lovelydemon Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 I guess I just need to vent cause this is gonna be one of those "why did he disappear?" threads. Anyway... We met online. Added each other on facebook and had 3 great (huge red flag, I know ) dates. At the end of the last date he asked to see me again and we set on a day couple of days later. The next morning i get a text from him saying that he is not feeling well, probably coming down with a flu, and is going to see a doctor on monday to which i reply that it sucks, hope he feels better. I haven't heard from him for a couple of days after and he never confirmed the date we set before. I sent a text asking how he was feeling and never got a reply. After this, being an avid LS reader, I gave up on him and deleted him from facebook, cried and got over him. Done deal. 10 days after that i get a message from him on facebook again, saying that i got it all wrong, he was just really sick and even a couple of days in the hospital, that he didn't ignore me intentionally. I asked him what was wrong and he didn't reply for another 5 days and when he did there was no explanation but a story that his phone is broken too, and he really wants to take me out again and will give me a call as soon as he gets new phone. We added each other on facebook again. So tonight i checked his facebook page, it says nothing about being sick, numerous posts about going to the gym and looking forward to some awesome nights. And last but not least lol, how girls are so dumb and cant see a NICE, RESPECTFUL GUY when they meet one! Seriously??!!! I guess the question is 1. why bother writing to me if he is clearly not interested? (btw he didn't initiate any physical contact in those 3 dates) 2. Do I seem like a complete moron that is not gonna see through all this BS? 3. Is that what the nice guys are like? If all of the nice guys are like this one....idk, I have no desire to meet anybody right now. thanks for reading
Cracker Jack Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 It's not how "all" nice guys are. This guy just acts this way by his own accord. Anyway, he doesn't sound like someone you'd want to continue wasting time with, anyway, so.
Surrealist Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 No typical nice, or rather genuine, guys are not like that at all. Dump this sack, seriously he is not worth your time or effort. Don't make someone your priority when they only make you their option.
D-Lish Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 When actions don't match the words, the words are meaningless. I agree with S, don't ever make someone a priority that only sees you as an option. It sounds like he's multi-dating- and not actually a "nice guy" at all. Just some dude playing the field.
Author lovelydemon Posted December 3, 2010 Author Posted December 3, 2010 I just wish he would stop writing to me. I really liked him before all these crazy stories. And when he told me he was at the hospital I even felt bad! Why is it always like that, that when I think I'm finally over someone, they have the urge to remind me of their existance
Lots0fLove Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 If was interested he would have called u and kept u informed on his so called sickness, than for him to not call u in such a long time and all of a sudden and call u and make u think ur looney for thinking wrong about ur situation with each other he must be dumb cause u were right. and when he posted that status it was merely about another woman that he may have dated and has brushed him off hey Karma is a biotch lol.
Author lovelydemon Posted December 3, 2010 Author Posted December 3, 2010 Thank you so much for the reply guys, I agree with everything you said. Musemaj11: He is self-proclaimed nice guy, that's obviously how he seems himself and sees nothing wrong with his lies. So the next question I guess is: What do I do IF he calls? Do I listen to what he has to say? Do I confront him? Do I just not pick up and ignore any (if) messages? The curious part of me wants to hear what he's got to say. On the other hand, I really want to minimize the damage his behavior is doing to me and move along asap. What should I do?
O'Malley Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 Don't make someone your priority when they only make you their option. By responding to his contacts, you will illustrate to him that you consider him a priority. Opening yourself up to more of the same behavior. You're not going to get the answers that you want from him; what you will get is more vague excuses about illness, non operating phones, being 'busy'. Who knows, maybe he was rescuing a bus load of nuns off of a cliff side in Argentina....Silence is your best response to him.
jerbear Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 Thank you so much for the reply guys, I agree with everything you said. Musemaj11: He is self-proclaimed nice guy, that's obviously how he seems himself and sees nothing wrong with his lies. So the next question I guess is: What do I do IF he calls? Do I listen to what he has to say? Do I confront him? Do I just not pick up and ignore any (if) messages? The curious part of me wants to hear what he's got to say. On the other hand, I really want to minimize the damage his behavior is doing to me and move along asap. What should I do? Delete and block him on facebook. Do take a screenshot of the gym, night out, blah blah blah, He'll call you when he figures your on to him and when his phone works. Don't pick up the call and just ignore him. Put a silent ringtone for him and change the name to do not answer. Good thing you didn't get physical with him.
AlektraClementine Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 Thank you so much for the reply guys, I agree with everything you said. Musemaj11: He is self-proclaimed nice guy, that's obviously how he seems himself and sees nothing wrong with his lies. So the next question I guess is: What do I do IF he calls? Do I listen to what he has to say? Do I confront him? Do I just not pick up and ignore any (if) messages? The curious part of me wants to hear what he's got to say. On the other hand, I really want to minimize the damage his behavior is doing to me and move along asap. What should I do? Delete him and move on. Anyone who is the source of your crying after only 3 dates and anyone who has caused this much nonsense after a short amount of time is a waste of your time. If you continue to entertain him, you'll be soliciting A LOT of advice from loveshack.
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