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Hey everyone, quick question ... during the holidays, I've always either been in a relationship or single and not dating, so I've never had this problem. This woman and I have been talking for about three weeks now. We've been out a couple of times, but we're not really dating, just talking, getting to know each other, and taking things slowly. There's definitely a lot of chemistry between the two of us, but we've agreed to take things slow and see what happens. With the holidays coming up, I'm unsure of a gift to get her, or if I should get her anything at all. I'd like to get her something unique and different as opposed to a gift card or something like that, but at the same time, I don't want to go overboard with anything. She's 35, by the way. Any ideas?

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I personally won't buy a woman a gift unless she is my GF.

 

Just out of curiosity, who wanted to take things slow initially?

 

You or her?

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I personally won't buy a woman a gift unless she is my GF.

 

Just out of curiosity, who wanted to take things slow initially?

 

You or her?

 

It was mutual, actually.

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Hey everyone, quick question ... during the holidays, I've always either been in a relationship or single and not dating, so I've never had this problem. This woman and I have been talking for about three weeks now. We've been out a couple of times, but we're not really dating, just talking, getting to know each other, and taking things slowly. There's definitely a lot of chemistry between the two of us, but we've agreed to take things slow and see what happens. With the holidays coming up, I'm unsure of a gift to get her, or if I should get her anything at all. I'd like to get her something unique and different as opposed to a gift card or something like that, but at the same time, I don't want to go overboard with anything. She's 35, by the way. Any ideas?

 

Never buy stuff for girls you aren't dating.

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Never buy stuff for girls you aren't dating.

 

Just curious, why is that? What if she ends up getting me something and there I am, empty handed?

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If you want to get her something, do it. Relate it to something you two have discussed. Just a card is enough, I promise you, if it has the right message. Another idea is to get something that leads to a date, like a gift certificate to somewhere specific, or tickets to see something. What you don't want to do is get her a "thing."

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I was going to suggest a magazine subscription, but tickets to something is a great idea. My H got me that for our first Christmas together, we had only been together about six weeks then.

 

Event was the following JULY though, so he was pretty optimistic! ;)

 

Another thing is taking her out to dinner to her favourite restaurant.

 

I doubt she expects much of a gift from you if you are taking it slow.

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I was going to say something else but tickets to something is a FANTASTIC idea, it gets you the date and gives her something exciting to look forward to.

 

If you can't spend that much money maybe just some holiday cookies and a card, or a book about something you have talked about?

 

I don't agree that you shouldn't get her anything at all. I just started talking to a man more seriously, and dating him a little bit. I know it's awkward timing because of the holidays, and we are not dating seriously or BF and GF yet, but I am going to get him something/do something for him and I will be disappointed and probably think less of him if he doesn't do anything for me. I would assume he doesn't think much of me, I guess.

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I think you should get her something, but nothing pricey or too elaborate.

 

My sister one time saw a guy for four weeks and he bought her a $500 ring for I dont remember what. It was creepy ...

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I don't agree that you shouldn't get her anything at all. I just started talking to a man more seriously, and dating him a little bit. I know it's awkward timing because of the holidays, and we are not dating seriously or BF and GF yet, but I am going to get him something/do something for him and I will be disappointed and probably think less of him if he doesn't do anything for me. I would assume he doesn't think much of me, I guess.

 

I hate to threadjack, but can you think of anything that would be considered off-limits?

 

I'm looking to buy something small for a woman I've started dating (under $20), but I'm running dry on ideas. I was going to get a her a plush doll of her school's mascot (big college football/basketball fan) but I can't find one for her school. Also thinking of something school related for her office desk, maybe a business card holder, or something similar. This may be in addition to a card, and/or a "mixtape" of music I'm making for her.

 

Apologies to the OP. Hopefully this will help in some ideas for you as well.

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I will be disappointed and probably think less of him if he doesn't do anything for me. I would assume he doesn't think much of me, I guess.

 

This is exactly what made me ponder the idea in the first place. I don't want to do something elaborate since we're not together, but I also don't want to not do anything. And at the same time, I don't want to do something that I would do for just a friend, but I also don't want to do something that I would do for a girlfriend. I know, I'm making this more difficult than it is. :laugh: I like the ideas so far, though! What about wine, anyone? She's told me before what her favorite is, but is that too much?

 

You're right ColdFox, it's awkward timing. At least it's not Valentine's Day.

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Wine is good. I would be happy with wine, as long as you bought at least half a case!

 

ha ha kidding. One bottle is kind of token though, thats what you take if you go to someones place for dinner, so you would expect slightly more if it was a proper gift, unless it was an expensive bottle.

 

I have bought my assistant a bottle of Moet & Chandon champagne for christmas and a necklace (costume jewellery) that I know she will like.

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Wine is good. I would be happy with wine, as long as you bought at least half a case!

 

ha ha kidding. One bottle is kind of token though, thats what you take if you go to someones place for dinner, so you would expect slightly more if it was a proper gift, unless it was an expensive bottle.

 

I have bought my assistant a bottle of Moet & Chandon champagne for christmas and a necklace (costume jewellery) that I know she will like.

 

Haha, well I didn't mean literally one bottle ... I meant like a wine basket or something like that, yeah?

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It really depends on what the girls in question like, you know? If she likes wine and you know the wine she likes, a wine basket is a good idea. I think a bottle of champagne would be a good idea too. Either way, you could offer to drink it with her. I really like the idea of the gift that leads to a date. Maybe add some chocolates. Seriously you can't go wrong with champagne and chocolate.

 

I think the mixtape idea is really sweet and most girls would love the thought that went into a gift like that! I am a dancer so music would be an especially great gift for me. I don't know if she would like stuffed animals or school spirit stuff, that's not my kind of thing personally but a lot of girls do like them. I tend to like crafty stuff like handmade botanical soaps, or handmade scarves. I have a good friend who loves to get books, and things like exotic spice kits for cooking. You can get all those things 20 or under.

 

I'm not sure what out of bounds would be. Since you don't know her that well, I guess anything sexy would be kind of making a big assumption. Religious icons would be a bad idea too. I would be uncomfortable if this new guy I am seeing got me anything really expensive, we are just starting out. I would think it was adorable if he cooked me something special, though.

 

You are totally right, Valentines Day would be even more awkward. At least you are not expecting to spend some high-pressure Christmas together, since most people have family obligations.

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Just curious, why is that?

 

Because it comes off as desperate and it's a waste of money. It also puts her in an awkward position; she'll feel guilty and may feel a need (a "need," not "desire) to reciprocate. That poses a threat to any feelings of attraction she may (or may not) feel towards you.

 

What if she ends up getting me something and there I am, empty handed?

 

Then that gives you a perfect opportunity to offer something in return (ie, an actual date, not just hanging out)

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I notice a lot of women telling him to buy something for this girl he's not really dating, and it's pissing me off.

 

Ladies, this is not a rhetorical question. Please answer this.

 

How many of you have gone out with a guy who bought you something BEFORE you were dating?

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No response. Exactly.

 

Yeah, none. But she gave him a present when they weren't dating. It sounds like he wants to give her something in return... nothing wrong with that.

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I notice a lot of women telling him to buy something for this girl he's not really dating, and it's pissing me off.

 

Ladies, this is not a rhetorical question. Please answer this.

 

How many of you have gone out with a guy who bought you something BEFORE you were dating?

 

 

You get pissed off really easily. They practically are dating. He's not talking about giving a present to some woman who is in his office and he never talks to, you act like he has no connection to her yet. They have been talking for weeks and hanging out and flirting, they have acknowledged attraction to each other, they are in the hot zone where anything can happen. If it was Christmas or my birthday during this time, I'd expect him to get me at least some token, and if he didn't I would feel let down and maybe even turned off. I have been in phases with men like this, and they always got me something if there was an occasion for it. I would expect to get them something too.

 

Asked and answered.

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Its not like he is wanting to buy her jewellery or something expensive.

 

He wants to acknowledge the festive season, which is nice.

 

OP- I really like the tickets idea, its a date as well as a present.

 

Either that or pack a picnic basket with champagne, chocolates and nibbles and take her somewhere nice to share it.

Its summer where I live, that would be an awesome christmas present for me!

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what about perfume that you like for her? is that too personal?

 

if you end up not exchanging gifts - you could potentially save it and give it to her for Valentine's day if you are still dating then...

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