Boyfriend's inbox was full of pictures of naked girls. I feel hurt and betrayed :(

[gabby898]

Some of you might already know that I kinda cheated on my bf during the summer while I was on holiday (no sex though).

 

Recently (on friday), I logged into his hotmail, facebook and work address. I haven't been able to fully trust him as he had been flirting too much online (and I had told him it bothered me but he did nothing about it).

So I hacked his accounts. (he hadn't given me the passwords himself).

 

Needless to say, his inbox was FULL of pictures of naked girls that he knew.

and ok, I could forgive the old ones (the pictures go back as far as 2005), but I was really mad and hurt that girls that are supposed to be online friends of his had sent his naked pictures and videos about a month ago.

 

From a comment on his fb, I know that before the summer, he was still exchanging naked pictures with girls and he had sent some naked pics of himself while we were going out.

What really hurt me was a conversation I saw where he was asking this girl when was the last time she orgasm, when was the last time she masturbated and he was saying that he was horny and that he would masturbate thinking of her.

And that was less than a month ago!

 

I confront him about it. He got all defensive, at first he denied some things, then he started making excuses (he said that he told that girl that he would be thinking of her to "cheer her up"!!).

He started trying to make me feel because he said I've hurt him too because I once smoked hash.

 

He doesn't know I cheated on him... I don't know what to do now.

He's really hurt me and I don't know if I'll ever be able to trust him again.

He's told me that he doesn't trust me either, no idea why.

 

I know we're probably as bad as each other. But I know he doesn't want to end this relationship. As for me, I'm confused. The only reason I would take him back would be because I also feel bad about what I did.

But if there's no trust in our relationship, then is there really a point?

Can trust be rebuild in a relationship?

[PegNosePete]

You are not faithful to him, and he is not faithful to you.

Why are you together again?

Seriously just split up already, and find someone who respects you, and who you can respect.

[imagine]

This is a marriage made in heaven. The marriage of two disloyal people.

 

Where is this thing going to go. Own up. Thank him for the good times, then find someone that you will love!

[xpaperxcutx]

Dump him. You don't need to tell him you ( almost) cheated on him. His offenses are worse than almost cheating, he's already having sexual and emotional contact with all these other girls on the internet.

 

DUMP HIM>

[hoping2heal]

Some of you might already know that I kinda cheated on my bf during the summer while I was on holiday (no sex though).

 

Recently (on friday), I logged into his hotmail, facebook and work address. I haven't been able to fully trust him as he had been flirting too much online (and I had told him it bothered me but he did nothing about it).

So I hacked his accounts. (he hadn't given me the passwords himself).

 

Needless to say, his inbox was FULL of pictures of naked girls that he knew.

and ok, I could forgive the old ones (the pictures go back as far as 2005), but I was really mad and hurt that girls that are supposed to be online friends of his had sent his naked pictures and videos about a month ago.

 

From a comment on his fb, I know that before the summer, he was still exchanging naked pictures with girls and he had sent some naked pics of himself while we were going out.

What really hurt me was a conversation I saw where he was asking this girl when was the last time she orgasm, when was the last time she masturbated and he was saying that he was horny and that he would masturbate thinking of her.

And that was less than a month ago!

 

I confront him about it. He got all defensive, at first he denied some things, then he started making excuses (he said that he told that girl that he would be thinking of her to "cheer her up"!!).

He started trying to make me feel because he said I've hurt him too because I once smoked hash.

 

He doesn't know I cheated on him... I don't know what to do now.

He's really hurt me and I don't know if I'll ever be able to trust him again.

He's told me that he doesn't trust me either, no idea why.

 

I know we're probably as bad as each other. But I know he doesn't want to end this relationship. As for me, I'm confused. The only reason I would take him back would be because I also feel bad about what I did.

But if there's no trust in our relationship, then is there really a point?

Can trust be rebuild in a relationship?

 

Why don't you stick a fork in this and call it done? You cheated on him. He's been cheating on you. What's next for you both? Stay together and continue to lie, betray, and hurt one another? Trust could be rebuilt, but I don't see it happening with the two of you. Simply because it would mean BOTH of you coming clean with what you did. You don't seem to be willing to do that, and unless you are? Done-zo