cj2 Posted December 14, 2010 Share Posted December 14, 2010 This should be fun! I don't miss: Her selfishness, honestly quite possibly the most selfish person I've ever met. Her alcohol issues; blackouts, verbal abuse and arguments. Throwing tantrums everytime we went out because she couldn't find anything to wear that apparently she didn't look fat in (she was 5ft11 and 9st, with a pretty much perfect figure by anyones standards). Being terrible with money, constantly racking up tons of credit card debt and letting me down. Telling me we spent too much time together and then when I wanted to go and do something with friends telling me I wasn't allowed as it would make her jealous. Doing pretty much b*gger all of the housework. At times I felt like a single parent living with a messy teenage child. Lack of committment at work. Her general "spikiness", always overreacting, taking things people say the wrong way, feeling "wronged" by anyone who happened to even slightly rub her up the wrong way. Hearing the words "I'm so angry right now". This feels good to get out of the system! Link to post Share on other sites
Hades Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 What don't you miss about your ex? 1. drug addict. 2. criminal history. Do I really need to continue? 3. why his cell phone had the most annoying ringtone (a school bell) and the volume was ridiculously high is beyond me ... Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 I don't miss... trying to forget his sordid sexual past wondering if he's lying the constant faint ache in my stomach from ongoing worry the uncertainty of a future together doubting his integrity...EVERY day being wistful about how he USED to treat me catching him in lies and inconsistencies fearing him going out with friends not knowing if I was reasonable in my expectations the feeling I was weak for staying with him feeling like he could not be trusted hoping he'd change his passive-aggressiveness of being in a relationship but also secretly doing exactly whatever he felt like doing Link to post Share on other sites
Sonolumino Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 Him nagging me for "breathing too loudly" Ah yes, what a horrible person you must've been, breathing all over the place like that. Jeez how dare you. I won't miss: Her inability to talk about anything that mattered (clothes, gossip, etc. were the main topics) How angry she would get if I didn't immediately press the gas at a green light (I swear to God this happened) Her thinking the world owed her something Her lack of drive or willingness to change at all Her inability to take a compliment from me, always would disagree. It's hard to keep complimenting someone when they're like that. Never was adventurous Scared of people she didn't know How obsessed she was with punctuality (listed it as one of the reasons she broke up with me) I could go on too. Gosh it's good to crystalize these thoughts. And I'm still hurt by this situation. Weird. Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 Having to wear earplugs while I slept to prevent her snoring from bursting my eardrums. Link to post Share on other sites
goldenrainbow Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 Lack of manners his verbal abuse his emotional abuse his threats to kill me or beat me up Losing contact with my friends because of him Me walking on eggshels What he has done to my self-esteem Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 Her complete lack of a sex drive Her family Her complete lack of communication Her general coldness Her taste in music Her refusal to sleep with me because I snored Her deceptiveness Her failure to face up to her issues Her immaturity Did I mention her family?? Link to post Share on other sites
ByMyselfForNow Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 Some of yours: Her lack of communication and coldness. Her complete lack of sex drive (in the last months of the relationship) Her family's lack of interest towards me - they never wanted to meet me And most of all her deceptiveness. Link to post Share on other sites
Heatemyheart89 Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 How boring he was,how tight he was,his false promises,his moods,his attitude,how we didn't agree on anything Link to post Share on other sites
paleblue Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 her big fat mouth. her lies her laziness her drama her self centered ways. Link to post Share on other sites
makelemonade1974 Posted January 3, 2011 Share Posted January 3, 2011 His hypochondria (and denial that he is a hypochondriac) - "my back hurts" - well, take some aspirin - "it's a skeletal injury, aspiring won't do anything" - well, go to the doctor - "I've been to doctors, they can't help me." His moping around - we are sitting at a restaurant in Paris, yes, Paris FRANCE and he looks miserable - what's wrong - "my blood sugar's crashing" - well, eat something - "it's too late, nothing will help." Oh. My. God. His sucking up to everyone (especially people in his line of work) and treating everyone better than me. His refusal to leave a party at 2am to go home and HAVE SEX WITH ME because he's too busy sucking up. His refusal TO HAVE SEX WITH ME in the afternoon because it will make him too tired to get any work done in the evening. His working working working and then when not working he complains that he has work to do. His inconsiderate attitude and stinginess. I'm a single mom, but he had no trouble making me pay my own way everywhere I go. The way he hacks and spits repeatedly in the shower every morning to "clear his lungs." Seriously gross. The way he would start fights when I was drinking and not tell me why he was mad (making me feel like I was crazy or something). He would say "I already told you why I was mad" and refuse to repeat it. Well tell me again for ciol. The way he would exclude me from parties with people he worked with because I would "not understand" what they were talking about, even though I have a freaking PhD and teach at a university in a similar field. The way he would acted like I was bothering him when I brought my children over to visit him (even though he swore he thought they were great). The way he said we couldn't live together unless we could find a place with a mother-in-law apartment so he could have a "quiet place to work." Um yeah, and did I mention always having to initiate sex. SO glad to be rid of the jerk. Link to post Share on other sites
elm3100 Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 What I don't miss about her: -her laziness -her lack of ambition -her lack of effort to improve her situation -the ease with which she complained about her situation -her financial irresponsibility (she works at a debt management firm FFS) -doesn't understand the concept of basic housework (I did most of it) -she was overweight -her half hearted attempts to lose weight -her emotional outbursts about gaining weight -her acne ridden back -her incredibly loud snoring -her loud voice -her loud talking while she was sleeping -her neglect of her appearance -her low sex drive -unwilling to be sexually adventurous -her tendency to get drunk and then start fights -her lack of resolve to fix problems in our relationship -she didn't seem to care if we left problems unresolved -her unwillingness to admit fault in problems -her reluctance to apologize -her use of apology to "one-up" me -she was rather uncouth for a girl -she was always comparing other people's relationships to our own -her belief that just because her idiot friends rushed into things means that we have to do the same -she got way too cranky if she didn't get at least 8 hours of sleep every night (good luck with the real world) -her and her sisters depended way too much on daddy -her confrontational attitude when it came to long term commitment -her lack of understanding that confrontation and pressuring are a great approach to damaging her boyfriend's interest in a future with her Link to post Share on other sites
homebrew Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 Hahahahaha! We have all dated some real WINNERS based on the remarks in here! I would advise you to come back and look at what you wrote 6 months or so down the road... You will be wondering... "What in the heck did I ever see in X?!?!?", "Why did I get all hung up on X!?!?!?!?", "My God, my new GF / BF blows my last EX out of the water... no contest!!!!!" Link to post Share on other sites
Jdw_Icequeen Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 1.He couldn't communicate with me about his feelings ever.. But he could talk to other people apparently about our relationship.. 2.He is a quitter 3.He is a coward 4.He is very clingy and needy 5.He was boring 6.He is a liar 7.He couldn't lift a finger to help around the house unless I got annoyed with him 8.He had some air bubble issue with facing reality 9.Likes to hold grudges 10. Never loved me as much as he said he did 11. Promises the world and can't deliver 12. Can't truly accept blame for anything 13. Acted like I was stupid 14. Never listened to me which always ended up with us in a bad situation 15. You could never read him at all 16. Dosen't stand up for what he beleives in 17. Never really appriciated me 18. Never cared about improving himself 19. Strung me along 20. Never fought for our relationship Link to post Share on other sites
marqueemoon4 Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 two words: TRAMP STAMP Link to post Share on other sites
eidolon Posted January 4, 2011 Share Posted January 4, 2011 1) World of Warcraft and your guildies and your raids meant more to you than I did. 2) You talked about your exes too often in the beginning...and I really didn't need to see their pictures or know how pretty they are. SUPER insecure because of it. Yeah. That's about it. Link to post Share on other sites
cerridwen Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 He had the dating skills of a 14 year old. He'd play hit, not open the door for me, walk ahead of me into places, feel embarrassed showing any affection whatsoever. Link to post Share on other sites
Fern Posted January 5, 2011 Share Posted January 5, 2011 The cheating. The way he would wander off ahead of me when we went places. The rejection and lack of sex. And how that left me feeling. His negativity and glass half empty attitude to life. Supporting him financially and emotionally for zero thanks or appreciation. His stinking, smelly feet. His selfishness - he only ever thought about what was good for him. Him subtly 'putting me down' at every turn. Even just about stupid stuff. Walking on eggshells around him if he's had a bad day. The amount of time he spent going out drinking and having fun while I worked. The way he used to snap at me - especially when he did it in front of people. His emotional unavailability - or maybe it was more emotional dishonesty, I gave him ample opportunities to get out of our relationship. He stayed because it was 'convenient' and wasted my time. Link to post Share on other sites
wrencn Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 1. boring personality 2. tiny penis 3. terrible hygiene 4. thinning hairline (yes I'm being shallow, but it helps) 5. smoking (which he gave up for her) 6. laziness 7. never ending Television watching 8. inability to pick up after himself 9. financial irresponsibility 10. unhealthy diet 11. never exercising 12. not having a hobby or interest 13. jealousy when I started to have hobbies and interests 14. the way he talked to other people (trying so hard) 15. the fact that he would insinuate education is not important (its very important to me) 16. not being educated past high school 17. needy 18. couldn't stick with anything 19. didn't play with our boys... not a good father 20. the fact that he is just so lame! Link to post Share on other sites
wrencn Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 21. Never opening doors for me. 22. Never buying me presents for xmas, bdays, valentines day etc. Link to post Share on other sites
wrencn Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 How boring he was,how tight he was,his false promises,his moods,his attitude,how we didn't agree on anything Where you with my husband too Link to post Share on other sites
wrencn Posted January 6, 2011 Share Posted January 6, 2011 23. Never wanting do discuss our marital problems. Just stuck his head in the sand and pretended nothing was ever wrong. 24. Sleeping on the couch for months and months on end after a minor fight. 25. Never apologizing when he was wrong. 16. Very secretive and shady. I felt like he is the type of man that would lead a double life. Link to post Share on other sites
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