MissMayI Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 Hi new to LS, but am finding it very helpful! A month ago my ex broke up with me leaving me devistated. I went NC for a week, and he texted me on my birthday telling me he loves me and wants to spend his life with me. However, we are in college, and his grades are very bad. I would believe and support him on this if he cut out other things that deteer him from that such as drug abuse and spending days at his friend's house. He asks that I wait for him, I would have no problem doing that if he wasn't such a jerk lately. We still have sex, because I really just wanted sex, however lately I am finding that I am getting nothing out of it. I am going to stop doing that. I wonder if I should go NC all together? I would love to make things work if he could decide what he wants. Last night I slept at his place and asked him to please talk to me and tell me why he has such harsh feelings towards me lately and he screamed at me. I know I deserve better but it's so hard when we've had good times in the past. I guess I am asking if I should wait or go NC and see where things go? Thanks so much!
ConstantCraving Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 Hi new to LS, but am finding it very helpful! A month ago my ex broke up with me leaving me devistated. I went NC for a week, and he texted me on my birthday telling me he loves me and wants to spend his life with me. However, we are in college, and his grades are very bad. I would believe and support him on this if he cut out other things that deteer him from that such as drug abuse and spending days at his friend's house. He asks that I wait for him, I would have no problem doing that if he wasn't such a jerk lately. We still have sex, because I really just wanted sex, however lately I am finding that I am getting nothing out of it. I am going to stop doing that. I wonder if I should go NC all together? I would love to make things work if he could decide what he wants. Last night I slept at his place and asked him to please talk to me and tell me why he has such harsh feelings towards me lately and he screamed at me. I know I deserve better but it's so hard when we've had good times in the past. I guess I am asking if I should wait or go NC and see where things go? Thanks so much! He sounds like total loser. What's the appeal?
b_rouse Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 Wow, I'd leave him...pronto. He doesn't seem nice. You deserve better than him, don't have sex with him anymore and don't talk to him anymore, it's just hindering your healing process. If he did care about you, and wanted to spent his life with you, he would. Point-blank, he would. But because you're just a booty-call, and he disrespects you by yelling without having a civil conversation with you, you don't need him.
b_rouse Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 And to answer your question, not all relationships are that f-ed up. A lot end civil and quietly, with no strings attached.
Author MissMayI Posted December 5, 2010 Author Posted December 5, 2010 Thanks, I know you guys are right. I have heard he's a loser before. I guess we have just had some really great times and you never know if you'll find that again! Obviously my self-esteem is a little low lately because of this relationship...thanks for the support!
b_rouse Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 Thanks, I know you guys are right. I have heard he's a loser before. I guess we have just had some really great times and you never know if you'll find that again! Obviously my self-esteem is a little low lately because of this relationship...thanks for the support! That'll happen. You feel rejected, so did I. I know right now you're only thinking of the good times, I did that too, but you'll realize all the things he wasn't that you wanted. Just don't start blaming yourself! I made that mistake, and it messed me up, I quit eating, sleeping and studying. It was a way to punish myself (for lack of a better word). Just remember, you're next boyfriend should be an upgrade! That's how relationships should be, the next one should be better than the one before.
sarahlove233 Posted December 8, 2010 Posted December 8, 2010 ahh this is an emotional rollercoaster! He just called me saying he was christmas shopping for me and so excited about what he got. But, I get on facebook and on my news feed this girl keeps saying Love you! and putting hearts to him..so...Am I being played?
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