alexlakeman Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 I recently threw away all the cards, memroy shi.t ect from my last 4-5 last long term relatiobships (not just a couple mths). Now, I've been entertaing deleting theirs pics. This includes our "couple / decent" pics, and d not so decent pics , ahemmm some porn. I'm not and have never put these pics out there b4 anyone says anything. I do glance at some of the pics once in a while, nice memories. Unfortunately with two of the ex's we did travel so there are vacation pics as well. I'm tempted to just delete them all, but afraid I might regret It later lol. Maybe zip them and archive them, just delete? Ughh I know 2 or 3 of my exes had deleted all d pics from their past (then again maybe they just put it on a cd and stored away). That's not the point weather they did or not. My thought is that it's sooooooooooooooo much eaiser for women to dump all pics and traces of a relationship, turn the page, and move. Men? Women? So what do you do, hoard the memories or dump them? I want to dump em this wknd if I do. Or archive or put on cd.
callingyouuu Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 I'm usually for dumping stuff like that. I find it better to start off with a clean slate whenever you can. It depends on the nature of the relationship, though; if we still remained friends afterwards, I don't see much harm in keeping the pictures (except the porn, which is just kind of awkward).
emz82 Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 id defo delete the porn ones...i dnt see things going down well if you have a new gf and she finds them.Maybe some of the vacation ones you could keep.Obviously there are other reasons for keeping them not just to rememner your exes lol Just be careful i know if i found pics that my partner had kept from a previous relationships i would question it.But maybe thats just me.Just defo delete the porn ones lol
carhill Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 I'm trying to imagine my exW burning her scrapbooks from her previous marriage, montages lovingly conceived during those happy times, or those she made during our M. Nope, not working. Same with the good memories (and evidence thereof) I made during our M. A divorce indicates things didn't work out. It doesn't mean that things never worked or that there aren't good memories from those relationships. I can look at those pictures, now not in the forefront, and know, even with the painful ending, we *did* have good times together and those are valuable memories to take forward into life. When it ends, all one has, if one is lucky, is memories, and IMO it's the good ones which are worth having. YMMV We didn't do 'porn' so no worries there, but, yeah, that stuff would go, mainly out of respect.
Titania22 Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 I can't say I have chucked out old photos of me with my exhusband, even though I hate him. Of course he is my childrens father and they may like to see such photos at some time. It just seems like part of the record of my life. So I would say, box the memories, one day decades from now you might be curious to be reminded. I know my mum has an old box of photos and in there is a photo of someone she dated before she met my father. It's no big deal. A fun curiosity for your decendents if you end up having any. So maybe just keep the best one or two.
Art_Critic Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 I want to dump em this wknd if I do. Or archive or put on cd. Dump the naked pics and archive the rest of the ones that mean something onto a cd/dvd and put away.. People have photo albums of their past and just put 'em away.. Digital pics are the same except you just burn them to cd/dvd..
xpaperxcutx Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 Get rid of the porn, and if the vacation pics are worth archiving, save them on a disc rather than on your computer. Most of the picture I have of my ex, I already deleted them years ago. They're really not worth keeping. It's like why do I really want to keep staring at his face when I didn't even want to be with him?
Author alexlakeman Posted December 4, 2010 Author Posted December 4, 2010 Well no one goes in my pc... and on the rare occasion when they have, I have been right there, I have a lock on it, always have.. Just as my cell phone, my comment is "the day you start paying my cell phone or my laptop, then you can go in it, until then, that's my private space"... then again, I did NOT do that when I lived with my ex g/f, but that was yearssss ago and I had no historical pics, etc.. Now, years later, I've accumulated quite a number of pics and ex gfs, lol You guys have a point in keeping the ones within vacation.. and deleting the others.. I rarely do look at the porn ones anyway..but damn. hitting that delete key will be hard, lol.. I'll review tonight, worse case scenario, I'll start by just zipping them up and deleting some, not sure..
green_tea Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 If you find it hard to delete pictures, then imo you are not over this person.
Author alexlakeman Posted December 4, 2010 Author Posted December 4, 2010 If you find it hard to delete pictures, then imo you are not over this person. Thanks for your opinion... but it doesn't apply here.. I can see if it was 1 recent gf, but a bunch of them from the last 6 mths - 5 or 6 yrs? LOL...
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