lyeex Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 i was wondering, has anyone had a friend with benefits and had them come back wanting a relationship with you? i met this guy and saw him for about 4 or 5 months. we were never together, so i guess you'd call us FWB, but we never talked about it. there were times he asked me what we were, and i didnt know. that was before i wanted a relationship with him. later on i told him that i wanted more, and i guess he changed his mind about wanting a relationship, and told me we should just keep "hanging out" and go from there. he slowly let me go, stopped talking to me and wanting to see me. the last straw for me was when he invited me over then completely blew me off, and didnt hear from him after that. i decided to do NC about 5 days ago. i deleted him off my social networking sites so that he'd see that i was done with all of this. but the thing is, i still want a relationship with him. i know that it's unlikely to happen. i have feelings for him, but i'm moving on, or trying to. im kind of hoping that not contacting him for a while will make him see his life without me in it, and maybe realize he has feelings for me? but i know that it will most likely not happen.
AlisaMarie Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 Yeah... it's probably not going to happen. It's really hard to be FWB then get into a relationship. I had one guy like that in my life. At first I really liked him, then I realized he was a player. I was in a down point in my life and kept hanging out with him even though I knew it would never be more than what it was. I really started to have feelings for him ... it was bizarre. We were even telling each other that we loved one another. Eventually, I met someone else and cut him off. I was honest too- I told him that this was not a fulfilling relationship and I needed much more. He knew he couldn't give me what I really wanted. I got over it really fast once I met someone that gave me a relationship with everything... not just sex. You will figure this out.
Livelovelearn Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 let it go hun, it wont happen. i had a situation like that as well and i kept pushing for a relationship. eventually he gave in, but it wasnt the relationship i wanted. he just did it to get me to stop bugging him. trust me you dont want that, realize that you deserve better and next time make sure a man gets to know you mentally and emotionally before he gets into your pants. I realized that i deserved more and guess what happened? i found a man who wanted to be with me and pursued me and he even waited for sex, so i told the previous guy see ya later!!!and of course he didnt like that he tried to get me back but only cause he knew we wont be having sex. I am to the point where it has been over a year that i have talked to that guy (and he was my first) and i dont really care to call or talk to him or even think about him but i hope everything is good with him. The relationship that i developed after that guy was the best!i never felt so secure with a man and im glad it wasnt my fwb guy. So move on girl, there are better men out there!
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