carhill Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 I know I'm annoyed when women give me lustful looks, causing me to point to that ring on their left hand. This is often accompanied by them shifting their cleavage canyon and wandering off in search of other validation. Seriously, telepathy or indifference. Make a choice. Up to you. My telepathy string broke, so I'm going with indifference.
Ruby Slippers Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 I do have a boundary of 'checking out' only my date, not other women who happen by, no matter how provocatively dressed. Of course, I was like that when married too. Wait, I'm divorced now; was that such a good idea? This is a rare and good quality, in my book. I would never check out another man in the presence of my man. I think it's rude and disrespectful.
ConstantCraving Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 i'll explain what this means. say you know a girl and you ask her out and half her wardrobe seems to show alot of cleavage. apparently it's a myth they don't want you to look at them. so if you are out in a crowd you can kind of sneak a peek at them. but here you are, just the two of you at a restaurant and they are right across the table from you. and you'd be trying not to look but couldn't help but notice and you want the date to go well. how could you get her to wear something that keeps the twins concealed? She's doing it deliberately. If her wardrobe doesn't have anything more demure in there, its because she didn't buy any clothes that don't look slutty.
irc333 Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 Yeah, if you're on a DATE with a woman, it's almost like you have permission to look a little longer and even comment on them. :-) After all, she's there WITH you. Oh, made this mistake for many years, politely avoiding talking to chests. The men who did got the tit-f*ck. LOL I've seen enough over the years to just think 'swell, here comes another pair'. If the lady likes you, OP, it won't matter if you enjoy the view of her 'girls'. You might also wish to comment on them, flirtatiously. Remember, women are sexual beings too. She might comment on your ass or your 'parts'. Maybe give them a squeeze, like the Charmin. Pretty normal stuff. Loosen up
irc333 Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 Agreed, I don't know WHY women do this, they find a guy that they AREN'T attracted to, getting a good look at their deep cleavage, and they judge HIS character? When it's really HER issue not HIS? I don't get it. How many women think to themselves when they catch an unattractive man looking at their cleavage, "Hey, nice...that ugly man is looking at my boobs....good for him!!" ?? LOL Actually, I've known COOL women not to mind either way, that they're unbiased by physical attraction when it comes to that. You're giving her way to much credit and power. I'm sure there are plenty of people who've faced me in court who thought I was a creep for suing them for not paying me. They're *entitled to their perspective*. That doesn't mean it's binding upon me, or you. If you lust openly, and some people consider that creepy, they do. Accept it. It doesn't define who you are.
carhill Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 I don't know WHY women do this, they find a guy that they AREN'T attracted to, getting a good look at their deep cleavage, and they judge HIS character? Well, if you're going to smack me down with a rhetorical question The wonderful advantage of being unattractive to 99.999% of women is developing a greater discernment of exactly how important that dynamic is in the scheme of life. The unexpected fallout of that refinement of perspective is, oops, attractiveness goes up. Darn it. Or, prior, was it merely perception, just like one gazes upon the cleavage canyon? What's really real?
musemaj11 Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 To women, muscly arms are attractive in the same way boobs are to men. You have no idea. Im serious. The penis is much more handful than the vagina. The higher the guy's testosterone, the more difficult it is for him to control himself when he sees something sexual. It seems women really have no clue how it feels to be a man although it is understandable since they are not men.
irc333 Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 Yeah, men are more visual than women....thus the easy arousal rate for men. Seeing a couple of juggs jigglin' at a nightclud dancefloor is all that's needed.lol You have no idea. Im serious. The penis is much more handful than the vagina. The higher the guy's testosterone, the more difficult it is for him to control himself when he sees something sexual. It seems women really have no clue how it feels to be a man although it is understandable since they are not men.
Mad Max Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 Other than asking her to wear a bibb, I know not. I'f she's showin' 'em, she better not get upset if the guy gets caught a little hypnotized. It's on her then. Agreed. Don't flash your tits and complain because the guys you're not attracted to are staring.
dispatch3d Posted December 5, 2010 Posted December 5, 2010 I kinda realize now she's likely just insecure, although I guess its a little different. Some women probably do it the same as buff guys put pictures of themselves shirtless on profiles. Showing off the muscles, some girls catch that as insecure. Some women I'm sure do it because they figure that's their best "assest". I'm sure others just like to dress hot and don't give a **** where you look .
sally4sara Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Agreed, I don't know WHY women do this, they find a guy that they AREN'T attracted to, getting a good look at their deep cleavage, and they judge HIS character? I don't dress like I'm standing on the corner but I'll wear lower cut tops now and then. And I didn't get in a twist when I caught some guy I didn't find attractive noticing my cleavage. That is just normal human response; whats to judge beyond that he likes boobs? Don't we all? But if I don't know you and I didn't approach you, I don't want to hear from you about it. A simple "you look nice" wouldn't bother me (won't slow my roll either), but I've heard and seen all manner of inappropriate response over something so benign as a little cleavage peeking out. I have come to the conclusion that these over reactive guys don't behave this way for any reason other than to impress their buddies and embarrass whatever woman they're freaking out about. Some of the reactions I've seen couldn't possibly been about trying to get a date. They were so obnoxious about it. Unless its your first glimpse of cleavage ever, you sounding off about it is just rude and immature.
Author griffinchicken53 Posted December 6, 2010 Author Posted December 6, 2010 i kind of got someone in mind. she's a bit on the short side so i'm already having to look down to make eye contact, and if i lower my neck 1 or 2mm more, you get the idea. maybe she is compensating for her height by letting them "breathe" i'd like to go out with her but then scared to thinking i'd screw it up by taking one or so glances......
loverofloveandstuff Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 i kind of got someone in mind. she's a bit on the short side so i'm already having to look down to make eye contact, and if i lower my neck 1 or 2mm more, you get the idea. maybe she is compensating for her height by letting them "breathe" i'd like to go out with her but then scared to thinking i'd screw it up by taking one or so glances...... i wouldn't worry about it. if she likes you, I highly doubt she would mind if she caught you sneaking a peak. She might even feel flattered. Just don't constantly stare at them.
loverofloveandstuff Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Actually, I've known COOL women not to mind either way, that they're unbiased by physical attraction when it comes to that. Exactly!! This is why I am confused by this topic. None of my girlfriends or I care if a guy is checking us out when we are wearing something that flaunts our body so I don't even know what chicks you guys are talking about. We know it's going to happen. I'll only get irritated if some guy yells out some crap to us on the street or says something obscene.
hydorclops Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 loverofloveandstuff and sally4sara both express a perfectly reasonable attitude, but others here have implied that it's not the looking, it's who's looking, that makes it OK or wrong.
Floridaman Posted January 25, 2011 Posted January 25, 2011 i kind of got someone in mind. she's a bit on the short side so i'm already having to look down to make eye contact, and if i lower my neck 1 or 2mm more, you get the idea. maybe she is compensating for her height by letting them "breathe" i'd like to go out with her but then scared to thinking i'd screw it up by taking one or so glances...... Griffin, as you're shy and afraid of making mistakes on dates, don't add this to one of your many worries. Keep your eyes on her, maybe glancing quickly at her "beauties" just occaisionally but don't stare. Be a gentleman. It all seems a big joke to some others here, but women still value men who treat them well. Personally, I think it rude when young women dress with low-cut tops to deliberately attract male attention. When a man looks, he gets in trouble. Don't think they don't know what they're doing. Many women, my wife included, watches what they wear in public and I notice them "covering" themselves with a blouse. If a woman you date dresses provacatively, that should tell you something about her.
Author griffinchicken53 Posted January 30, 2011 Author Posted January 30, 2011 the girl that comes to mind, i don't know if that is how she always dresses. just because a girl goes to a club with her friends and wears something lowcut doesn't mean she's going to go to her boyfriend's grandparents house wearing something with a neckline down to her stomach.
Floridaman Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 the girl that comes to mind, i don't know if that is how she always dresses. just because a girl goes to a club with her friends and wears something lowcut doesn't mean she's going to go to her boyfriend's grandparents house wearing something with a neckline down to her stomach. Of course she's not going to dress inappropriately at relatives' homes. They know men are attracted to their boobs. Maybe they just innocently want men's attention. I dunno. Too bad we men don't have something so similarly easy to snag women's eyes. My wife is very sexy in my eyes - for 52. Bec. of modesty, she has always preferred wearing one-piece swim suits. I like the two-piecers myself. So don't think these women don't know what they're doing. But don't get too hung-up on this anyway, Griffin. Look past that and keep dating women.
Gypsy_Soul Posted January 30, 2011 Posted January 30, 2011 I can agree with the guys on here . I tend to stare at women's boobs popping up out of their turtle-neck too. Seriously, I can't help but find myself looking down at the boobies when someone has them bursting out. I think it's natural to look if they're there.
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