Mystery Man Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 Well well… I finally met a woman who fascinates me, the first one in a long time. She’s 33. I’m 40. She’s a litte shy and reserved but seems to be honest, intelligent and very down to earth. She’s an acadmeic with a succesful international career. Met her at a dance class. Asked her out fairly quickly. Did the usual quick coffee date just to get to know her a bit better and find out about her interests. Invited her out for a second date right there which she accepted. So yesterday was the "big event". I decided to splurge a bit because in a couple of days I’m headed for a round trip in Western Africa so I won’t be able to see her for at least a month. We started by going to an art gallery. Ha a great time. Everything flowed effortlessly. After that I took her to a romantic restaurant where we had dinner. Conversation was never an issue. In fact, I don’t think I’ve ever had such deep discussions so early in the dating game before. We talked about work, relationships, environmental issues, romance, ourselves…. I finally decided it was time for some touching so I simply grabbed her hand and held it over the table. She didn’t mind at all but said she wasn’t used to the amount of intensive eye contact that we had. After dinner we took a short walk to an upscale cocktail bar. I simply garbbed her hand. No objection there either. So I moved in for a quick peck at her lips. She just smiled. However, in the bar she said she thought things moved a little to fast and admitted to me that she hadn’t made up her mind about me yet. I didn’t make a big deal out of that. Just thanked her for her honesty an backed off a little. After about 45 minutes I thought "What he heck" and escalated the physical contact again. We sat next to each other in the corner of a crowded bar so I put my cheek next to hers and we sat like that for several minutes. I could feel her breath against my ear and she smelled soooo nice! "That was cosy" she said when I finally moved away. By now we had spent seven hours together and I felt that it was enough so I suggested a walk back to the subway station. The winter night was wonderful. A thick blanket of fresh snow made the citys water front look like a christmas card. I stopped her on the pier and kissed her a bit more passionately then before. No objections. She said I was brave. We held hands all the way and sometimes I’d squeeze hers a little harder and she always responded in the same way. Then she wished me luck on my trip, I kissed her again an we parted. So far, I think it was a decent second date. My interest in her skyrocketed during the night. Now the question is: How the heck can I keep her interested while I’m in the heart of Africa for a month with no cell phone???? How do I go from here? I’ve been out of the dating game for a decade lol!
carhill Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 How the heck can I keep her interested while I’m in the heart of Africa for a month with no cell phone???? I didn't have trouble staying in contact with people when I was in central Africa and that was long before cell phones. I just used an international calling card and would trek to a nearby safari lodge to use it. I also sent postcards or letters with candid shots (this was before digital cameras) that someone would take with a Polaroid instant camera. Comparatively, you have it easy. If you want to maintain contact, I'd just rent a sat phone and call her occasionally, presuming you have no other options. I rented one of those while in the outback in Oz. Expensive, but I had some responsibilities which required it. Send a few postcards and some tacky tourist photos. Safe travels and enjoy your trip
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