Author highlibidolady Posted December 29, 2010 Author Posted December 29, 2010 ... in the meanwhile, go find some other guy to bone. hahaha. I have to admit I have been having sexual fantasies about this guy... I have a pretty active imagination but it won't come to fruition
runner Posted December 29, 2010 Posted December 29, 2010 yep, been there. sucks monkey balls. until you find some other guy, that active imagination could probably use a shiny new vibrator
Author highlibidolady Posted January 3, 2011 Author Posted January 3, 2011 It is seriously weird between us now. We started back at work again today... Now I'm not so sure that 1) he does NOT like me and 2) that he even knew that I liked him in the first place. Actually I have no idea what is going on. Maybe he is really dense (but I think not) and/or has serious shyness issues.. I don't really know... *sigh* I'm trying to get him out of my mind but it's hard when I still see him at work.
DuskCrush Posted January 9, 2011 Posted January 9, 2011 Sounds like you're backtracking and right back to square one. Stop analyzing things and relax...look for new hobbies and things to do. See the thing is-maybe he likes you a little but not enough to ask you out on a date or make any real move. You can't build a relationship on a 'little like'...so try your best to avoid him and find someone new to like.
Author highlibidolady Posted January 10, 2011 Author Posted January 10, 2011 ARGH this is driving me nuts. Tonight he seemed to make more of an effort to talk to me. Usually it's me who goes up and talks to him first. I think you may be right but I just can't 'read' him and his feelings/intentions.... I try to forget about him and then I see him and think he's absolutely gorgeous.
DuskCrush Posted January 10, 2011 Posted January 10, 2011 (edited) Hilibidolady--you're wasting too much of your time and effort on this and It's Not Making You Feel Good. It's January now. It's 2011. Crushes are intense but you really need to ween yourself off this situation. It sounds like he's a little interest but not that interested that's why your having a hard time gauging his interest. He would have done way more and utilize every opportunity if he was highly interested in you. There are a lot of gorgeous guys out there...ones that will want to date you. Just back away now. Maybe the push/pull might increase his interest in you/maybe not. Good luck. Edited January 10, 2011 by DuskCrush
shayan Posted January 11, 2011 Posted January 11, 2011 next time don't hesitate so much. Honestly if you just would've asked this guy out for coffee some time ago you would've avoided all of this pining. some guys are afraid, some not. but there is nothing wrong with a woman taking initiative guys do it all the time.
LeaningIntoTheMuse Posted January 16, 2011 Posted January 16, 2011 The truth is, you're too invested in this, and he isn't sending out clear signals. He may be shy, he may be not, but even if he was you'd be picking up on a vibe by now. Even when I've had enormous crushes on girls before, it hasn't lasted for months. I feel out how she feels, and if she's receptive, I approach. If not, I move on. It just sounds like this guy is just not interested. I'm sorry.
Author highlibidolady Posted January 20, 2011 Author Posted January 20, 2011 You'll be happy to know I've stopped pining for this guy now and don't talk to him much anymore... Unbeknownst to me, another guy I work with (but almost never see) told me that he liked me from the first time we met and was very clear about his intentions. No beating around the bush or being shy...
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