thezappa Posted December 3, 2010 Posted December 3, 2010 (edited) Hi im new here and I wanted to get this off my chest and get any of your thoughts on my situation. its a bit long so sorry in advance and thanks for reading. Was going out with my boyfriend for a year and sunday week ago he broke up with me. We had a big fight the saturday night before the break up over nothing and had been fighting a bit over the weekend but we made up or so i thought. He said its just something he has to do but isn't sure about it. He sayd he loves me but just doesn't feel like he puts as much into the relationship as me and doesn't know if he wants to. We were both crying on the phone and he wanted me to ring him the next day but I didn't. He then rang me. He said its something he needs to do. No changing his mind as its what he feels right now. He said its really hard but he isn't happy with himself and cant give me what i deserve. He didnt want to do it and put me through so pain but he has too. He also said it wont be the last time we talk or see each other. He said he would contact me soon just needs to clear his head. Last thing he said was he loves me. Then he text me the day after asking how I was. He said he is so messed up about this and that he is ok one minute and sad the next and that he feels terrible for hurting me and then asked to hear from me in a few days. He said he misses me and even used my pet name then told me he loves me. I told him not to tell me he loves me after breaking up with me. He said he needs time and just to give it a week and see where we are then. We both agreed on not changing our facebook status until the week wasover, I found out thst he had the privacy setting on only I could see the relationship status where as no one else could and there i was with mine up for everyone to see. I was so hurt so I told him its over and I dont think i can be with him again and the week was just unnecessary. He said just stop this and give us a week please and then asked if i didnt mind can he call me in a week and if i do to tell him then. He said sorry for changing it and it was a f**k up of a bad decision and that he would just take it off like i had. and that he is just asking for a week, he needs time to realize what he wants and he is sorry and just give him some space please. He said he will probably regret it and the thoughts of never seeing meagain or talking to me again made him cry but this was said the day of the break up(he did it over the phone) He rang after a week of no talking. We talked about our week and had a laugh. its over though..and i dont know why its all confusing. i dont think he knows either. I think it was now because of the fight we had the night before we broke up. His parents kept calling him a failure and loser and that night i was shouting down the phone to him saying his parents were right and he is a **** boyfriend and all this...i didnt mean any of it. I was very drunk. he doesnt seem to want to give it a go...he got me a present. He said the week away was ok but he wasnt happy not having me there and having someone to talk too. We met up on tuesday to give back stuff and he tried explain....all I got from it was that he isn't happy with himself when he is alone and only happy when around me and cant depend on someone else to make him happy. So he wants to be alone and independent and when he is happy with himself then he can make someone else happy.Basically he hates relationships. What I dont understand is if you love someone and as much as he says he does and care about them(he even got me a present) then you want to make it work with them. But I dunno... I had a nice time though after the whole talking about it we decided on one last good laugh together so we reminisced and talked for a few hours and in the end we went our separate ways. I did cry my eyes out on the bus journey home but I couldn't help that. We haven't talked since the meet up so nc for 3 days..any thoughts on my situation? Edited December 3, 2010 by thezappa
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