Hopeful30 Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 I had to find out on my own he wasn't over his ex and was keeping in touch with her behind my back. Yes, I know. He's a douche. Dump him. I should have a long time ago. Why didn't I? Because we have the potential to have an amazing relationship...and I don't want to let him go because of it. So I tolerate his bullsh*t. Him spending everyday with me is no excuse to justify him lying about his ex. He said he doesn't want to be with her. That he is with me and he spends everyday with me. But that doesn't justify talking to her behind my back. Afterwards he acted like everything was okay. Tried to be nice and kissy, I wouldn't let him. I don't understand what he is doing. If he is playing with me, if i'm being a bit overly analytic, if he really is a douche using me as a rebound. I don't know and I'm trying to figure it out. He treats me well but when it comes to emotions, he is inconsistent. Cares one day, doesn't the next. Cuddly one day, not the next. Is this rebound behavior? Sidenote: I'm an emotional and lonely mess. I've been crying everyday for the past little while, because I hate that I found a guy that has every quality that I want in a man, but he doesn't treat me how I want to be treated. Am I expecting too much and moving too fast? Thoughts?
ginastar Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 well how long was he with the ex? and why is he still talking to her?
Author Hopeful30 Posted December 2, 2010 Author Posted December 2, 2010 well how long was he with the ex? and why is he still talking to her? A little over a year and I dont know. He said it was about something important she needed help with, i dont believe him. Why hide it from me then? He knows im not the jealous type, and i would understand.
LessIsMore Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 A little over a year and I dont know. He said it was about something important she needed help with, i dont believe him. Why hide it from me then? He knows im not the jealous type, and i would understand. Red flags everywhere! He is NOT over her.
810 Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 Because we have the potential to have an amazing relationship... i'm sorry that you have to go through this mess but "potential" doesn't guarantee an amazing relationship. it's just a wishful thinking. i've learned it the hard way. A little over a year and I dont know. He said it was about something important she needed help with, i dont believe him. Why hide it from me then? He knows im not the jealous type, and i would understand. sometimes guys don't want conflict or have you think about it more than you should so they hide things from you. to us, it's an idiotic act but to them, they think they're being considered. hope you feel better soon.
Author Hopeful30 Posted December 2, 2010 Author Posted December 2, 2010 i'm sorry that you have to go through this mess but "potential" doesn't guarantee an amazing relationship. it's just a wishful thinking. i've learned it the hard way. sometimes guys don't want conflict or have you think about it more than you should so they hide things from you. to us, it's an idiotic act but to them, they think they're being considered. hope you feel better soon. Thank you 810. I really appreciate it.
ginastar Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 hes not over her. when someone is done, they are done
Author Hopeful30 Posted December 2, 2010 Author Posted December 2, 2010 hes not over her. when someone is done, they are done I know. I confronted him about it and he admitted to me he isn't over her yet. At least he was honest to me about that. So we took our time apart even though he continued to pursue me. It doesn't bother me that they keep in touch, it bothers me that he LIES about it. I was in his position once, I understand where he is coming from, especially in his situation. But why does he lie to me about it? And then brush it off like it's nothing? That's what hurts more.
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