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So I had a three year relationship that ended last June, I was pretty beat up for a few weeks, but found a great deal of things to do for myself, learned some things about myself and have actually had a great Aug - Nov.

 

I am 30 and in mid Oct I met a pretty great girl who is 29. I found everything about her attractive but did not know if I wanted any type of relationship. I felt like I might just be filling a void and that would be wrong for me and her.

 

Since meeting we have spent maybe 15 or 20 hours talking on the phone (just getting to know each other kind of stuff) and have hung in person 5 or 6 times. I know we are each starting to develop feelings for each other and the last time we hung out (3 days ago), she made a comment about wishing I had dated someone else after my breakup before getting to know her. I believe she is concerned that I view her as the rebound girl, and will end things with her once I get what I want. (All I really know right now is that I would like to see her in the future, go slow and see where things go).

 

So my question is how to approach a real discussion about this with her, the conversation we had when she brought this up was really just me saying I haven't thought about my ex in several months, I feel like things in my life are great for me right now, and I want to just take things slow with her but do feel something could really develop between us in the future.

 

Any ideas about how else to broach the topic with her further would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.

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What you said sounds perfect to me. Take it slow and see what happens. Continue to be honest with her and keep the communication open. That's really all you can do. : )

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