wondergirl_6 Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 I had been with this guy for 8 months when he moved to another continent for a new job, his ex lives there but she's a cabin crew and that's why they didn't spend much time together and broke up in less than a year's time. I visited him once before and due to the distance between us now (7000 miles) and the fact that both of us still would like to explore the world a bit more before we settle down, we decide to keep this an open relationship. We still contact daily and care about each other. When I was visiting I saw his ex wrote on his Facebook wall about a flight information, so I knew they were back in contact. I told him I was fine with them hanging out as long as he's over her. They met up after I left and she happened to answer his phone when I called, they were on a beach and he was swimming in the sea (I could hear from the phone). He took over the phone and I asked if I could talk to her. He hesitated for a bit and gave her the phone, but the phone was out of power soon. She sent a message to my FB almost immediately (she's even not a friend!) and said we could talk more, then gave me her number I called her later that day and basically she's saying that he was trying to get back to her and please her by speaking badly of me and telling her he's going to dump me, but her analysis was that he's trying to keep a relationship with both of us. She said that he sent her suggestive messages on FB and told her he was in a business trip when I visited. I don't think my bf was very innocent on this and this is one of the reasons we decide to keep this an open relationship. But his ex is quite a psycho, she's extremely jealous/suspicious on nothing and talked to me about a love rival she imagined (she's still trying to justify herself by contacting his friends NOW)...I also wondered if she exaggerated things just to make things worse. I asked if I could have a look at one of his messages but she refused. It's pretty obvious she wanted us to break up even that means she wouldn't get his as well. We actually feel better after we turned the relationship from "committed" to "open" as we're not keeping in touch because of obligation. After he denied saying those things his ex told me and said he's surprised she said all those, we haven't really talked about her. I think she's a snake and the fact that she's "stalking" my fb makes me feel uncomfortable (we didn't have the "in a relationship" thing, don't know how she found me, probably through a third friend). I also hate that she tried to trick me into hating this guy WITH her. I'm visiting my bf again in Jan on my way to visit my family, just hang out like friends (have agreed on no sex). I kind of feel like doing something to let this girl know that she didn't "get" me. Maybe change my profile picture to one with me and my bf? Or just send her a message on FB saying hi when I'm there again?
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