Why would my boyfriend delete her comment on Facebook?

[chelle21689]

My boyfriend recently added this girl from a party he met. I know this because I looked at mutual friends of the guy that recently had the party. She wrote on his wall

 

Her: "Oh my goshhh how rude! I didn't even wash my itouch before accepting your request. :// I'm ashamed and disgusted with myself. :///"

Him: You should be. I am.

Her: Oh hey! Way to give me a LAND line number to text you!

 

And the next day he deleted "Oh Hey! Way to give me a LAND line number!". I'm guessing he didn't think I saw it. I checked her out and she doesn't seem good-looking and his type. She's 19 but looks 15 (Me and my boyfriend are 21). They both have photography in common as a hobby...but it still makes me suspicious why he deleted it.

 

He never deletes things even if it does look bad from other female friends. I want to ask him about it but I'm afraid he'll get mad at me for being jealous. I mean really, why give out his number to her?

[emz82]

personally i would outright ask him otherwise it will drive you nuts wondering.It could be quite simple as to why he did.Dont get angry just ask him calmy otherwise he might think hes being accused

[chelle21689]

Haha, I called him and he didn't get mad. Instead he laughed and said he even asked his friend whether he should delete it or not cuz he's afraid I'd get mad but then again if I saw it already and he deleted it then I would get madder. He figured I didn't see it yet so deleted it. Apparently he gave her the wrong number on purpose...I don't know why.

 

Why would he friend request her but give her the wrong number? I'm confused.

[quankanne]

probably controlling her access to him. After all, YOU can't monitor a private phone call, but you CAN see what she writes on facebook. Maybe him erasing the comment about the landline number was so that no one volunteered the actual phone number?

[chelle21689]

Gosh, I hope he understands how I feel. It doesn't seem right to meet some girl at a party, give her the number, and think she's just going to want to be friends...if he does, he's an idiot.

[chelle21689]

He wasn't annoyed the first time, but when I called him the second time and he got annoyed and said that the conversation was over. We're long distance (together 3 years but 2 years long dist) so it really gets to me and I am clingy and insecure sometimes. I'm afraid that I'm annoying him now that I asked again.

[make me believe]

Well, I think it's inappropriate for him to be befriending random girls at parties and adding them on facebook. Of course that's going to make you wonder, especially when he starts deleting comments from them! It's weird that he gave her a fake number to text him. If she asked for his number at the party, why didn't he just tell her that he has a girlfriend?? I don't think he should be annoyed at you for being insecure & wondering about this. He should be trying to reassure you that he's not doing anything shady.

[Els]

Chelle... Don't you think this has gone on long enough? Look back at your post history. How many threads have you made suspecting your bf and another girl??? Do you think this is healthy for you emotionally?

 

I don't remember what he did for you to be this distrustful, but I remember him cheating on you before (yes?). In that case, the onus is on HIM to rebuild trust in any way he can if he wants the R to work out, and he doesn't seem to be doing that at all. You should remind him of that.

 

And on your own end, you need to be able to let go and trust, or if you cannot for any reason (because he is still not acting trustworthy, or if the memory of him cheating just won't go away no matter how hard you try), leave.

 

No good R arouses suspicions like this so very often.

[Woman In Blue]

He's 21 years old. Not NEARLY old enough to be responsible or caged in by a "long distance" relationship. He's doing what boys his age do - trying to lay everything that isn't nailed down.

 

Apparently (according to another poster) he's cheated in the past. You're setting yourself up for a huge disappointment if you continue expecting a boy to act like a man. It's not going to happen anytime soon. Sorry.

[Els]

He's 21 years old. Not NEARLY old enough to be responsible or caged in by a "long distance" relationship. He's doing what boys his age do - trying to lay everything that isn't nailed down.

 

Apparently (according to another poster) he's cheated in the past. You're setting yourself up for a huge disappointment if you continue expecting a boy to act like a man. It's not going to happen anytime soon. Sorry.

 

You have been going around making excuses for all posts about bad behaviour by men, by citing their age as a sole reason.

 

There is no reason why a boy of a certain age, assuming he is past puberty, should be expected to be any less mature than a girl of the same age. Contrary to your belief, not all 21-year-old guys try to bed any remotely-female-appearing being they see.

[chelle21689]

No, he hasn't cheated on me. Not that I know of lol. If he did it'd be over for sure. I never said he did on here.

[Els]

No, he hasn't cheated on me. Not that I know of lol. If he did it'd be over for sure. I never said he did on here.

 

Oops, sorry about that.

 

Then you really need to ask yourself why you have no less than 5 threads in the span of a few months, all about you feeling insecure about something your bf is doing with another girl.