Bheartedgirl Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 Me and my ex gave up everything to be together. We have been on and off for the last 2 years although the first year we were inseparable everything was great and we were so in love. Then it all went pear shaped, we argued all the time over stupid things, we talked really nasty to each other and we hated each other most of the time. We had no friends se just had each other. Then last friday she left me. Says she wants to be alone and move on. I've messaged her all day every day for a week which I no is bad, but I just want her back. She's said things like she needs time And space and when she feels something she will tell me. She said she needs time without me and doesn't no if she will talk to me again. She said there's no chance in us ever. But then she says she doesnt no what will happen in the future but right now she doesn't think there's a chance. I don't no what to do. I want her back so much. Will she ever miss me?
bl22 Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 best advice i can give is stop messaging her, it will only push her away more. You need to go NC and begin healing because there is literally nothing you can do to fix this, it has to come from her unfortunately
SimonSerenade Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 I've been in this situation with the indecisive ex who says "maybe one day in the future but not the distant future" then "never again", Best thing I did after 2 months of begging and a month of being her friend is just leaving her be as thing's can get bitter and we always tend to want more than what we have, Send her a last message and put everything into it then cut all contact what so ever, Unless your reply is "I want you back" or something along those line's then do not reply under any circumstances, Stay strong mate, Don't make our mistakes, People on here will be kind and understanding, Anything you want to say you can say to us, Both will have the same outcome only you'll get advice and help on here where as you'd get nothing from her.
Am4Real Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 Me and my ex gave up everything to be together. We have been on and off for the last 2 years although the first year we were inseparable everything was great and we were so in love. Then it all went pear shaped, we argued all the time over stupid things, we talked really nasty to each other and we hated each other most of the time. We had no friends se just had each other. Then last friday she left me. Says she wants to be alone and move on. I've messaged her all day every day for a week which I no is bad, but I just want her back. She's said things like she needs time And space and when she feels something she will tell me. She said she needs time without me and doesn't no if she will talk to me again. She said there's no chance in us ever. But then she says she doesnt no what will happen in the future but right now she doesn't think there's a chance. I don't no what to do. I want her back so much. Will she ever miss me? Buddy, According you you you hate each other and argue all the time -- why on earth would the two of you getting back together be a good thing. I'm sorry for your sorrow my friend, but I'm afraid she's already figured out you two are best apart. Time to move on.
Don_da_Ho Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 No, DO NOT write her or contact her with any "goodbye letter". Absolutely not. I have been dating for 30 years. I have tried it all and been through a lot. DO NOT contact her anymore! NONE, NADA, NOTHING. Trust me and the others on here, it will ONLY push her away and make her more cemented in her decision. That is not what you want. Despite all the pain that you're in and the fact that it goes against your "intuition" do not contact her anymore. You need to start looking at ways to cope and deal with the loss of your relationship. There is a 1% (or less) chance that she will come back if you go NC. If you continue contact you will have 0 chance. Sorry, but you have to tough it out. Post on here or in the coping section if you need advice on how to let go and/or move on. If she doesn't come back (and assume that she won't) then you will be well on your way to being healed and closer to being ready for the next woman. There is always another one. Hang in there.
Author Bheartedgirl Posted December 5, 2010 Author Posted December 5, 2010 No we dont hate each other, just some of the time. End of the day we love each other but aren't in love. But I think we can get back to it. If I give her time will it allow her to miss me? We have been through so much together and I don't think she will throw that away. Maybe she just needs some time to cool off and she will realise we mean too much to each other.
Don_da_Ho Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 Did you not read what I wrote? BTW, are you both women?
Author Bheartedgirl Posted December 5, 2010 Author Posted December 5, 2010 Yes we both are women. I've never felt like this about a girl before. She's 18 and I'm 24. I no there's an age gap but I'm in love with her. U don't no what u got till it's gone right? I think I have more than a 1% chance coz she never ruled us out. She just says she doesn't no what will happen in the future. We r in Australia and We have tickets to see some artists next yr one in march and one in April and I asked her about them ad she said a lot can happen in 3 months but right now she wants to be alone.
Am4Real Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 Yes we both are women. I've never felt like this about a girl before. She's 18 and I'm 24. I no there's an age gap but I'm in love with her. U don't no what u got till it's gone right? I think I have more than a 1% chance coz she never ruled us out. She just says she doesn't no what will happen in the future. We r in Australia and We have tickets to see some artists next yr one in march and one in April and I asked her about them ad she said a lot can happen in 3 months but right now she wants to be alone. Correct English is easier to read: no - know cuz = because till - until r = are and so on...
fiat500 Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 oh god. the "i need to be alone" statement. it's a nice way of them telling you they are done with you.
dk.bnz.chi Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 i would suggest u listen 2 that Ho guy. i've been reading here and he is spot on. almost like me.(i didn't get banned tough)
Don_da_Ho Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 No, DO NOT write her or contact her with any "goodbye letter". Absolutely not. I have been dating for 30 years. I have tried it all and been through a lot. DO NOT contact her anymore! NONE, NADA, NOTHING. Trust me and the others on here, it will ONLY push her away and make her more cemented in her decision. That is not what you want. Despite all the pain that you're in and the fact that it goes against your "intuition" do not contact her anymore. You need to start looking at ways to cope and deal with the loss of your relationship. There is a 1% (or less) chance that she will come back if you go NC. If you continue contact you will have 0 chance. You assume that there is a 1% chance. I don't. I think she made it clear her feelings have changed. When they say they don't know what will happen in the future that means they are politely brushing you off. They're letting you down easy. It means nothing and it just gives you false hope. The other issue is that she is so young. My advice is the same, tickets or not do not contact her.
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