celes Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 i'm going through a break up with my current bf, he's my first, and we have been together for 5 years. i recently proposed to break up, i still talk to him rarely in the last few days, just little messages here and there. Before when we have arguments, i get angry and ignore him for a few hours or overnight and then the next day i have this urge to talk to him, to listen to his voice. after me proposing on breaking up with him, i kinda feel num. I feel kinda sad.... , i miss waking up with someone hugging me, sending funny sms updates, or just bascially someone kissing my shoulder. But now I don't feel like talking or listening to him anymore, he gives me miss calls or send me SMS's a few times a day, I use to have this strong urge to call him back and listen what he wants to say, but now i don't think i have the strength to call him back or picking up the phone. i miss him, but i don't know if i love him anymore, i cry a little sometimes when i think of the stuff that i miss most about him. i know he misses me, i think i'm ignoring his calls so that he gets the idea. i don't want another encounter with him about our relationship, because its too hard and painful. i don't want to go through that again. so everybody i just want to ask is this what breaking up feels like? am i doing this right? or am i just a heartless bitch? like i dont think i can get back with him, I have given him a lot of chances already and i have given him a lot of time. even if i get back with him this time, how would he or anything else gurantee that this ( me proposing to break up with him) would never happen again. I know that if i have made a decision ( to stay with him or not) i have to stick to it, but what if in this relationship i cannot see our future, is that really a problem even though i kinda miss him. right now if i would rate 'if i miss him' between 1-10, 10 meaning missing him that my heart aches --- i would give it a 3 or 4 ( sad, no energy most of the day, buying stuff like crazy and leaking tears sometimes). where normally at this very same time last year i would have giving it a steady 6 when we're not fighting or 6-8 after a fight (depending on the duration after the fight) so does it seem that i DO want to get back with him? or does it seem IF I still love him anymore?
xeros Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 Breaking up feels different for every person, it's entirely based upon the feelings towards their partners, their history, time spent together etc etc. For one girl it can be a completely positive experience, for another guy it might be the hardest, most upsetting thing in the world to do. It differs. It's hard to tell because I'm not walking in your shoes, but you might just miss the idea of having someone and maybe not your ex specifically. After 5 years I could imagine it being pretty hard to come back to being single and alone. Only you can be the judge of whether you still want to be with him or not. You just need more time to think, I guess.
dk.bnz.chi Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 a breakup feels like u ate way 2 much good food the first day and u have a hard time breathing. after that it starts getting better,depends on the kind of food u eat. s..t,my other girl woke up
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