Switch Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 okay so basically this is my story, ive been friends with this one girl for about 4 years now, and over time and inevitably i started to well love her. the problem is, she has a boyfriend, and this is where the problem begins. It was the end of junior year that i told her how i felt about her, and she told me it wouldnt make things awkward at all, which it didnt. but then summer came around. me and her bf were already on bad terms, so i didnt see her the entire summer. going back to school was different though, we havent talked since the end of junior year despite seeing each other every day, but we text and facebook chat almost every day even though we havent had a real conversation in six months. its getting to the point where anything i say over text or any instant messaging program is becoming obsolete. im trying to get over her, but it hasnt worked. heres where im confused, every week or so, she texts me asking me why i wont talk to her. this has been happening every week for the past 3 months. i know this is just my opinion but, you wouldnt keep doing that just for a friend right? sure i would text a few times, but this has been going on for so long. i would do anything for this girl, but i feel i shouldnt be the one to say hi first.is there something she isnt telling me? how do i get through to her? should i be the first one to talk to her?
youaretheone Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 I will be honest with you here. From my experience, as soon as you make it known that you are falling for the friend, even though she says things will be the same, they will never be. If you have a very strong friendship, things might take different routes. If she is still calling you and trying to talk to you after knowing about your feelings and rejecting you, there are three possible scenarios: 1) She also started falling for you and wants to reconcile. 2) She values you too much as a friend and does not want to lose connection at all. 3) She misses the attention you have been giving her and wants to keep you as a back up. You have to look for more clues to see which one fits your scenario the best, but I would vote for the last one, which is the case most of the time in such occasions.
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