breadandbutter Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 I got introduced to this guy at a club though a friend. She gave him my number and he started texting,we were from same part of town, and same background I did fancy him but kept it cool, we added each other to facebook and chatted quite a lot. At the time we met I wasnt working and he gave me advice on how to get a work quickly which was really nice. He did contact me one time to go out to a club which I accpted as I had just been offered a new job, I mingled with a few other people not just him, but we left together to go somewhere else. Turns out he had a big personaility, very confident and very funny, I was charmed by him and he made me laugh but also very arrogant. We shared the same cab first back to his place. I said I wanted to see his cat and he accpted then I declined cos i thought he may have seen this as something else. I went home instead. He didnt really contact me much after that and ssemed very busy with his social life as per posted pics on facebook. About a month later there was a religous festival and he contacted me, I said I would be in his part of town for it, he asked me if I wanted to meet up, in which I said yes. We had a great afternnon, he was full of fun and laughter, and he was being flitatious with me. I hugged him a few times to say 'I like you' We went back to his apt and he kissed me. We hit a club with some of his freinds and the kissing continued, he introduced me to evry one he knew, it was a great night. On the way back in the cab he asked me to stay with him that night and said I could sleep in his bed and didnt have to have sex if I didnt want to. I did want to stay with him, but wasnt ready as I felt I still didnt know him so well. So i said my goodbyes and went home. He contacted me a few times after that asking me if I was ok. I invited him out one night to a show and he said he couldnt go. I said he I wanted to see him again and he said I could. We had a bank holiday, I facebooked him and asked if I could come over, he replied what for, i said ok and left it at that. He didnt really contact me after that and each time i went onto facebook chat he would come off. He posted pic of him and his mates having a good time and him with another girl looking very cosy, infact he was giving me a lot of head****. I eventaully de-freinded him on facebook and his mates aswell, not sure if he even noticed, but hasnt texted or called-should I call it quits on this, im not sure what his motives were im confused
Vesna Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 It sounds like his chivalry was pretty fake. You had the option of staying the night in his bed without sex and you turned it down and he possibly took this as rejection. I feel you have just saved yourself from a friendship based on conditions and he will find somewhere else to get laid. His loss is your gain.
sugarmomma Posted December 7, 2010 Posted December 7, 2010 He just wanted to screw, so screw him!! Loser!! You did good and should be proud that you didn't give him any.
Author breadandbutter Posted December 27, 2010 Author Posted December 27, 2010 Thank you for your responses, much appreaciated, you were both right n fact one of the last things he did say to me before he left the cab is 'its now or never' so yes it was all on his conditions, and yes what a loser thank you so much :-)
Template Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 Call it an opportunity lost, either for you, him, or both. Who knows what he was thinking, and why he did what he did. Be grateful that you weren't really serious. I call this a win.
sfranks1492 Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 Sounds like you did the smart thing. Appears he wanted only one thing from you and that wasn't to be your friend. He didn't even act like a friend after the fact. Good think he showed his true colors before you did have sex with him. Good luck
Author breadandbutter Posted January 7, 2011 Author Posted January 7, 2011 then why cant i get him out of my head, i think about him day and night, even now we dont live in the same country anymore, I still wonder what he is doing, he was smart I give him that and took my thinking to a new level. i think we would have been amazing together. i dont know if this is starting to sound like fatal attraction or something, but i feel that if we had become freinds first instead of kissing then maybe something would have grown, he did say i could 'see him again' I keep thinking maybe if I hadnt rushed into wanting to seeing him again too soon maybe we could have still hung out togehter. If it was an opportunity lost then why do I feel i have lost ...he made me laugh, I enjoyed his company
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