Has anyone actually followed the rules, and not got their partner back

[z00m25]

you seem to have a lot of experience and I am wondering what your take on my situation is.

1. I'm a high value guy (good degree, done a lot with my life, handsome etc).

2.Not sure if i fell to pieces. this is where my q is.

 

I had a 6 month relationship where 4 months where long distance. We fell in "love" and told each other it all the time etc. She told me I was the only one for her blah blah you know the whole story already cause its the same as everyone else. But after I made a visit to her 5000 miles away ( Long distance was going to be over in a few more months), she changed the moment I left. Got very cold and told me she had moved on etc. I later found out she had started dating a guy a few days after I left. I know for a fact she wasnt before I left because she just met the guy.

 

Anyway As for not knowing if i fell to pieces. I texted her and told her how hurt i was and called her a liar. Said that I couldnt believe that she would treat me this way. It was about 5 texts over the span of an hour. She responded to them all very rudely berating and insulting me, then she told me to lose her number and never call agian. I told her I wished I had never met her and that was it. That was a month ago. Do you think that is completely losing it or no?

 

3. I think she considered me needy because one of those insulting berating things she said to me when I found out about the new bf was that "i thought all the things I said until i found someone who doesnt constantly need me as a crutch in his life."

 

I don't think i was needy at all. Just wanted her to show some interest and dedication.

 

4. She said I was more physically attracted to me than any other man ever. And that I was more well endowed than any man she has been with. But during our visit she made me feel like **** and I was having trouble getting it up.

She couldnt orgasm never had before even by herself. (she is 22)

So there is a chance that there isn't much desire left after that.

 

So basically my question is should I expect her to have completely forgotten about me already. To not think about me and to not care about me after all this? Or did I handle it well enough (no contact except that one time) and have enough going for me that someday she will be thinking about me and contact me to apologize or whatever. I do not want her back and im moving on pretty quickly after the way she treated me at the end but as anyone would know it would feel good to know that she did care/cares/ has some sort of feelings about me.

 

What do you guys think? I am not sure what I honestly think myself. I could see it going either way.

 

I'm sure she has feelings for you, girls are just retarded and it takes them a while to realize it. When we originally broken up everything seemed perfectly fine but all she said was it was getting worse and worse so we need a break. I was stupid at first begged/pleaded but then found these forums and cut everything out instantly lol (im sure that caught her off guard). It wasn't until 4 weeks later that i finally got a text from her and god was she bitchy i didnt even bother responding til like 4 days later and i let her know how bitchy she was and how i had no desire to talk to her. But yeah as I was saying im sure she has feelings for you, this is the 2nd "break" me and my ex are now taking the first time around when I first initiated contact it was 3 years later and she was like wow i was just thinking about you the other day it was so weird you IMed me, and then a few days later she left her then ex for me and we saw each other basically everyday for 2 years. but now she left again so im right back where i started. and yeah going on a month i think now, its really hard but every day i feel stronger and i learned alot from the first time around.

[RomoGuy]

what do you guys think of this.. we dated for 6 months, everything was perfect and we fell in love hard. We loved spending time with eachother, maby 4 or 5 times a week. She would tell me how perfect I was for her, and even ask me if there were things about her I didnt like, because she wanted to be perfect for me. We would talk about everything together, if I was able to tell something was wrong I would ask her and we would always talk it out. She told me she loves how we always talk about everything and resolve issues, and that sometimes I will have to fish it out of her because she wasnt as open as me. After talking to her on the phone one day I could tell something was wrong. But she wouldnt tell me, and I tried to fish it out of her, but nothing.

 

Next day she doesn't contact me all day until 3pm and invites me to the park where we always hangout,take walks and talk. She basically tells me im not the man for her for some absolutely stupid reasons that she knew i was working on, but not reasons to break up for. Then she starts going on about about issues that I had nothing to do with, like "I want to be able to hangout with my brother whenever" (I encouraged her to hangout with him) and "I want to be friends with everyone" (I never got in the way of this, except when a friend of hers was taking advantage of her, and I told her and she found out it was true and stopped being friends with her) basically she started blaming me or telling me about issues, that I had nothing to do with.. any idea about that?

 

This all caught me out of shock of course, because a few days before this she was talking about marriage with my sisters. So I begged her not to go, I asked for and explanation, how can a man be perfect one day and wrong the next? the answers she gave me were bogus. I asked her if she would be friends, because I told her I wanted her in my life anyway possible and she said yes. And she told me she loves me very much and she is giving my heart back to me.. I told her I did not want it back, and that just how we worked through every other situation we will work through this. And she left.. 2 hours later she texted me saying it was a mistake that she said we can be friends that she doesnt want to hinder what we both need to do. I told her I will respect her decision. She blocked me and everyone I know I facebook. Her whole family loves me and the only person I asked to try to find out more was her sister and her brother but they didnt know she even broke up with me that day, her sister a day later told me she doesnt know anything yet and that my ex told her not to get involved. So with that said, I did not contact any of her family about the issue anymore. I have not contacted her once since the breakup, it has been 1 month.

 

I feel so much better today, each day gets easier. What do you guys think of this? think I will ever hear from her again? How about the way she handled it? blocking me and everyone I know, and not even giving me a legitimate answer as to why she did it IMO...