn you a thing or two.
112233 Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 The oldest woman I'm dating is 16 years younger than I am, I don't see the issue as long as everyone is happy.
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