dowdy03 Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 So I am 25, ex is 23. Our relationship lasted around 6 months and she is a very emotional person. I am more reserved but I had strong feelings for her when we first met. We had a strong connection and I started off very open with her. More open than I have ever been with any other girlfriend and she could see that. It kinda felt weird to me but I could tell she loved it. We didn't have sex until about 3 weeks after we met since she was on her period during the second week, and I told her I would wait until she was 100% comfortable. First time we have sex she starts crying after, and I ask her why and she says she basically gave herself to me. Well long story short, I have very strong feelings and believe she can be the one. Before we were official I had 4 or 5 others I was seriously talking to , 3 of them looked better than her, but I chose her because we had that strong of a connection. Getting a good looking woman is not a problem for me but I am at the point I would like to settle down. Well I started to shut off a little emotionally. I am a guy, and I thought showing my affection is paying for almost all of the things we do. I could tell she was really into me because she would tell me things like she would probably slit my tires if I cheated on her or hurt her. I know she still cares about me but the hard part for me is showing that back to her emotionally. We would hang out 4 or 5 times a week, and I will admit, I got a comfortable and didn't try as hard as I should. So she comes over to my house crying saying she doesn't see the emotion in our relationship. I am a shy, reserved person to begin with but I have all this emotion for our relationship even before it was over. I treated her better than any of my past girlfriends, and she knows I will treat her right. Sorry for this long post but my question is should I break down my own barrier and show her how much I care about her, should I let her go and wait for her to POSSIBLY come back to me, or be completely done, no contact and try to move on. If trying to get her back how long should I wait to initiate contact?
confused31 Posted December 2, 2010 Posted December 2, 2010 One of the things to be on the lookout for, is that she is using this as an excuse. Its curious how the relationship goes great, and she's fine with you the way you are, and then all of a sudden isn't? Look, you can try to do whatever you want to do. Fact of the matter is, in alot of cases, girls will find something and use that as the reason for breaking up. It can be to hide the fact that there's someone else she's interested in, or wants to be single, or wants to date, etc. These don't seem like reasons someone with good character would use, and thats why they try and find something to hang their reasoning on. You would think, if she REALLY loved you, she would come to you with these issues before wanting to break up with you. Then if you couldnt deliver, she would end it. I'm just saying be aware, you can do for her what she says she needs, but alot of the time, that just leads to frustaration and makes you look needy.
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