Sinensis Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 So, I very recently moved to a new town (had to, for school). That distance is in large part what precipitated the break-up--she just decided it wasn't worth it anymore. I've been very isolated, since I've been overwhelmed with work, and I HAD been traveling to see her every other weekend, and talking to her for an hour every night, which took up more of my possible socializing time. My social network was basically two people--my roommate and a mutual guy friend. They recently started dating, and now it's like I've been dropped completely. They do everything together, he comes to our house and he goes straight to her room. He stayed over last night, and they're in there right now. It's NOON. They haven't come out. I feel jealous, yes, to see a new relationship blossoming exactly at the time when mine ended so suddenly. I'm also hurt and angry, because I feel like I've been dropped a second time. They were there for me the night of the break up and for a few days afterwards, but now they have each other and they couldn't seem to care less. I'm doing my best to find other friends, but it's slow going, and now I have the two of them in my house.
b_rouse Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 Oh I can 100% relate to the fact that the second your friends get a boy/girl friend, you break up. I have 3 best friends (all girls). I got into a relationship with my ex on October 13th, 2009, and one of my best friend gets a boyfriend on October 15th, 2009. Flash forward, My next best friend gets a boyfriend on October 5th, 2010, and when my ex and I break up on October 17th, 2010, my last best friend gets a boyfriend a few days later. I felt left out at times when they would hang out with their boyfriends...and then there's me, the awkward 7th wheel. But, there's nothing I can do about it. The best thing you can do, is enjoy the single life! There are things you can do that couples can't. And since I'm a strong believer that all things happen for a reason, maybe this break up is for you to get out and socialize! You're in college, you're suppose to be having the time of your life. Sure you can't make friends overnight, but the second you start talking with people and letting them into your life, you'll start making friends in no time. You just have to have confidence, and add a little charm and vua-la: the next cool kid! To be honest, I'm glad the break up happened between my ex and myself (believe me, I was devestated when it first happened! I begged him to come back...not pretty, hot mess), because if we were still together, I wouldn't be doing what I am now, helping people get through one of their toughest times. And also, I wouldn't be the person who I am today, I'd still be that shy, nerd in class, not talking to anybody. College, you're on your own. You're lucky if you go to the same school as your friends in high school, which is why you need to rely on your charisma and charm to meet new people, it's all on you! I'm in college as well (sophmore), and it was hard getting out there and showing people who you really are. And I didn't do that when I had a boyfriend, I thought, oh I had him, I'm set. Once we broke up, it was like a wake up call; I had, like 2 friends (not including my bests because they didn't go to the same college as me). You'll get through it! Just keep your head up, talk with people as much as possible and in no time, you'll be Mr. Popular! And as your friends go, invite them out to eat, invite them to go to a party. Bring them along so you have people to help bring out the best in you. I know when I have my friends with me, I act more outgoing, I'm more fun to be around. And if you ever start feeling sad, or thinking about your ex and nobody wants to listen...we're always here for you! We're either going through it, or we've been through it. Either way, you get the knowledge that you aren't alone, and you get good advice.
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