Livelovelearn Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 Hello All, I was thinking about this situation that I feel many people have all gone through and I was just wondering what others thought about this. If you have been in a long term relationship and your partner says to you "I don't feel the same anymore" (which could be due to other stresses in their life, or the fact that you have been fighting a lot more) and they decided to break up with you as they were confused, how did you handle it? Do you all feel that people who say this, can eventually rethink their decision after a while and feel interested in their ex partner again. Have some of you experienced this? Just wondering what are your thoughts?
Author Livelovelearn Posted December 3, 2010 Author Posted December 3, 2010 Well ill start off with my story....my ex and i had been together for about 3 years. He pursued me and got to know me mentally before anything. He fell in love fast and eventually i started to feel the same. He made me feel like no other (well he was my first love). He always said he was so close to me and seen me as being important to him like his mom and family. I loved him so much and i agree that i did somewhat lose myself in the relationship.But for the most part it was a good relationship and he always listened to me, he was wonderful and i wish he knew how i felt. I have never been that great with expressing myself. Anyway we did break up once and had couple months apart and finally when i decided to let go he came back saying he still loved me. After we got back things were sooo good for the couple months, then old problems came back (he was looking on dating sites when we got into fights) and i told him i didnt like it. I became jealous and insecure. We fought alot and i think he became less tolerant of me. He did tell me in jan 2010 that he didnt feel the same anymore, he felt suffocated and i just didnt understand. Anyway we broke up in feb and he rebounded into a relationship that i didnt know about . I found out in april and i felt he cheated and we stopped talking, the other woman stopped talking to him as she didnt know about me and he told her alot of lies that he'd been single for over a year. We started talking back in august as friends but im not happy with that. I wonder if people can change their minds after a while...and how does it happen?...has anyone ever said this or had this happen to them?
strength-abounds Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 (edited) My story goes like this. Relocated in December to care for sick mother. EW followed a month later. In March decided to go to college to get my dream job. Things quickly became chaotic when I found out my EW was sleeping with my cousin and another dude in a nearby town. I confronted her about it, got accused of being emotionally abusive, and I was told I wasn't the same man she married. At first, I wanted to save the marriage but I changed one day when my EW told me I didn't deserve to be her husband. In the desire to be the man she married 9 nine years ago, I enacted the same resolution I had when I was younger. I refuse to be a plan b to any woman, married to her or not. Since then, I have realized that she is not or never will be a good wife for me. Been happy ever since I gave up hope. That's it in a nutshell. Edited December 3, 2010 by strength-abounds I missed details.
Author Livelovelearn Posted December 4, 2010 Author Posted December 4, 2010 Strength-abounds, I am sorry about your situation. It is hard when two people close to you betrays you like that. I can tell you that you deserve better than that. It is definitely a hard situation. However you situation is a bit different from the ì dont feel the same anymore`` excuse that people often use. It seems your ex has thought she deserved better...so in other words grass is greener syndrome..overall it is quite the same if i think about it. Im glad to hear that you are doing better. I hope that one day i can give up hope 100% and not look back.
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