johan Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 Let me try to understand this, because someone might have a girlfriend (or boyfriend) they must immediately conform to the others demands and wishes....or else? Thats what it really boils down to, isnt it? Or else. Or else what? That's kind of how life works. Or else. Or else what? Or else your image suffers, people's lose respect for you for being selfish, and your girlfriend's resentment level goes up a little. Even if she says "it's ok, Joe. Stay home and play XBox." One day, she'll let you know she has someone else in mind to take.
Author Green Posted December 4, 2010 Author Posted December 4, 2010 Nothings wrong with work christmas parties... just not as good as a regular party... especialy if its not your work.. I wasn't going to say "No" to her because she wanted me to come and I expect her to come to things I want her to come too. I had about 3 vodka tonics and they were nice and strong. My gf told me to get to the party at 655 and not be late... so thats what I did and I was the first person at the party other then the president and his wife who were hosting. My gf got there like 10 minutes later (she had been one of the few still at work finishing up a big project due that day). My gf kept saying things to me that I was worried others would over hear so that was funny. Stuff like "look its the presidents asssistant doesn't she look like a younger version of his wife." I didn't like seeing this one young good looking guy who works at my gf's office grrrr. The food was good. they had an asortment of apatizers like stuffed mushrooms, shrimp, fresh mozerela and tomatoe on fresh herbs and balsamic. I got a good ceaser salad. Had some really good steak and finished it off with a lava cake, Ice cream an capacino. I even ate some of my gf's ministrone soup and lobster crab ravioli.
AverageJoe Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 That's kind of how life works. Thats how your life works. Or else your image suffers, people's lose respect for you for being selfish, and your girlfriend's resentment level goes up a little. Even if she says "it's ok, Joe. Stay home and play XBox." One day, she'll let you know she has someone else in mind to take I never had their respect to begin with. They dont know me, and I dont know them. Hey you label things as much as you like. Selfish, yeah. Sometimes I am, so is everyone, yet for some reason that has been deemed a derrogatory term. If she wants to drag some poor sap down there, so be it. There will be other men there too. All looking at each other in the eyes of an emtpy soul which used to be a man. Much like when you go to Ikea and see the same ****. Girls leading their man around by the hand fondling wicker furniture telling you how incredible it will look in the living room. Poor sucker could be getting laid a couple times a week. Instead, all that wicker funiture is going on his credit card.
Feelin Frisky Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 Depends on your g/f's job. I started dating this one and she told me her boss was cutting back this year (this was a while ago). She said the previous year he flew everyone out to Aspen CO from NY for the Christmas Party. But this year (a while ago again,) we're just settling for the Rainbow Room in Rockefeller Center in NYC (NBC Television HQ's were in the offices below). I didn't know anyone but I was treated like a king. The next year we went to this private mansion in Westchester NY where it was top shelf everything. Everyone got limousine vouchers to go home with no matter where you lived so it's was get as hammered and wild as you like. They hired pro-photographers to photo us all as couples. It was pretty posh. My company had some pretty expensive bashes too at the big NY hotels and one time we rented out the Palladium. Nobody was keeping score on anyone or having those awkward small talk situations--it was night life movie style. But I've also gone to ****e ones too with just the small office and the gossip hounds waiting for the first person to make a mistake to character assassinate.
Author Green Posted December 4, 2010 Author Posted December 4, 2010 Thats how your life works. I never had their respect to begin with. They dont know me, and I dont know them. Hey you label things as much as you like. Selfish, yeah. Sometimes I am, so is everyone, yet for some reason that has been deemed a derrogatory term. If she wants to drag some poor sap down there, so be it. There will be other men there too. All looking at each other in the eyes of an emtpy soul which used to be a man. Much like when you go to Ikea and see the same ****. Girls leading their man around by the hand fondling wicker furniture telling you how incredible it will look in the living room. Poor sucker could be getting laid a couple times a week. Instead, all that wicker funiture is going on his credit card. I've been dragged down to ikea to but that **** is heavy and they don't help load it so what kind of guy would I be if I just let my gf lift her furniture into her car with out help. Depends on your g/f's job. I started dating this one and she told me her boss was cutting back this year (this was a while ago). She said the previous year he flew everyone out to Aspen CO from NY for the Christmas Party. But this year (a while ago again,) we're just settling for the Rainbow Room in Rockefeller Center in NYC (NBC Television HQ's were in the offices below). I didn't know anyone but I was treated like a king. The next year we went to this private mansion in Westchester NY where it was top shelf everything. Everyone got limousine vouchers to go home with no matter where you lived so it's was get as hammered and wild as you like. They hired pro-photographers to photo us all as couples. It was pretty posh. My company had some pretty expensive bashes too at the big NY hotels and one time we rented out the Palladium. Nobody was keeping score on anyone or having those awkward small talk situations--it was night life movie style. But I've also gone to ****e ones too with just the small office and the gossip hounds waiting for the first person to make a mistake to character assassinate. all her office parties have been top notch. Red carpet style with people being flown in ect. tonight I could have had a room and shuttle to a 5 star hotel if I wanted. Thats another reason I don't like it... I'm kinda a bum right now with no job... and I have to see all these guys who make salaries of like half a million and over and listen to conversations about how they are buying expensive jewlery and sht. It's like I'm at the Harvard/Yale reunion at these fcking things. I'm horrible too, woke up today at like 1pm didn't eat till like 330... sht I don't even know what I did before the party... took a good ****/shave/shower and then had some awkward talk with my next door neighbors who I confronted last week about feeding the cats. (I told them feed the cats away from our homes like by the forest) and the woman acted like she wasn't going to listen... but she was doing what I told her so I was happy. I was like RACOONS and she was like they come anyways...and I was like just feed them in the forest... and holy **** she listened... wonder how long that will last. So I get to the party and these are like the first REAL people I've spoken to all day (I don't count the 5 words I said to my neighbors) It was awkward as hell, but the food and drinks were great and a woman gave me a good business idea I'm going to look into.
Surrealist Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 How come you're unemployed? I thought you would be the type who could woo any prospective employer.
Author Green Posted December 4, 2010 Author Posted December 4, 2010 How come you're unemployed? I thought you would be the type who could woo any prospective employer. Why I'm unemployed is a long story. Basicly the answer to that lies within what I'm trying to do is some what tricky in the begining (and its the begining) and I only want to work in one city and I've been really lazy for atleast a few weeks now. I'm depressed for what seems like no good reason... I really have everything going good for me, I look great, I feel great, I'm a big sucsess... and maybe thats what it is who knows. I want to do something very specific and it isn't an easy job to get. I'm angry too at the world. Another reason I didn't want to go out in the world to a christmas party but oh well maybe it was good for me I did get an idea from some one there like I said. I'll look into that monday
BambooLand Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 Oh come on, Green man, make the best of it and be a stand-up guy for your GF. You may get some Lord shaking boogy woogy sex afterwords so that is worth it in it's own.
Els Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 Thats how your life works. While I agree with you in principle, Green stated that he expects his gf to attend his functions as well. So it was only fair that he go for hers.
Stung Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 While I agree with you in principle, Green stated that he expects his gf to attend his functions as well. So it was only fair that he go for hers. Indeed. I sometimes do nice things for my husband that aren't always my personal first choice of things to do, and I expect--and receive--the same from him. I'm not sure why cooperation and reciprocity are such foreign concepts to some people.
Els Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Indeed. I sometimes do nice things for my husband that aren't always my personal first choice of things to do, and I expect--and receive--the same from him. I'm not sure why cooperation and reciprocity are such foreign concepts to some people. Well, I think there are two ways to cooperate. THe first being, if you and I both hate such stuff so much, we don't go for each others'. The second being, if we both don't really mind and we'd like each other to come, we go for each others'. Both fair and reciprocal.
Stung Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 (edited) Well, I think there are two ways to cooperate. THe first being, if you and I both hate such stuff so much, we don't go for each others'. The second being, if we both don't really mind and we'd like each other to come, we go for each others'. Both fair and reciprocal. Well--I don't disagree with this, in principle, but I think it depends on circumstances. Some job positions make it a little more awkward if one partner doesn't show up. I never cared if he came to my office events, I mostly only worked with one other editor and I only go to events myself if I feel I have to, it's all dependent on the client. However, while I don't enjoy going to my husband's office parties, I always go anyway because I'm the boss' wife and it's expected by colleagues, employees and investors, and could be awkward for him if I was a repeat no-show at those kinds of events. Also, he is proud of his family and enjoys introducing me and the kids around. I'd have to be pretty self-absorbed to refuse to go for a few hours a couple times per year, IMO. Edited December 6, 2010 by Stung
zengirl Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Well--I don't disagree with this, in principle, but I think it depends on circumstances. Some job positions make it a little more awkward if one partner doesn't show up. I never cared if he came to my office events, I mostly only worked with one other editor and I only go to events myself if I feel I have to, it's all dependent on the client. However, while I don't enjoy going to my husband's office parties, I always go anyway because I'm the boss' wife and it's expected by colleagues, employees and investors, and could be awkward for him if I was a repeat no-show at those kinds of events. Also, he is proud of his family and enjoys introducing me and the kids around. I'd have to be pretty self-absorbed to refuse to go for a few hours a couple times per year, IMO. This is the thing. When I was in advertising, it was very important to me that my boyfriend came to events with me. It was part of dating me. I've worked other places where I didn't give 2 figs, but it all depends on the expectations the person is under. I hate weddings, but I'd never refuse to go to one if an SO asked and I go to my friend's weddings just the same. . . and, really, once I get there, they aren't so bad. Part of having relationships with people is attending events that are important to them. However, as Elsywth mentioned, if it's not important to them, that's a different story. But I think digging into "how" important it is, or negotiating, kind of misses the point. I hate calculation in relationships----like the whole, "If I do this, will you do this" stuff. I try to stay far, far away from that. It works better when both partners give freely.
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