AverageJoe Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 1. Woman gives Man sex, expects Man to spend nothing = Romance. Yes! 2. Woman gives Man sex, expects Man to spend something = Business. No! 3. ?????? 4. Profit!! Haha, sorry I couldnt resist the south park reference.
musemaj11 Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 1. Woman gives Man sex, expects Man to spend nothing = Romance. Yes! 2. Woman gives Man sex, expects Man to spend something = Business. No! 3. ?????? 4. Profit!! Haha, sorry I couldnt resist the south park reference. Yup, basically for women, its romance only if its profitable for her. If the profit is mutual, ITS NOT ROMANTIC!
Author griffinchicken53 Posted December 7, 2010 Author Posted December 7, 2010 Oki think I'm more confused than I started.
Mad Max Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 Oki think I'm more confused than I started. That's because you listened to Muse.
tincanman99 Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 (edited) No long drawn out dinners, no movies. Just go grab coffee and snacks. Thats it, no fuss. That way its not expensive and you are not sucking up the other person's time. If you click you can always see the person again or extend the time. Nothing worse than to be trapped with someone you dont like. I was dating a girl for a while whom I dropped almost $400 on for dinner and a show in NYC and than she disappeared on me. Literally. No nasty good byes, no "lets just be friends" speech, no email, not even a freakin txt - just poof gone. Oh and the best part is I worked with her. No expensive dates for me unless I am in love with you and been dating you for a year. Edited December 7, 2010 by tincanman99
Author griffinchicken53 Posted December 7, 2010 Author Posted December 7, 2010 Basically, I'd like to take someone out and it be a good memorable, romantic experience; that maybe would lead to a second date.
AverageJoe Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 Where is the romance to spend money on a date?
VertexSquared Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 That's interesting... I don't think we have those in Florida.. what age are we talking about? That's a factor as well. My girlfriend and I are 24
Author griffinchicken53 Posted December 7, 2010 Author Posted December 7, 2010 Don't mean if a $30 date is romantic then $100 will be more romantic. Sometimes the simple things are more effective.
Knittress Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 Basically, I'd like to take someone out and it be a good memorable, romantic experience; that maybe would lead to a second date. Honestly, that has more to do with who you are as people than how much you spent or where you went. My most meaningful relationship started off with a walk to Taco Bell.
musemaj11 Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 Don't mean if a $30 date is romantic then $100 will be more romantic. Sometimes the simple things are more effective. Trust me man, if you want someone you can trust for a long term relationship, you want someone who will still be interested in you even if you only take her to McDonalds. Spend money only for women you plan to have short term fun with. Just consider it paying for a hooker.
mogul Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 Trust me man, if you want someone you can trust for a long term relationship, you want someone who will still be interested in you even if you only take her to McDonalds. Spend money only for women you plan to have short term fun with. Just consider it paying for a hooker. I have quite the opposite outlook on things. If I am only interested in a girl for a fling, I would suggest going for drinks at a bar/lounge for a "first date", thus saving me money on dinner and setting the mood for hooking up. (60-100 on drinks) If I am genuinely interested in someone, I would do a nice dinner and walk on the pier and some activities like a cruise around the waterfront or what not. (100-200). If its not the first date, I would do a weekend road trip. Finding true love, (priceless)
BorderRogue Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 On average how much have you spent on a date, inparticular a first date? I assume $100 or more. Not asking cuz I'm cheap just haven't been on many and want to know what to expect About $40 bucks or so. I agree with some of the posters about keeping it simple and memorable. That's if you like her. I like to find something social; street party, bbq cookoff, car show, etc. Just something to do very casual, hell, I even have had date's where we picked up sandwiches and ate off my tailgate. All about the memories. When I was young and adorable I did the expensive first dates and I have realized that I really don't want to support that kind of relationship. I'd rather we enjoy each other than whatever new restaurant opened up. My 2 cents.
terra Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 I agree with the activity first dates. Like going skating and grabbing hot chocolate after. Or a trip to the art gallery or something that allows you to talk about something other than yourselves but you can still get to know each other. All those activities are pretty cheap.
musemaj11 Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 I have quite the opposite outlook on things. If I am only interested in a girl for a fling, I would suggest going for drinks at a bar/lounge for a "first date", thus saving me money on dinner and setting the mood for hooking up. (60-100 on drinks) If I am genuinely interested in someone, I would do a nice dinner and walk on the pier and some activities like a cruise around the waterfront or what not. (100-200). If its not the first date, I would do a weekend road trip. Finding true love, (priceless) Your method is more likely to land u a gold digger than a true love. U want to give ur everything later. In the beginning make sure its not ur pocket she is interested in. Unless of course u r cool with buying love.
zengirl Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 I agree with the activity first dates. Like going skating and grabbing hot chocolate after. Or a trip to the art gallery or something that allows you to talk about something other than yourselves but you can still get to know each other. All those activities are pretty cheap. These are good, as are local events. I like it when the guy takes time to think of something a little different---even just looking at the local paper for some events or something---more than when he pays more money for things. When I can tell there's been some thought and planning, I'm impressed. Not by the $ amount.
Els Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 Don't mean if a $30 date is romantic then $100 will be more romantic. Sometimes the simple things are more effective. Seems you already arrived at a wise answer by yourself, then.
Author griffinchicken53 Posted December 7, 2010 Author Posted December 7, 2010 Having read a recent blog post about being financially self sustaining just wanting a guy to love her that doesn't feel the need to always buy her things or payher way.
Author griffinchicken53 Posted December 7, 2010 Author Posted December 7, 2010 That's perfect for me cuz I'm broke.
Mme. Chaucer Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 OP, just do what feels right for you. Listening to advice from men who post stuff like this: Spend money only for women you plan to have short term fun with. Just consider it paying for a hooker. Would be terribly misguided. I can't understand why a man who hates women so much spends any time with us at all. A guy who is self confident enough to say upfront "let's go dutch" or to suggest a nice walk to a coffee or ice cream place (10.00, maybe) is cool; so is a guy with the self confidence to plan a "special," fancier date and spend money on it without being terrified that the woman is out to fleece him. I've got some important news for some of you guys: a "free dinner," even with cocktails and fine wine, is not motivation enough for most of us desirable women to spend any time at all with a creepy hater. I'd rather be home playing online Scrabble or reading a book ... or even watching TV than spend 15 minutes with such a fellow. So stop worrying about it so much.
musemaj11 Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 Griffinchicken, listen to me. If u wanna find a true love who will stick by u even when things r tough, u don't want someone who needs u to throw money in order to impress her because it speaks a lot about her character. So the first thing u need to do is ask urself what kinda person u r looking for?
Author griffinchicken53 Posted December 7, 2010 Author Posted December 7, 2010 Smart, caring, funny, feminine yet can still get her hands dirty. Someone to cuddle with and watch movies but still likes to do other social and outdoor activities.
musemaj11 Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 Smart, caring, funny, feminine yet can still get her hands dirty. Someone to cuddle with and watch movies but still likes to do other social and outdoor activities. Lol, thats not the answer I was looking for.
Author griffinchicken53 Posted December 7, 2010 Author Posted December 7, 2010 What answer were you hoping for?
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