spirited Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 It's very difficult when you have to see an ex every day; we don't work closely but we're in the same building, pass each other in the halls, and attend a meeting or two every month. Obviously we can't go no contact. We've talked to each other, ignored each other, gone out for coffee to talk, dinner..... We've done the whole cycle. At the moment we are "friends." I use that loosely. It's just too uncomfortable to ignore each other when you work together . He broke it off with me 6 months ago because he said I wasn't available enought due to my situation , which is another story (this is after 5 years of romance and 5 years of friendship before that. Anyway, I'm finding I just can't let go of this. Just when I think I'm over it, seeing him triggers something , and I find myself trying to get back together. My question is, do you think the "friend" thing offers a better opportunity for that, as opposed to NOT being friends. We're scheduled to go for coffee next week, my suggestion, of course. I'm hoping to develop the old friendship of 5 years ago and see if it will lead to getting back together. I know I have rambled on, but I think my idea to get back together may be the only way to go. HELP!
BellaBellaBella Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 I gucess it is confusing, because of your situation. What exactly is that? If the situation is the reason you can't move forward, is it possible your not being fair to rope them into getting back togather. Please be a little clearer.
tbird509 Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 at least if your friends it will keep the lines of communication open,but be prepared to have your heart broke again when he starts dating,if its been six months,you should try dating and let him know about it,any feelings he might have buried will come to the surface if he finds out your over him and dating someone else
Trovador Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 I don't recommend it being friends... it's the same case as mine... coworkers, NC, LC, second chance, friends, enemies, NC... you name it... we've been through all the works... but the worst is being friends, in my case it's like she is fine with that, she is having the best of both worlds while I am not getting anything in return... I think she used friendship to get over me while enticing me again, good thing I broke things up quickly (for the Nth time)...
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