helovesmeyes Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 After many attempts at trying to get my ex back I am now done. I refuse to humiliate myself any further causing more pain than progress. It's been 8 months, and he still is undecided so this weekend I decided to make the descision for him. I have officially initiated no contact this weekend. I would love to have him back, but this is really for me to properly heal and move on with my life If he wants to come back he will, but it doesn't mean I have to sit around waiting with the door open. I don't know what clicked for me, but I just got really fed up and sick of catering to him so here I am day... 2 of no contact. I'll keep you posted!
Surfer203 Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Good for you - but you gave him too much time.. I gave my wife 1.5 months.. DONE! F*** it! Get on with your life and if he comes crawling back to you and you want to give him the time of day then the ball is in your court. Good luck!
AlisaMarie Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Wow! 8 months! I am glad something hit you! Way to long to be strung along! I did it for 5 months so I understand. I would have kept it going to but he was lying about this nasty girl he was hooking up with. DONE ewww. Keep posting and stay strong! 2 days is a great start! I am on day 10!
SimonSerenade Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Welcome to the breaking point, I got mine after 3 months of trying and being mr nice guy, Now I won't be in her life what so ever unless it mean's having another crack at the relationship, I feel I am healing and little by little and day by day I'm getting over her because I don't have to hear from her or see her face, I honestly believe I was the best thing for her and I honestly believe she will one day come back, I hope I'm ready to say no when that happens cause in truth if there's one thing I've realised, I need a sure thing in my life and that ain't her, I deserve more than to be just the back up plan should thing's not seem to merry in her life, I've been loyal this whole time, I haven't touched anybody since her and until I find myself knocking on love's door again, I don't intend to. I sincerely hope she will find happiness though, The only shame as far as my eye can see is that we had it made, A house, A beautiful child and though thing's weren't always perfect, A good loving relationship, It's just a shame that I was the only one with sense who saw that and thought it through whenever I was tempted to leave.
melenkurion Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 I was done after six weeks, I suppose. A combination of finding out for sure he had moved in with the Other Guy for a bit, and pretty crappy behaviour from my ex. Plus, I started to get my self-respect back a little bit. Why on earth would I want back someone who has lied and cheated for months? They deserve each other, I think.
Author helovesmeyes Posted December 7, 2010 Author Posted December 7, 2010 Thanks for replying guys! There is a little bit of an issue... We are pretty much still friends, and we would talk a few times a week, and see each other maybe once or twice a week, but it's still not what I wanted (hence the NC), I wanted a relationship, and he's just keeping me around for his comfort until he decides what to do. So I have stopped contacting, and catering to him of course he starts calling (many times). I initially don't answer then I pick up very nonchalantly, we chat for a minute then hang up. I plan to continue on this road of no contact however I won't completely ignore him because he WILL call and I don't want to upset him. I'm just moving on with my life and refuse to cater or really give a damn. I can honestly say now that I don't know what I want. Time to stand on our own two feet and stop feeding their egos! Will keep you posted!
Surfer203 Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 You hit the nail on the head. You can't wait for some one to make up their mind. It is only serving their needs and not yours. If some one does not care enough to make a decision in favor of some one who really cares and has patience for them then they don't deserve that in the first place.
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