murah989 Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 I really appreciate the help everyone posts on these forums. It really puts things into perspective for me and calms me. This will probably be my last post regarding my date seeing as things didn't quite go that well. Anyway, here we go! My date ( lets call her C) and I decided to get together last night to watch harry potter. I was a little disappointed at first because seeing as this was our 4th date together, I wanted to do something fun. For some reason, there was absolutely no chemistry. I really think this girl is attractive, and really has her head on straight. However, shes one of those girls who does NOTHING to initiate anything, despite her so-called attraction to me ( very frustrating.). I felt unlike our last date, which involved much tons of convo, and just general closeness, this one felt like a bunch of small talk. I felt like I had to dig up the most useless things to keep from going into silence. The movies were fine, although I noticed a few particular things that made me start to think things were going south. 1. Body language was COMPLETELY closed. I've never seen a person wrap themselves tighter in their own arms and legs. 2. Kept having to leave for the bathroom, which lol is whatever, but I just thought it was funny because she'd always put on her jacket and take everything with her...I thought she ditched me at one point. 3. No talking...yet again ( we were alone in the theater just fyi lol) We did hold hands..but it felt forced :/ After the movie ended, more awkward silence followed by more awkward conversations. Once we reached her car the guillotine came down! " I've been thinking, but i'm just too busy for a relationship." I saw this coming, and I didn't see it at the same time. I figured she was just the shy, busy, workaholic type...Seems i was wrong. Attraction and interest were non-existent. Now I did something afterwards which I'm proud of, yet I equally am surprised at. She said " lets just be friends" (NOOOOOOO ha ha). Of course, being the old me I would have wussed out and agreed. However, I decided to say this "I respectively decline" She told me to have a nice life, we shook hands and that was it. Now I did this for two reasons and I regret it for one. 1. Being friends with a girl that you like is super hard, and if shes never going to reciprocate then its hopeless. Especially if she gets a new boyfriend...I can't deal with that. 2. I got the LJBF when I was in middle school from a girl I still crush on here and there...its been over 10 years!!!! I can't do that again!! and I regret not being her friend because I'm generally lonely and it would have been nice to meet new people. Its a catch 22 I suppose. Needless to say, her number is gone ( despite being extremely easy to memorize), facebook is gone, texts are gone..everything is gone. My final thoughts on this is that I'm surprisingly relieved. Although I did like her, a part of my thinks I liked the IDEA of her more than the person she actually was. I was frustrated more than I felt the butterflies which is not a way I want to start a loving relationship. I also ruined this for myself because of my neediness and just overall intenseness in the dating world. I'm still not over my ex, and this just proves it. Learn from my mistakes LS, and realize that sometimes the best thing to do in life is focus on your family, your friends, your job, and just you. The relationships will come when you least expect it!
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