how do i handle this mess?

[teamtrek15]

Ok I think basically my gf is creeping around and has been for the whole 4 months we've been together. I need advice on how to approach this situation.

She has a "girl" in her phone under the name karen. I noticed the whole 4 months we talked this person has never called her when I'm around. They've only talked via text.

My girl gave me the passcode to her phone but I've never snooped through it. The thing I noticed when watching her text or going through her call log they are cleared out everyday. Last night I slept over and she shut her phone off! She never shut her phoe off @ night.

 

Last night "karen" text her asking. "Is he still there?" My girl was in the bed with me and answered "yes." Karen answered "ok. Hope its fun" I thought that was weird so I asked my girl how does she know this girl. She said they used to work together but "karen" got transfered to another store. So I decided to call that store today and ask for "karen" and guess what no "karen" works there and never has the lady on the phone told me!!

 

I feel so dumb I introduced her to my family, were "in a relationship" on facebook, she introduced me to her friends family and son!! I started to fall for this girl and now I'm wondering if I've been a sucker?? How do I approach this? I've been acting cool with her al day but inside my heart hurts. Plus to add she is always acting insecure with me like wondering if I'm cheating which of course I'm not. Please help.

[Seamless74]

So are you saying you believe karen is a guy? If so that sucks and really how do you think you can handle it? I mean you gonna tell her you called the store and stuff making yourself look like a creep or are you gonna try your best to get her to fess up and rake her over the coals for a bit then take her back? either ways bad if you find out shes been messing around shes got to go?

 

If Karens a girl, **** man youd know where id be going with that

[teamtrek15]

I was thinking "karen" was a guy. I was going to say I sent a friend to the store to ask for her to see about a discount bc I do have a close friend that lives by this store. Lol that way I don't seem like a creeper. But I didn't even think what u were impying at the bottom but I see where u are going with that

[dispatch3d]

No trust in the relationship. Just breakup.

[teamtrek15]

She invited me over tonight. I've been playing it real cool like nothing is bothering me. How do I approach this tonight?

[poorguy]

i would go ahead and go over. Seriously just sit her down and tell her what you think is going on. If she's at all defensive or gets pissed then you have your answer

[teamtrek15]

i would go ahead and go over. Seriously just sit her down and tell her what you think is going on. If she's at all defensive or gets pissed then you have your answer

 

 

Bingo! I'm going to do it!

[poorguy]

Do it. Your only 4 months in anyways. It's almost like you have nothing to loose even if you do like her or care about her. Just don't be wimp when you ask her no matter what she says. Like I said though if she gets defensive or pissed time to walk

[BackUpOrGetStung]

If she gets defensive, ask her to call Karen on speaker and have a quick chat. Even if she has an excuse, like "Karen is at work now", tell her you want to hear the voicemail. Don't give her a chance to change the name is what I'm gettting at.

[poorguy]

He could do that but it's only been 4 months so if she's been walking aroung on him the whole time he's better off bouncing for good and not getting into a whole burden of proof situation with her. I mean4 months and he thinks this is happening? If it is she's just not into him the way he would like her to be si it's better he go out with his chin up then get all pissed off...Trust your gut on this one!!!!

[teamtrek15]

thanks so much guys. I think I may be like prove it just call the # on speaker definitely!