Egychick Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 I wonder what is wrong with me. I am attracted to a guy who treats me like crap and has total disregard for me. At first he was kind a sweet to me and caring. He liked me and I liked him. But no matter how much he is mean to me, and he is a cheater by the way....has a gf...who he also cheats on....I still like him...I feel something for him, because my heart is broken since he confessed to me his truth. I still wait for him to pay me any kind of attention...but he doesn't....doesn't really look at me unless it is necessary. Why do I still like this jerk? He still talks about how much he loves this girl, and how hot other girls are that he sees on the street. But yet and still, I am still attracted to him. I guess I don't even know what it is like to be in a normal and good relationship. I seem to only attract and be attracted to jerks. WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME??!!!!
PandorasBox Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 My guess is, you have little respect for your self. If you had some self worth and respect you wouldn't allow a guy to treat you this way. You will need to break free from him completely or you will become just a empty shell of a person who is needy and dependent on another.
Am So 5crewed Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 Signs of a betrayal bonding include misplaced loyalty, inability to detach and self-destructive denial...Trust is restored when we learn to trust ourselves and build trust with others. There is no other way. Loyalty to that which does not work, or worse to a person who is toxic, exploitive, or destructive to you is a form of insanity. Betrayal. You can't explain it away any more. A Pattern exists. You know that now. You can no longer return to the way it was (which was never really as it seemed). That would be unbearable. But to move forward means certain pain. No escape. No in-between. Choices have to be made..the unusual ways you numb yourself will not work. The reality is too great, too relentless.
D-Lish Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 As PB said, It's quite clear you don't love or respect yourself. If you did, you'd never put up with being treated with such disrespect. If you don't respect yourself, how can you expect others to? It starts with you and it ends with you. The fact that this guy is a jerk is his problem, the fact that you allow someone to treat you poorly and still want to be around them is your problem. You are attracted to jerks because something inside of you is telling you that you don't deserve any better than that. Until you start believing in your own worth, and practicing what that means, you're going to keep repeating this pattern. Saying no to a pattern can be quite liberating, and it's a good first step. You're in control more than you believe yourself to be, you just have to take a stand.
skydiveaddict Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 I seem to only attract and be attracted to jerks. WHAT'S WRONG WITH ME??!!!! "Bad-boy" syndrome. Rest easy, most women are attracted to "jerks".
PandorasBox Posted December 10, 2010 Posted December 10, 2010 "Bad-boy" syndrome. Rest easy, most women are attracted to "jerks". Nah, I wouldn't say MOST. Sure there are SOME. And those are the ones who usually think so little of themselves.
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