stoopid Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 I have learned alot reading posts here in various years so I do have some understanding some game.I think. Well met this girl off of OKCUPID last Saturday night.I am 35 she is 30. I met her at a small pub for drinks. As soon as i got there she gave me a hug and was all smiles and gave me alot of IOI's. She would occaisionally touch my arm while talking to me and laughing. Im like nice this is a good sign. I first bought her a drink, then she started buying me drinks. cool! We then went outside for a smoke after about an hour of chatting. Then came back in and we chatted for an other hour. She smiled as she talked to me and made great eye contact just about all night. I then suggested we go to another bar and change the atmosphere. She agreed, and i said would you like to hop in my car and leave your car here, and she said yes without hesitation. The crowd was thick as we were finding our way to the door, so i took the lead, grabbed her hand, while holding her hand she squeezed my hand a couple time? was she showing me a sign? Finally we got to the other bar. There were alot of girls there that knew me and hugs from everyone of them which i thought made me look good for my social status. Im like wow good timing. So after 5 hours of having drinks 2:30 came. We both were just buzzed. She mirrored me as i took sips of my drink, and the way i was standing. When i said i had to go to the restroom she would have to if she had to but she didnt she said. Well anyway, as the bar started closing she said she was getting tired so i brought her back to her car. As i pulled up to her car to let her out she turns in the seat facing me and I kissed her. She didnt pull away, i knew it just felt right from all her body language. It wasnt a make out session and i didnt try to bang her.She said she had so much fun!! and we talked about getting together for this weekend and she reminded me as she closed the door. Well the next day I text her at about 8:30 p.m. and texted her in spanish since we both took in in college and i just wanted to be a little different and told her i had a great time in spanish. No response!! Till 8 am the next morning. I didnt wake up till about 11 am. I then messaged her back and no response from my text. I figure pull away and wait for her text. But nothing although I just said hope your having a good day at work. So now I havent heard from her since that monday 8 am call, so i texted her last night at about 8 p.m. and said Hi Happy Humpday! how is your week going? No response! Just got a text today(thursday) at 12:30.... she said Hi!!what a week!!! how are you?? I didnt text back yet! should I wait? or what is next what should i do? Wondering of her interest level went down since the date? I though about texting her tommorow just to tell her to have a nice weekend and see if she mentions hanging out with me???I really like her. HELP! HELP
humanracer25 Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 You probably had a smiliar experience to me. I think what happens is girls overthink things a lot so maybe she went home and thought "oh that kiss was a bit too quick" or "maybe this whole thing is going too fast". So my advice would be to play it cool I guess, just send a txt saying "yeah had a busy week too, lets meet up again sometime" etc. Don't send txt after txt or it will appear desperate. Good luck.
Author stoopid Posted December 3, 2010 Author Posted December 3, 2010 Yeah everything went so well. Focused on me all night. I have been playing it cool not acting desperate or needy at all. I am sure she has alot of options she is about a 9. I really did want to shove my toungue down her throat but I dont want to just get laid. Maybe im overreacting why she doesnt text me back right away,could it be she doesnt want to act desperate or needy? Attention guys, if you were in my shoes what would you do??
welikeincrowds Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 I would put this back into perspective. It's just one event in 35 years of your life. That date was one night of nearly 13,000 that you've been alive. That girl was just one of many you've known, and 1 of billions on the planet. And they're just text messages. So don't sweat any of it. Take it easy, and make real moves. You don't have to worry as much about what she's thinking. Do what you want to do. By the way, it sounds like what you want to do is ask her out on another date. Therefore I suggest calling her and doing that. As for texting her back, yeah man, sure, hit her up. But you need to get on that next date. And don't try to do that over text message; you'll regret it!
ReadyforLove Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 By your description, I think she likes you. She could genuinely be having one hell of a week or she could be playing games to keep you interested (which is working) It might be too late to ask her out for this weekend (if she is truly playing games, she will not accept a weekend date when we're already halfway through the week). But anyway, try to give her a call tomorrow (after business hours but before 8pm) and see if she is already booked for the weekend. If she is, see if she is available for early next week. Her response should let you know if she is interested or not. Good luck!
sugarmomma Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 Games! I wouldn't ask her out again. When I'm interested in a guy I don't make him wait forever for a return text. Lose her number.
Author stoopid Posted December 3, 2010 Author Posted December 3, 2010 It does seem like games. I could see playing hard to get but this is ridiculous!:oI just got back onto the dating seen after a long relationship. I just thought about replying to her text that she sent last night and say have a good weekend.... because we are supposed to go out on a second date on Saturday night. I would like to see if she brings anything up about it, and if she doesnt oh well at least I will know where i will stand and I will be the better person for sending that text????
LondonS Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 why is everything so difficult? Just send the bloody text and give her time for 2nd date....if she doesnt respond, delete her number... easy
ReadyforLove Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 It does seem like games. I could see playing hard to get but this is ridiculous!:oI just got back onto the dating seen after a long relationship. I just thought about replying to her text that she sent last night and say have a good weekend.... because we are supposed to go out on a second date on Saturday night. I would like to see if she brings anything up about it, and if she doesnt oh well at least I will know where i will stand and I will be the better person for sending that text???? Stop with the text. Call and leave her a voicemail at least. If she returns the call then you know she is into you.
Star Gazer Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 I don't understand how she's playing games. You're texting her at night (8:30 pm) and she's responding the next morning or at noon. Maybe she doesn't receive your texts for a few hours (just like YOU)? Chill dude. Not everyone is married to their phone, and some of your texts didn't call for a response anyway.
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