chise Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 I used to date this guy and things got really intense. Then out of the blue he disappeared. Not completely as we kept in touch during the last two months but I assumed it was over. During this time he reiterated he wanted to see me again. I decided to give it a try again and we went out last week. The date was really good and we had a great time together. We made out all night long but we didn't have sex. I am traveling now for three weeks and he texted saying he had a great time with me and wanted to see me when I am back. I texted back saying I also want to see him but I hope this time he does not disappear again. Three days later he texted saying "I am not disappeared jut very busy with ... I want to see you. It is a good idea to see each other when you are back (actually it was my idea ) tonight hopefully I send you the dates which will work for me and we will compared it with yours". We exchanged two jokes and that's it. He didn't send me these dates yet. Am I setting for a heartbreak again ? I know he is passing an important exam next week so I do not know what to think. I am not planning to contacting him if he does not reply but I am a bit confused. What is this all about ? Is he really serious in seeing each other again ?
xpaperxcutx Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 What does he do? I can't imagine anyone disappearing unless they're just not that into you or their jobs have them flying around the world every week or so. Chances are, he met someone immediately right after you, and only came back now because it didn't work out with the other person. Don't get your hopes up with people who tend to text more than seeing you in person.
Author chise Posted December 3, 2010 Author Posted December 3, 2010 What I mean by disappearing is that I got the sense something was wrong. He stop replying to my texts, replying ten days after and I felt like he didn't want to spend time with me as before. He stopped being as caring as he used to be. I confronted him and he said that he was trying to back off a bit.
xpaperxcutx Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 What I mean by disappearing is that I got the sense something was wrong. He stop replying to my texts, replying ten days after and I felt like he didn't want to spend time with me as before. He stopped being as caring as he used to be. I confronted him and he said that he was trying to back off a bit. You didn't answer my question. What does he do? I know what you meant by disappearing and I still stand by what I said. There's no way a person takes two week to reply unless he's seeing someone else or he's not all that into you. I wouldn't believe him if he told me his phone broke.
O'Malley Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 (edited) Don't get your hopes up with people who tend to text more than seeing you in person. This can't be said enough on LS. A genuinely interested person -- unless they are legitimately swamped with work -- will make the effort to spend time with you instead of texting. And they won't drop out of sight for days or weeks on end, then pop back in your life as if nothing was wrong with that. Edited December 3, 2010 by O'Malley
Author chise Posted December 3, 2010 Author Posted December 3, 2010 It is very complicated. I live in Paris an he lives in England. He always thought this relationship was very difficult so this is the reason he disappeared. Maybe he is seeing someone else, how to know .. He is very busy at work but yes, I am busy too and ths is not an excuse. My real question is, as the conditions are still the same why tell me that he wants to see me if he does not mean it ? If it was just about sex he could sleep with me again last week and he didn't ... But again, maybe I am just on denial
xpaperxcutx Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 It is very complicated. I live in Paris an he lives in England. He always thought this relationship was very difficult so this is the reason he disappeared. Maybe he is seeing someone else, how to know .. He is very busy at work but yes, I am busy too and ths is not an excuse. My real question is, as the conditions are still the same why tell me that he wants to see me if he does not mean it ? If it was just about sex he could sleep with me again last week and he didn't ... But again, maybe I am just on denial Ehhhh... I hate when people give snippets of information instead of just being forthright with the first post. Anything else you like to add?
Author chise Posted December 7, 2010 Author Posted December 7, 2010 What is the point of doing that ? I sent him an email on saturday just wishing him good luck and asking him about the dates as I wanted to organize my multiple things .. Very light and friendly. NO REPLY AT ALL. I realize he does not give a sh*t about me but I do not understand why he said he wanted to see me and all this if he didn't mean it .. I didn't ask to see him, it was HIS idea as he said, and he knows about my feelings. It is hurtful and really pointless. Not so long ago this guy was crazy about me and I cannot stop thinking I messed up showing I have feelings for him.
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