sam light Posted December 14, 2010 Posted December 14, 2010 Harshly enough, in the old days a BP (we called them other names then) male, would learn to control himself because he was frequently beaten up when he started going off on people. Not a cure, but it was a control. No one wants to be bet up. I'm not saying that was right, just saying that's how it was. As recently as the early 80's society in the USA was closer to the macho culture of the less advanced countries. A side effect was that ADD, Bi Polar, spoiled kids, pompus guys, aggressive panhandlers and just about any other offensive party, was dealt with in a macho way. As you said Not a cure but it was a good control. Now that we are softer, the above mentioned are everywhere. And when traveling in Latin America, Africa, parts of Europe and Asia, we are exposed to tht macho culture.
Author hART Posted December 14, 2010 Author Posted December 14, 2010 This must of been horrible to be a male BP back then, because men were thought to be rational creatures, free of emotions. To have an emotional illness must of stripped them of their masculinity, causing them to overcompensate.
Template Posted December 27, 2010 Posted December 27, 2010 Takes a special person to get into a relationship with someone who is BPD, regardless if they are "stable" or not. I think a person with super human abilities in patience is a prerequisite. This is NOT a knock on people with BPD, but rather an admiration of people who can handle people with BPD. I, like many people, felt that my ex was BPD, and I would have stuck with her through thick and thin, but alas, it just wasn't meant to be.
Author hART Posted December 31, 2010 Author Posted December 31, 2010 Yeah, my ex was also BP like me, but it didn't matter I loved him. This sucks. Men want to use me for sex and won't love me. How would any woman feel if people told them that? I'm a good person, that really hurts.
tinktronik Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 Yeah, my ex was also BP like me, but it didn't matter I loved him. This sucks. Men want to use me for sex and won't love me. How would any woman feel if people told them that? I'm a good person, that really hurts. This is not necessarily true. My SIL is bipolar and has been happily married to a very devoted husband for 20 years. There are lots of fantastic, loving, special people out there who will love you for you because they can recognize that you are loving and special and fantastic too.
Author hART Posted December 31, 2010 Author Posted December 31, 2010 Yeah, I all confused because I just got out of a sex based living situation, where I started wanting more immediately. Where do I find a decent man who wants a 28 year old BP?
tinktronik Posted December 31, 2010 Posted December 31, 2010 Yeah, I all confused because I just got out of a sex based living situation, where I started wanting more immediately. Where do I find a decent man who wants a 28 year old BP? You find him the same way you find any other partner, at a library, coffee house, athletic event, cafe. ect. You just get to know him well before you become official or have sex and make sure he gets to know you, both the sides you are proud of and the sides you are not.
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