hydorclops Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 Flesh eating virus, I like your argument. I want to know more. Can you give us a reading list? Not just about sex, but about evolved human nature in general.
Els Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 To the OP: There ARE women who like to have casual sex. Evidently none of them are having it with YOU. LOL, touche.
Woggle Posted December 4, 2010 Posted December 4, 2010 and if the FWB thread was any indication, men seem to be more judgmental about women who have slept around anyhow. They were very vocal about considering them to be damaged goods, only worthy of a quick poke and nothing more. If you were a man would you consider a woman that slept around to all of a sudden be able to change and be a good partner? Try to look at this with a man's point of view. There are plenty of standards a man has to live up to in order to be considered attractive so why should be any different for women?
zengirl Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 (edited) If you were a man would you consider a woman that slept around to all of a sudden be able to change and be a good partner? Try to look at this with a man's point of view. There are plenty of standards a man has to live up to in order to be considered attractive so why should be any different for women? Why would you think that a man could sleep around and then change to be a good partner then? Personally, I look at a person's past, of course, but it depends on a lot of factors. Not just the number of partners. I wouldn't date anyone who didn't value safety in sex, who hadn't evolved to value monogamous, committed, emotionally invested sex (if in his younger years he had some flings, when he was figuring stuff out, that's cool by me), and who wasn't capable of being faithful, historically. . . meaning not only am I not interested in men who cheated on former partners, but I don't want to be a guy's first serious girlfriend either. No interest in being the first pancake. But, really, to the premise of this thread: Casual sex comes in so many forms. Many women are interested in it, depending on where they are in their lives. Many women are not. Men are less likely to turn it down, because of the way they're socialized, but there are also plenty of men who aren't really into casual sex and who find it less interesting than sex with someone they care about. Edited December 6, 2010 by zengirl
Eeyore79 Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 A guy can stick his penis in me and have an orgasm pretty easily. I need a bit more effort from the guy in order to reach orgasm, and casual sex partners generally aren't prepared to put in the effort. That means there's nothing for me to gain from casual sex, because I won't achieve orgasm, so why should I bother doing it?
Woggle Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Why would you think that a man could sleep around and then change to be a good partner then? Players don't make good partners either.
zengirl Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 Players don't make good partners either. Fair enough, Woggle. As I said, I don't necessarily disagree entirely; for me, it's about the bigger picture and the trends I see in a man, rather than the number.
112233 Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 I'm a molecular biology student, and evolutionary science goes hand in hand with my major. I've learned that guys just have to live with it and find ways to work around it. But seriously, what gives? You need to pay more attention. You may as well ask why people like sugar and rail against that.
theBrokenMuse Posted December 6, 2010 Posted December 6, 2010 If you were a man would you consider a woman that slept around to all of a sudden be able to change and be a good partner? Try to look at this with a man's point of view. There are plenty of standards a man has to live up to in order to be considered attractive so why should be any different for women? Really has nothing to do with what I am discussing in this thread though. The OP wanted to know why so many women don't want casual sex and the answer is because they aren't wired to want it or that they are trying to avoid the stigma of being looked down upon for it and not just by other women as the OP tried to indicate.
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