youngskywalker Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 (edited) So I've been talking with this girl for about 5 weeks. We had two great dates right in the beginning and then it just turned into phone calls and text messages because "she was so busy with things in life" No question the last two weeks or so we've been drifting to the point where it's now at a complete stand still. I feel like I've overstayed my welcome at this point. She knows how I feel about her because I've told her. But, she just said she's not ready to label our relationship as far as friends or more than. So I know there is nothing more I can do at this point and it's time to bail. BUT! Do I give her one last final goodbye talk or should I just drop out of site? Trust me on this, if I do give her a goodbye talk I know it's not going to yield the results I'm looking for, or she's just going to string me along for another couple of weeks. So is just quietly leaving the best way to handle this? Keep in mind I'm writing this because I don't want to burn a bridge and would be willing to pick it up again in the future. But maybe it's best not to announce that you're leaving and let the chips fall where they may. Edited December 4, 2010 by youngskywalker
PegNosePete Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 I would tell her that your requirements clearly don't match and therefore you are going to move on.
Author youngskywalker Posted December 4, 2010 Author Posted December 4, 2010 I would tell her that your requirements clearly don't match and therefore you are going to move on. But why? We are not a couple. At this point we are officially friends in my eyes and I'm sure hers too (she could be on the fence but I doubt it). I might want to give her a call in a month or two and see how she's doing. Like I said I'm not looking for closure (or to burn a bridge). I just want to move on. Why am I obligated to tell her?
jam88 Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 (edited) If you want to move on you simply move on. there is no well i need an another answer before i move on. You can get an answer actually from moving on.. I believe a woman's actions is most important here. Her actions clearly state she has no time for you anymore so what does that tell you? It tells me she isnt interested my friend shes too busy for you aswell. you must now move on.. if she wants to go any further she will make it known to you that she does.. It sounds like you went too fast somewhere and she backed off and thought it was too quick. whenever dating a girl i always tell myself to take things slowly as you cant rush from A to B. You must stay at A till B is safe and obvious to go to. 'She knows how I feel about her because I've told her' If she knows why do anything else.. you've done the deed. there is nothing left to do to except move forward with life. 'But, she just said she's not ready to label our relationship as far as friends or more than.' thats why now you must not treat her as gf nor friend anymore and just get on with it. Maybe she will miss you or maybe not. dont let her friendzone you.. keep out of her sight. Drop off the face of the planet but keep your happiness up and try to forget her.. that always works for me. the more you chase bro the more unhappier and frustrated you may become. good luck Edited December 4, 2010 by jam88
Author youngskywalker Posted December 5, 2010 Author Posted December 5, 2010 the more you chase bro the more unhappier and frustrated you may become. good luck I've found that to be true too. I actually at one point did leave but came back and tried again. Now it's harder then it was before!! I knew I should have just wrote this girl off weeks ago as my family and friends told me to do. They are the ones who look out for me and actually care. Thanks for the advice. I was hoping someone would say it's alright to look after yourself and go your own way. Especially when a girl isn't showing interest. I know she doesn't care one bit about me even though in the beginning is seemed like it was so perfect.
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