xpaperxcutx Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 just talking to someone? This is not a follow up thread to Surrealist's initiative thread, but the concept is pretty much the same. However the problem I'm pertaining to is what happens once you initiated contact. I never thought this would happen to me, but I recently came across someone I have the " hots" for, yet I can't help feeling really clammed up when it comes to talking to him. There is this need to impress him but I don't want to come across as trying too hard. What is a clear medium to appear confident yet not come across as desperate?
Untouchable_Fire Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 just talking to someone? This is not a follow up thread to Surrealist's initiative thread, but the concept is pretty much the same. However the problem I'm pertaining to is what happens once you initiated contact. I never thought this would happen to me, but I recently came across someone I have the " hots" for, yet I can't help feeling really clammed up when it comes to talking to him. There is this need to impress him but I don't want to come across as trying too hard. What is a clear medium to appear confident yet not come across as desperate? Yes, but only when I was young. I think in time you will grow out of this once you get the feeling that people are just people and nobody is really special.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted December 4, 2010 Author Posted December 4, 2010 Yes, but only when I was young. I think in time you will grow out of this once you get the feeling that people are just people and nobody is really special. U_F, you remember I told you I have a passive personality right? Well technically, that always happens when I feel lukewarm about people. I can be social, polite, well-mannered, yet pretty emotionally distant. With this guy, I'm nervous and shy. Not a good combination. And I agree with you, nobody should be put on a pedestal.
Grobyc Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 (edited) Yes, but only when I was young. I think in time you will grow out of this once you get the feeling that people are just people and nobody is really special. This. I can talk to about anyone about anything these days without a problem. For me what really changed that is i was put in a position where i could sit back and don't talk to anyone. Or i go talk to people and meet them and have fun. I had a lot of fun. And since then, social interactions with people I even like aren't even hard anymore. Edited December 4, 2010 by Grobyc
Author xpaperxcutx Posted December 4, 2010 Author Posted December 4, 2010 I know it's a little too early for an update, but I went for it, and now I have the guy's number. Mind you, we were just chatting, but I feel like this a good step in the right direction. Question- What does it mean when a guy volunteerily offers up his number without me asking?
Feelin Frisky Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 I know it's a little too early for an update, but I went for it, and now I have the guy's number. Mind you, we were just chatting, but I feel like this a good step in the right direction. Question- What does it mean when a guy volunteerily offers up his number without me asking? It means something positive. Beyond that I couldn't say. He could be an axe murderer. I hope for you it just means what you hope it to mean. You like him and now he's saying if you want to get to know him, he's good with it. He probably wouldn't offer it (his #) like that since it wasn't like he was being put on the spot to. So, feel good about yourself. I can ID with the feeling nervous about someone you like bit. I have had that happen and it feels aweful. The girl saw my hand shake too and I think it sunk me. I vowed to never look like a quivering heap of puppy-love jello again.
waynesworld Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 Question- What does it mean when a guy volunteerily offers up his number without me asking? Maybe he's just as nervous as you are? Instead of asking for your number and risking rejection, he took the safe route.
Author xpaperxcutx Posted December 5, 2010 Author Posted December 5, 2010 It means something positive. Beyond that I couldn't say. He could be an axe murderer. I hope for you it just means what you hope it to mean. You like him and now he's saying if you want to get to know him, he's good with it. He probably wouldn't offer it (his #) like that since it wasn't like he was being put on the spot to. So, feel good about yourself. I can ID with the feeling nervous about someone you like bit. I have had that happen and it feels aweful. The girl saw my hand shake too and I think it sunk me. I vowed to never look like a quivering heap of puppy-love jello again. That's what I thought, but I'm not going to place faith in hope just yet. We did have a good conversation online, and we might get in touch to go out for drinks. Right now, I'm not placing all my eggs in one basket.
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