gkwolfman84 Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 The new co-worker is my ex GF, the girl who I cheated many years ago. We were 18 year-olds at the time (now I'm 25). She caught me cheating on her with the OW (we were laying around, done with the act) and I didn't never even said sorry to her because it was pointless. There was nothing to explain so I left. I was beyong mortified and couldn't stand the look on her face. I never forgot that tearful expression nor her yelling at me saying how could you do this to me. I left and cut off contact with her though, but always wanted to apologize for what the damage I caused. Now years later should I finally talk to her and apologize or quit my job?
i'm not the one Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 i think that the mature thing to do would be to apologize to her. of course everyone is different and she might be the type who would rather never hear from you again. but i'm a girl and i would appreciate an apology in her position, especially if you truly do feel guilty about the pain you caused her. she probably has never forgotten how bad that felt when she caught you and it might be nice for her to hear that you've never forgotten how bad it was either.
Bryanp Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 You now have the opportunity to man up. You should sincerely apologize to her. It is the absolutely the very least you should do and I think you know this also. Good luck.
Kinder-Horror Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 As a person who has been the girl in this EXACT scenario (maybe you are my ex? where do you work? haha), I would say apologize - or do nothing. You can apologize now, which she may see as selfish on your part (trying to clear your conscious), or mature (finally owning up to your actions) - but either way, you are opening up the past. Which, as long as she actually healed from it - should be fine. I would apologize. No reason to do some grandiose act of quitting.
Author gkwolfman84 Posted December 9, 2010 Author Posted December 9, 2010 She did said thank you after I apologized and from then we talked for a while (just found out she's engaged now). The whole time she thought I didn't really care when getting caught and leaving without any explaining. It turns out she would have been willing to work it out if I had not walked away and put an effort towards rebuilding the relationship. I can't believe I was so selfish then and quickly assumed she wouldn't have taken me back. I'm such a loser but wish her the best and hopefully she marries someone worthy who'll treat her better than I did. At the same time I'm currently dealing with getting cheated on as well. I just dumped my current now ex GF for that reason.
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