louise08 Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 I have been seeing my boyfriend for about four months, he initated the relationship and does treat me well- He makes a huge effort with my family, takes me on nice dates and invites me to his family dinners etc. However alot of the time I feel like he is not even into me! He will always be ready to go home early, for example 9pm on a weekend but stays out with his mates till the early hours. He drops me off and sometimes 'cant be bothered' to come inside. He'll always end the phone conversation and cut off in text messages. We will be out and he'll be the first to leave, leaving me with my friends who are mostly couples. This is starting to hurt my feelings a fair bit, but at the same time I think I'm just comparing him to my previous relationship where I couldn't have any alone time I would literally have to kick him out! I don't know what to think of this- some friends assure me it's just his nature but others don't understand why he wouldnt want to spend that extra hour with his girlfriend- as I cant get enough of him I would like to think its a mutual feeling!
murah989 Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 From the little information I'm gathering here, it sounds like he's just tired. He initiates the relationship. He takes you on dates. He makes an effort to mesh with your family. He invites you to family dinners. You may not even be thinking about it, but when was the last time YOU took him out on a date. Perhaps he's feeling unappreciated and feels like the only time he's getting genuine attention is when he's with his pals. My advice: Take the initiative in making plans. One thing I always hated about my last relationship was I was always the one making plans and I'd have to "report" to my ex for approval. That **** gets old fast.
allina Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 What's his schedule like? Does he get up super early for work? He might just not be a night person. Do you even stay the night at his place? If so, what is he like during the evening? Have you asked him about this?
Author louise08 Posted December 6, 2010 Author Posted December 6, 2010 Murah - Actually it's almost even, at the beginning it was mostly him sure, but these days its pretty equal so I don't think he is feeling that way. Wish that was the problem in a way, because that is easy to fix:) Allina - He usually up by 8 for work, but when he has been out late he's always feeling good in the morning and he's made that clear a couple of times actually. When I've stayed over he's been fine and we've been up till late and he's never mentioned tiredness... Thanks for your responses!
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