I'm glad that I ended things

[northern_sky]

A feeling of relief has been washing over me today. It wasn't what I was expecting. It reminds me of the feeling I get when I abstain from junk food and experience momentary disappointment followed by a punch of empowerment.

 

This was really the right choice for myself.

 

One thing that pushed me over the edge that I didn't talk about on here was looking at his old fb wall posts last week. I figured out who two of his other exes were, and I wasn't impressed by their...intelligence. It really surprised me. I wasn't sure whether to be annoyed or amused. It's like, "really, that's all you value?" Also made me realize that he probably didn't value my deeper qualities or the stuff we had in common. He's a tool.

 

Anyway, I'm moving on. I feel more confident. I have also realized that when I was seeing him I was totally neglecting my social life. I had started to hole up in my room doing work all night and would blow off my roommates when they invited me to stuff.

 

The fog is lifting. And for the time being, I'm kind of happy not to have a boyfriend. I'm all guyed out. It sounds smug, but I feel like I have more to offer than most guys in the area have to offer me. And I don't have the time right now to put the effort in it would take to find somebody who could actually add anything to my life. I'm just going to focus on making my life kick a*ss.

Edited December 3, 2010 by northern_sky

[callingyouuu]

And for the time being, I'm kind of happy not to have a boyfriend. I'm all guyed out. It sounds smug, but I feel like I have more to offer than most guys in the area have to offer me. And I don't have the time right now to put the effort in it would take to find somebody who could actually add anything to my life. I'm just going to focus on making my life kick a*ss.

 

I've been on a self-imposed dating hiatus for a little while now. It takes a little while to get used to, but it's rewarding if you can stick with it.

[strength-abounds]

Way to be Sky.

 

I feel the same way. Chasing women that are quite frankly not what I want is a drain. I am abstaining from the dating game for awhile to search for more self reflection. Thanks for your post.

[nice-easy-day]

Good for you! I've always felt the same way after a relationship ended and the fog lifted. I only wish the fog would lift sooner rather than later.

[JaneDoe35]

You sound 'peaceful'. Now that you have relaxed....who knows what will happen.