DanielH Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 This last semester I met an American girl who was studying abroad at my school. We got along great and I told her I liked her, she said she liked me too. We started to hang out a lot more. Maybe six weeks later we were hanging out a lot but nothing had progressed so I asked her about what we were and if she wasn't interested I would back off. She said she was interested but since she was leaving in six weeks she didn't want to let things get too serious or go any further. And then asked me not to back off. Then we hung out even more until she left. Nothing ever happened, not even a kiss. Now she has been home for a few weeks. We have emailed or instant messaged probably 75% of the days. I still like her so much and I'm not sure if I should. Do I keep in touch with her when I know I'll always be wondering if anything could eventually happen if we met again? Not like a long distance relationship but I do want to keep in touch with her in a way that would lead to a relationship eventually, either long distance or otherwise. I've always wondered if she even liked me like I liked her or if she just wanted me as a friend all along but didn't want me to back off as I said I might. Has anyone had something similar happen and could advise me?
folieadeux Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 This sounds more like a friend situation to me. The fact that you guys spent all that time together in person and nothing even remotely romantic happened pretty much says it all. And I'm not even talking about just sex. I think most people would have at least shared a kiss goodbye with the person who was moving back to another country if they felt more than frienship for them. I'd say continue to keep in touch with her as long as you're both on the same page about things. If you still question her feelings, just ask her and go from there.
flickster42490 Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 I've never been in any situation like yours, but it seems to me like the girl was just leading you on...maybe just liked the attention she got from you. She was definitely giving you mixed messages all around. Seems like she doesn't even know what she wanted at first. But after six weeks and nothing happening? It's a dead end, man. I'd just suggest you to move on and find a girl closer to home. The distance and the culture (if applicable) will try their hardest to suffocate the romance before it even happens. And if there wasn't any significant mutual attraction going on when you were closer to her, then none will probably develop with the long-distance. Good luck though.
Author DanielH Posted December 5, 2010 Author Posted December 5, 2010 Thanks guys, even though it isn't happy advice I guess it is what I expected. It was confusing the whole time because she stopped me going further with another girl when she first said she liked me. She gave me just enough for me to think I was always in with a chance and even now I'm still thinking. So frustrating. Hopefully I can get over it soon.
Peppermint11 Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Have you talked to her about it since she moved back or asked her how she's been feeling about you? My SO and I started out-at-a-disatnce and at points I have been closer to Europe then HIM! Ha! I don't think anything is impossible BUT both people need to want it! Clear communication and honesty is also is MUST! Best of luck!
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