strength-abounds Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 During this past week on campus, the topic of being single during the holidays and how miserable these people are because they are single was very prevelant. All I could was smile at these people and loathe their self pity. I am single during the holidays as a choice. Having exited a 9 year relationship since last Xmas, I want to enjoy not having the typical pressures associated with Xmas. I have enclosed 5 reasons why it's great to be single during the holidays and would love to hear anymore from anyone. 1. I don't have to stress and rush to find the "perfect" gift for a significant other, only to be kicked in the sack when it doesn't match her eyes. 2. I don't have to worry about looking like an industrial fat a** in front of a new girlfriend when eating my mom's amazing Xmas ham for Xmas dinner. 3. No misteltoe or eggnog indiscretions for me this year. 4. I am not going to be dragged to every pile of s*** department store looking at the newest f****** power ranger for some chick's kid brother. 5. I saved the best one for last. I will not get to hear, "Does this red and white candy cane stripped sweater with Santa Claus and Rudolph make me look fat?" No honey, you make Santa and Rudolph look fat.
fishtaco Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 Being single isn't that bad. It's not better than being in a relationship, it's also not worse, it's just different. Some people don't want to be single because they're afraid of being single, loneliness or whatever. Well, go out and make friends. My family's not around (well, was never close to them anyway), I should be susceptible to loneliness too. But I had four invitation to Thanksgiving from friends and I made two of them, had a great time. Also, it's ok to feel lonely sometimes. A person is not going to die from it. Use the "me" time to do something for yourself. All good. Maybe because I grew up in a dysfunctional family, and I learned how to be by myself and be independent. I've known women that can't even go to bed by themselves unless they have another person in bed with them. They have to be constantly surrounded by people, by family or sometimes... by me. So maybe it's easier for me and would be unfair for me to declare it's not that big of a deal. I don't know. Being single you enjoy freedom, you don't have to worry about anyone but yourself, you can do whatever you want, whenever you want. But it's hard on your self esteem, the dating scene is a roller coaster ride, lot's of ups and downs. Being in a relationship (a good one), you feel comfortable, impact to self esteem is not even a consideration, but you have to do everything for two, you inherit the other person's drama/issues, you have to compromise. Not better, not worse, just different. But... because single people do feel lonely during the holiday seasons, maybe it's a good time to get some numbers.
Author strength-abounds Posted December 3, 2010 Author Posted December 3, 2010 I honestly can say I don't miss the associated drama that accompanies a signifcant other during the holidays, hence my list of things are benetificial of singletons during the holidays. I agree, having someone to curl up with to watch a good movie sounds nice but then there is compromises that I am not willing to make right now.
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