What don't you miss about your ex?

[tobydog]

I don't miss;

the way he has treated me and our son, with no care, compassion or consideration

all the rows

his overgrown tramp toenails

his greasy hair

his anti social behaviour

his OCD

his dislike of our beloved dogs who he bought

his compulsive lying

his debts and his reckless waste of money over the years

his control freakery

 

Now that did me good!

[durkadurka]

I don't miss the feeling of working my hardest and still not seeing results and feeling miserable about it.

[Feelin Frisky]

I don't miss

 

-her neurotic neediness

-split personality

-defensivness

-automatic assumption of negativety

-making every holiday or birthday a fiasco

-hints that I should bring her flowers when she did nothing to ever earn them

[angelboots]

1. walking on egg shells

2. waking up thinking "is today going to be a good day"

3. the let down feeling when he stands me up, doesnt call or picks a fight out of nothing

4. hes hairy HAIRY ass lol

5. hes ability to always make me doubt my own sanity

6. did i mention hes hairy... SERIOUSLY fat hairy ass?

 

sorry but that one thing did gross me out and needed mentioning twice lol

[Feelin Frisky]

....6. did i mention hes hairy... SERIOUSLY fat hairy ass?

 

...

 

 

Yeah. But it was a big laugh to hear you repeat it.

[AlisaMarie]

1. walking on egg shells

2. waking up thinking "is today going to be a good day"

3. the let down feeling when he stands me up, doesnt call or picks a fight out of nothing

4. hes hairy HAIRY ass lol

5. hes ability to always make me doubt my own sanity

6. did i mention hes hairy... SERIOUSLY fat hairy ass?

 

sorry but that one thing did gross me out and needed mentioning twice lol

Angelboots... how's your situation going?

I WILL NOT MISS...

His lies that somehow miraculously ended up being something that I did.

His anger over... ummm... nothing!

His ever switching personality to conform to whoever he was around.

His need to control EVERYTHING.

His stupidity for thinking I would ever be under that kind of spell.

EFF HIM.

[bboy]

The drama...

[angelboots]

Angelboots... how's your situation going?

 

His stupidity for thinking I would ever be under that kind of spell.

EFF HIM.

 

Alisa Im coping relatively ok.... some days better then others, I stupidly broke no contact last night after half a dozen messages along the lines of "i wish i hadn't of messed things up so bad that they cant be fixed" "i miss you" "please dont move on until i know what i want, it would hurt me so bad"

 

I sent him a message saying "make or break, bull ****e aside, do you really want a chance to fix stuff between us, yes or no, make or break i deserve to know"

 

he replied at midnight, 5 hours later "ill call you tomorrow morning as i am tired and was out to dinner with the course coordinator and couldnt chat as it is rude to their custom as they are sri lankran" riiiiight.

 

then this morning came and went and no call

 

i messaged him and said "well thats a no and break. take care"

 

then changed my email, blocked on FB, MSN and blocked hes emails. Set hes calls to voice mail if they come through and texts ill just have to ignore until the company changes my number.

 

FEELINFRISKY what can i say? that much hair on a 26yr old male is just not something i was a custom to. When you undress someone and they look as though they are wearing a gorilla suit, its time to break out the wax

[carhill]

What don't you miss about your ex?

 

Her shoes.

[strangeways]

1. Selfishness

2. Laziness

3. Negative attitude to life

4. Obsession with her looks

5. MOANING about anything and everything

 

WTF was I thinking

[AlisaMarie]

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then this morning came and went and no call

 

i messaged him and said "well thats a no and break. take care"

 

then changed my email, blocked on FB, MSN and blocked hes emails. Set hes calls to voice mail if they come through and texts ill just have to ignore until the company changes my number.

Good for you! I can't believe he begs... then gives up. That's part of his disease... so quick to make decisions and change a what seems to be made up mind. Like I said, after 5 months... mine is leaving me alone. The longest we've went without talking was 14 days... we are on day ten. I have to get over that hurdle. Then I think I will accept that the ping pong game is over. If he does contact me... it's going to be very hard to ignore... but I freaking have to.

[cerridwen]

I don't miss:

 

1) His eating habits

2) His thinly-veiled racism

3) His questionable hygiene

4) His wandering eye

5) His misogyny

 

UGH!!! Thank you Time! You're clearing my vision!

[angelboots]

your nearly there only four more days and you will have reached your first goal, you should do something special for yourself to celebrate Alisa! youve done well so far, i hope i can make a week at this point. Ive actually posted notes around my house reminding me of the nasty stuff he has done.. trying to get myself to the "mad" stage instead of the pitying "him" stage lol

[AlisaMarie]

Get through one week girl! You can do it to... and remember it's to get over him. BPDs will keep trying to get back until he beats you to the ground. Then he may stop for a while, but unless he finds another person to obsess and control (but love so much) his focus is on you. Please don't do what I did... I am always here to listen, talk, and share stories.

[Shadowburn]

I don't miss:

1. His selfishness. It was all about him, all the time. All sacrifices and compromises were mine.

2. He was untrustworthy and unreliable. He'd change his mind all the time, and it was maddening. At some point, I felt I am totally crazy because he'd twist things around or would take his words back.

3. He couldn't keep his word. If he would say he'd call, I almost never expected it - I knew he wouldn't. So in cases he would, I was pleasantly surprised, like WOW!

4. He just didn't care and never was there for me. Every time I was going through a hard time (and unfortunately that was often over our 2 years long relationship) he'd disappear so he won't be bogged down with my drama.

5. He wanted things to be light. If I was too demanding or in his mind, expecting too much, he'd pull his favorite punishment tool - silence treatment. Yes, he'd just stop talking to me for days. And they he'd come back like nothing ever happened, and would pick up where he left off, pretending like it's the most normal thing.

6. I read all of it back and cannot believe I put up with this emotional abuse for so long. Where was my self esteem and my self respect all this time?

7. And the last but not list, his teeny weenie was just that - teeny tiny. Sizewise, he just got really unlucky.

8. I know I should scream "good riddance" but I still suffer and miss him so much. Miss the man who I thought was him. Damn it.

[angelboots]

SHADOWBURN

 

That sounds so similar to my ex.. ive actually gone so far now in my head as to name the person i thought he was something different to who he ACTUALLY was.

 

when i get the thoughts "but i love him sooo much i miss him so bad" i correct myself and say "no, i loved frodo golom shrek" which is just randomly through tears the name i came up with at that point in time lol

 

then i say ""J" was the guy who..." and list all the things you have mentioned and some of my own to remind me that the "man" i loved wasn't the man i thought i loved... he was fake and hes actions were down right revolting but love him i did.. until one day the frustration and pain tipped the scale from love to reality..

 

It can take some time for the hoping and longing that they will become who we had been lead to believe they were goes away.. but once you get there you will never look back and when you do you will laugh and think "oh my god what was i thinking" lol

[SimonSerenade]

I don't miss the way she made me feel when I attempted to kiss and hold her, I don't miss how she talked to me so poorly, I don't miss coming last place in her life, I don't miss being given the cold shoulder when I tried to cuddle her in bed, I don't miss her dismissing my feelings and walking away, I don't miss being finished all the time, I don't miss her selfish couldn't give a rat's ass attitude, I don't miss being pushed around all the time cause she knew she could do it, I don't miss feeling meaningless to her, I don't miss being the only one who cared in the relationship, I don't miss her negative criticising attitude towards how I handled my son, I don't miss being compared to other people's boyfriend's, I don't miss feeling like a worthless waste of space, I don't miss longing for her while she left me at our house alone while she lived with her mother, I don't miss her indecisive attitude towards loving me and wanting to be with me.

 

The list of what I don't miss out weigh's what I do miss, Maybe this should be telling me something?, I'll remember this now when I start to actually give a damn again and miss her cause I guarantee, She won't be missing me.

[Pyro]

- having to hear in excess the word "like" when having a discussion

 

-having to see all the garbage "reality" shows on the DVR

 

-coming home everyday and not being in the mood for sex.

[Citizen Erased]

His lack of intelligence

His language

Having to hear about his stupid car

Having to hear about his mother's car

His whining about me being on LS when he spent hours upon hours in front of the xbox which drove me here in the first place

His eternal struggle to not be his mummy's little boy

Wishing he would shutup as he rarely had anything interesting to say.

I certainly didn't mourn not having sex with him while I was still with him so I definitely don't now.

 

He's probably just as glad to be rid of me.

[swfc_77]

honestly today i miss f*** all

 

i dont miss her moaning

 

i dont miss her saying "the fact is" in an arguement "the fact is your a spoilt brat

 

i dont miss having to drive her everywhere

 

i dont miss having to explain that i'v been working all day and im a bit tired so dont want to go spending money i dont have on **** i dont need

 

i dont miss her terrible wind

 

i dont miss clothes, make up, perfume and general women **** all over my floor

 

i dont miss talkin to some one whose sat on facebook

 

i dont miss trying to motivate someone, support someone and reason with someone why she must book her driving test and start making her own way in life.

 

i dont miss askin for money to put diesel in my tank as im running out due to running her here, there and everywhere.

 

i dont miss talking to complete to.55ers (her friends) who i wouldn't pi.55 on if they were on fire

 

i dont miss her mother, who thinks she's 21 and a lying git

 

or her sister whose a lying git

 

or her dad whose a moaning lazy git

 

i dont miss having to ask her to give my parents some money for puttin a roof over here head

 

i dont miss going shopping and buying everything in sight

 

i dont miss her strutting around this house thinking she owns it

 

i dont miss her strutting around like she owns me

 

i dont miss getting stupid phone calls why im in pub having a beer at 9.30pm telling me to come home

 

i dont miss telling her to have a good night with her friends until 3am

 

i dont miss having to tell someone there not fat, when in reality she could have dropped a dress size or 2

 

i dont miss going out with her and comparing who has more celulite, my ex, her mate or her mates sister.

 

i dont really miss her

 

i DO miss deleting endless episode's of courtney and kim off the sky, then saying i thought she'd watched them. lol

Edited December 6, 2010 by swfc_77

[melenkurion]

1) His constant criticism

2) Him nagging me for "breathing too loudly"

3) Belching loudly while I was eating. Just vile.

4) Irritability, grumpiness, moodiness

5) Selfishness

6) Lying, cheating

7) Him never paying for a damn thing

8) Walking on eggshells

9) Sarcasm

10) Mess his hobbies made that he never cleaned up

[tobydog]

I feel mean and guilty for posting this now....after all I drove him away with my drinking and vile behaviour and maybe made him the monster he has become.

[AlisaMarie]

I feel mean and guilty for posting this now....after all I drove him away with my drinking and vile behaviour and maybe made him the monster he has become.

Even if that is true, you are STILL hurt. And you let a lot of people get some things off of their chest by posting this. Don't feel guilty. Just learn from your behavior and don't treat your next relationship the same. Thank you for posting this! It's fun to read!

[Melrapuo]

TBH, I think she wined a lot. But I'm not 100% sure, because I can't remember half the things I did with her. And I was with her for two years. Kinda strange.

[J0N]

Here is a *short* list of things I do not miss.

 

1. She was constantly stressed out, even when we were on vacation. Even the littlest things would stress her out i.e. grocery shopping.

 

2. Could not make decisions.

 

3. Could be controlling at times.

 

4. Got mad every time I opened a beer (for example, having ONE with dinner). I am not a big drinker.

 

5. Broke up with me via text messages, I requested that we at least see each other one last time to bring everything full circle. She said no.

 

6. Was constantly running away from problems, our relationship had issues but they could have been resolved, with a simple conversation. Used old arguments from months ago, which had already been resolved as a basis for the breakup. Sounds to me like she just lost interest.

 

7. Could not handle when people crinkled paper, and could be EXTREMELY ANAL about certain things of the like.

 

8. Would do things that were very dumb and when she would come to me for advice and I disagreed she would become infuriated with me. (i.e. got in fight with her sister and thought never speaking to her again was the only thing to do, I disagreed and said she should work it out. I got my head torn off)

 

9. She took EVERYTHING for granted, her parents bought her a brand new car, she didn't even seem to care. I spent $1000s on dinners, gifts, etc. Most of the time i was lucky to get a "thanks"

 

10. She always wanted to stay in when I proposed going out on fun dates, saying she was too tired or didn't feel like it. Then one of the reasons she gave me for breaking up was that we never did anything fun.

 

I guess typing this out does sort of help me to realize at least some of the things that were wrong with our relationship, even though I still do miss her. But I am getting better every day.