rebeccajones Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 Has anyone started seeing dating the ex. I have been seeing and talking with him. The thing is i don't know where we stand. I also feel insecure because I feel I am not his top priority. I'm thinking I may get hurt. He just seems emotionless although his actions are nice, he does kiss me goodbye and he is nice when he calls. But I think he is so selfish, thinking of his life and I feel left out. I think i will have to talk with him about all this?
bl22 Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 stop being so needy to him, he clearly knows how easy it is for him over you and thats making him unsure. get some self respect and show you wont stand for no more ****, start doing stuff without him, show yourself being happy without him and he'll start to gain more respect for you and youl feel like a challenge to him. atm its way too easy and no guy likes an easy girl for long term.
TLCbear Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 Has anyone started seeing dating the ex. I have. We started talking again around the 8th of November...which is about a month after the breakup. We talked about the past and tried to clear some things up and he actually opended up to me about alot of things...so we decided to give it a clean slate and began dating one another. Things were actually great until a couple of days ago, where I didn't hear from him...so it seems like we are now having problems...not sure what to do myself, but as far as your situation, I say let him know how you feel. It's sad, but now, I do agree with the people who say second chances doesn't work.
Author rebeccajones Posted December 5, 2010 Author Posted December 5, 2010 I do have a life I guess I need to keep moving forward. I just think i should what he thinks. I hate being in this situation. I don't know if he feels hurt too so he does not want to rush into something. Tlc just because he didn't call u think something is wrong?
TLCbear Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Tlc just because he didn't call u think something is wrong? I know, but I'm use to him calling me every night after he gets off work and when I didn't hear from him, my mind sort of triggered back to the past, he's known to lie alot. Both of us are trying to improve, but I'm scared he's going back into his old ways.
Author rebeccajones Posted December 6, 2010 Author Posted December 6, 2010 I let him go I felt too empty inside. He does not want a relationship, he wants something without being tied down, he wants his freedom. So he can have it!! I have mine too! I'm done. But yes it took me forever, but I tried and I was wrong about him and "us" TLC if you are losing your self-esteem or dignity over him choose to ask questions, be straightforward so you will know what it is he is thinking. Don't let your self-esteem be dragged down by someone or a relationship, choose YOU not him. I'm not contacting him again and I feel great!
TLCbear Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 TLC if you are losing your self-esteem or dignity over him choose to ask questions, be straightforward so you will know what it is he is thinking. Don't let your self-esteem be dragged down by someone or a relationship, choose YOU not him. I'm not contacting him again and I feel great! First I would like to say congrads to you on your situation, I hope it's a positive for you. As for myself, it's not my self esteem or dignity, it's a trust issue. I'm trying hard to work with this issue, but it's twice as hard when suspicion comes in play. I didn't hear from him Thursday night and then Saturday night, but what really made it a big deal was that I didn't hear from him the next mornings before he went to work either. He usually calls me before he goes to work and after he comes from work...so when a rountine thing is off track, you start to wonder. His answers seemed not truthful...eventhough it could have really been the truth. And I know if the shoe was on the other foot, he would have been very upset. So now, I'm teaching him a lesson. Last night, he called twice and I didn't answer and this morning he called once so far. See what I mean, he's usually call. But good luck to you and hope one day you will find someone who will cherish you!
Author rebeccajones Posted December 7, 2010 Author Posted December 7, 2010 Thanks TLC and I hope the same for you. It's up to us to stay or get out of a bad relationship. I wish you the best and I'll be checking back on these boards to see how everyone has progressed
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