Typical cost of a date

[griffinchicken53]

On average how much have you spent on a date, inparticular a first date? I assume $100 or more. Not asking cuz I'm cheap just haven't been on many and want to know what to expect

[Mad Max]

$100??? F*ck that. Always keep first dates cheap.

[In The Green]

Honey nooooooo not for a first date. Just go get coffee or something. If you want to splurge on her later if you both decide there is a connection then go for it. I'm sure the men will have more concrete advice.

[SmileFace]

When you say first date?

 

What do you mean?

 

Like if this is someone you met on a dating site and you are meeting for the first time? Ha , seven dollars should be your max then.

 

Then again it really depends on your age and income. Can't really put a limit on it.

[griffinchicken53]

Seeing as I could go to a steakhouse alone and spend 30 add another person (prob go somewhere nicer) movie could be 30

[musemaj11]

A girl will make up her decision whether or not she would wanna sleep with you within the first 30 minutes of the date. Whether you spend $20 or $2000, it wont change her mind. The logic is if you need to splurge money to impress her, you might as well just pay an escort. Its basically the same thing n you get more bang for the buck.

[griffinchicken53]

Not trying to get sex. If I did an online dating I'd keep it cheap. But if someone I met in person and already knew I'd want to splurge a bit.

[carhill]

Of the first dates I've been on since separating, they generally cost between 25 and 40.00, inclusive of food and a couple drinks. Obviously, 'budget' dating will depend on geography; however, even when in expensive places like Manhattan, I've found there are always cool little inexpensive places to go where a date can be fun yet not a wallet buster.

 

A walk in the park is free

[musemaj11]

Not trying to get sex.

So you just want a friend? Why splurge money for a friend?

[griffinchicken53]

Yet... Not wanting sex yet.....

[griffinchicken53]

Also I read the thread about worst date experiences and I don't want mine to show up on there

[xpaperxcutx]

$50 or less.

 

Dinner doesn't cost much, Thai or Japanese runs at most 20-30, and then you have the leftover where you either splurge on an activity or enjoy a movie.

[musemaj11]

Yet... Not wanting sex yet.....

So why would you wanna splurge money for nothing in return?

 

Adopt an orphan or something instead.

 

Depends on your socio-economic level, I suggest dont spend more than $50. Like I said, how much money you spend makes no difference. If a woman likes you, she likes you even if you dont spend a penny.

 

You need to dine and wine a woman only if she is not interested in you enough and she wants you to pay money to make up for your shortcoming in order for her to even consider you. Most men dont have a problem paying their way into a woman's heart. But personally I would rather lower my standard than paying to be given A CHANCE. Remember A CHANCE. Even if you splurge $1000, it is still not guaranteed that she would accept you.

[jerbear]

It depends on social economic levels.

 

$100 does seem excessive for a first meeting not a first date.

 

It is not uncommon to be $100 when you add dinner, drinks, parking, tips, show/movie together.

[U1987]

Seeing as I could go to a steakhouse alone and spend 30 add another person (prob go somewhere nicer) movie could be 30

 

Dinner and a movie is a BAD first date. Eating sitting across from someone you just met is so awkward (not to mention expensive) and how do you get to know someone when you're watching a movie?

 

Not to mention it shows no originality. Dinner and a movie is so cliche.

[Knittress]

I think "dinner, drinks, show" sounds like three dates, not one. I personally, can be won over by a few pabst and some nerdy talk - by the Right Guy. If you drop too much money you run the risk of only 'impressing' her by how desperate you appear.

[Els]

Depends on your social status I guess. Me, as a college student, I'll be happy with a $10 meal and a $5 coffee anyday. The quality of the date isn't determined by its cost.

[griffinchicken53]

This has all been very good information. I've been out of the game for awhile.

[hearttobreak]

First date should be drinks and maybe share an appetizer. Nothing more. Here's where it gets tricky. The bill. They offer, but I always pay. I've always wanted to start going dutch, but most men and women I talk to say that's a bad first date start.

[AverageJoe]

$50 or less.

 

Dinner doesn't cost much, Thai or Japanese runs at most 20-30, and then you have the leftover where you either splurge on an activity or enjoy a movie.

 

 

Depends on your social status I guess. Me, as a college student, I'll be happy with a $10 meal and a $5 coffee anyday. The quality of the date isn't determined by its cost.

 

Good to hear you two girls are coming off the hip with some dough on a date. Right? I did read that correct, didnt I?

 

As for me, zero on a first date. Ok, take that back I did buy a 1.50 ice cream once.

[griffinchicken53]

i guess i ask this because i like someone but i got laid off from a job recently. so money is a bit tight. i don't want to think i'm gonna miss a chance while waiting for some more income.

[musemaj11]

I think "dinner, drinks, show" sounds like three dates, not one. I personally, can be won over by a few pabst and some nerdy talk - by the Right Guy. If you drop too much money you run the risk of only 'impressing' her by how desperate you appear.

You hear dudes out there?

 

If she thinks you are the right guy, you dont have to spend a penny. You need to dish it out only if you are NOT the right guy. In which case you need to buy her heart because she doesnt wanna trade it with yours since she finds it less valuable.

 

I've always wanted to start going dutch, but most men and women I talk to say that's a bad first date start.

If you ask, then on the first date you should pay. But it should stop there unless you are desperate or you are just after one thing.

Edited December 6, 2010 by musemaj11

[Titania22]

I would have agreed with all of you. Which is probably why I was so shocked that the guy who asked me out and an online dating site spent between $100 and $200 on our first date. Of course it was 9hrs long, which I am sure wouldn't have happened if we hadn't been enjoying ourselves.

 

But since then we talk every day for like 6hrs and he says "i am very important to him" (whatever that means).

 

To be honest I have never known any guy to be so giving of his time.

 

The point is if he had walked into that date with a set figure in his head, it would have ended alot earlier and we wouldn't have connected so well. Of course he also seemed more interested in actually making a connection then just getting laid and moving on.

[Star Gazer]

A girl will make up her decision whether or not she would wanna sleep with you within the first 30 minutes of the date. Whether you spend $20 or $2000, it wont change her mind.

 

It very well might. If he takes me to Red Robin on a first date, no matter how much I may have been into him before the date, that date will be the last, particularly if I sense a cheap streak. But it has nothing to do with how much he spent, but rather the effort and creativity that went in to the date.

 

That said...

 

For a first MEETING (i.e., online date), I prefer getting drinks over coffee, as I don't drink coffee after noon and meeting someone with romantic potential before noon just feels funny. In any event, on a first meeting-date, we'll have 2 drinks each if it goes well, and maybe an appetizer or something. So, somewhere between $20-60, depending on the establishment.

 

For a first DATE-date with someone I already know, first dates probably run somewhere between $50-75.

[griffinchicken53]

so what took 9 hours long?